A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have been married for 5 years on my second marriage i love him dearly sex was fantasic before i got pregant with my daughter now 2.He never seems to want sex or if we do its a quick wam ban,which frustrates me as im highly sexual,i purchased toys to help but he is not intrested ive tried talkin and explainin how i feel but i get nowhere,he feels a quick crop is goin to make orgasam and it dosnt.Over the last few months he has wanted me to use my vibator on him anal which at first i felt quite stange but i did he gets turned on so much by this and wants me to use a strap on now i feel he may be gay or bi, do u think im right? help pls Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2007): im in the same boat, i feel as thou im not enough. also hes a member of adult friend finders and looks at men, women and transvestites. when we have sex it is unspoken it will end in anal penetration of me. now he has bought tools and a strap on for me to use on him. i feel sooo bad and small. seven months ago he cheated on me with a woman and since being caught (i put a tape recorder in the car as he was leaving for the video store)just two months ago he tells me a man who has an affair with another woman than his wife is gay.just three months ago i came home late from work he accused me of cheating started a fight so badly the popo came and arrested me for battering him, i bite him to get him off me. the question is does he love me yes he does and i love him but can i stay with a man s deceptive as he is . can i live a life with him knowing he is thinking of men along with women and tv? no i cant no matter how much i love him he has made me crazy and paranoid
A
male
reader, Blue Rat +, writes (13 February 2007):
Great answer from AskEve. Can't top that for a spot of advice! Hell of a way to find out, too!
...............................
A
female
reader, AskEve +, writes (13 February 2007):
 I suggest you try "role play" where you are the boss and he is the submissive. He has got to do EVERYTHING you say and that includes of course you giving him anal. If you're clever you'll find out for yourself whether he's gay or not! If YOU are the boss then he must answer whatever you ask him. TELL him to get on his back and spread them (he'll love it.) Perform anal on him and tell him "I bet you love that." Play it out and ask him "bet you wish this was a male am I right slapper?" See what he says, if he doesn't answer you then give him a slap on the thigh, you're the boss remember ;o) and ask him again! Carry on in this vein and you'll be amazed what he'll tell you.
I'm sorry to be so direct but if you want to get to the bottom (oops... excuse the pun! lol) of it then try this and you'll soon know for sure. Feel free to email me if you want to talk about this some more okay?
Eve
...............................
A
female
reader, cd206 +, writes (12 February 2007):
 I wouldn't read into it as far as the fact that he may be gay. Maybe he's finally listening to you and trying to spice up your sex life. Unless you're horrendously uncomfortable with it I say do it! It might be just the kick start your sex life needs.
CD
...............................
A
female
reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (12 February 2007):
 Well, it's possible. It's possible he might be....
But, also he might just be kinky. Tons of guys like ass play - some won't admit it, because people will assume they're gay. But, lots of guys are into that.
How is he with YOU, aside from sex? Is he romantic, is your relationship still good and sturdy aside from your sex life? Does it SEEM like he's still attacted to you? Does he kiss you on a regular basis? If he's avoiding any kind of romantic or intimate contact all together, there's something that's going on in your marriage that needs to be attended to.
This one I'm not sure about. Whether or not he's gay... well, I don't know the guy. Maybe he is or maybe he's kinky. But, if he seems withdrawn in more areas than just your sex life, it's time to concentrate on what's really going on in your marriage, and how can you fix it?
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
...............................
|
