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writes:I need help with something, it's been bugging me for a while. How do I know if I'm bisexual? I've never had a girlfriend and I've never had a boyfriend but I have had romantic feelings for both at one point. How do I know? and what do I do?!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): Don't freak out. Teenagers commonly feel attracted to their own sex as well as to the opposite sex. This does not definitely mean they are straight or gay or bisexual but rather that they are just finding out what and whom they like. Just chill for a bit and please don't jump to any conclusions just yet.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 Hey sweetness,
Everyone else had told you you're normal. You know why? Because you ARE! It's alright to be curious about everybody, and if it ends up you are bisexual - hey! That's awesome! You get twice as many people to choose from! Best of both worlds!
You're young and you've got a lot of living, experiencing and fun to have. And through that fun, those experiences and that living, you'll figure out your sexuality. In the meantime, concentrate on having fun and enjoying everyones company - you don't need to choose right now.
Have fun with your friends - both guys and girls. Take your time and have fun. Once you get into more serious dating, you'll figure yourself out. And remember - you don't need to choose sides! If you like BOTH girls and guys, that's okay! If you pretty much like guys, but there's a few girls who you like too - that's okay! And vice-versa.
You're young and you like EVERYBODY! Goodness, I'd love to be you!
Have fun and enjoy it all while you can, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, cd206  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 When you're young it's 100% normal to have feelings for girls and boys. One or the other usually fades away as you get older. You're just curious right now. Trust me on this and don't date for a while, just enjoy spending time with girls and guys as friends and hopefully one attraction will quickly override the other.
CD
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 February 2007):
Its completely normal and common to have feelings towards other girls. It could just be that you look up to her or think shes cool or wish you were like her. Your sexuality will be clear to you eventually, it may feel like your going mad at the moment, but after alot of thought and boyfriends you should know then. You can message me if you want to talk about it more x
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reader, Carina  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 Okay, the first thing to be aware of is that it's perfectly normal at your age to have romantic feelings towards other girls. It's kind of as if your psyche needs to test the waters and make a decision. Generally people go for heterosexual sex in the end but sometimes they find they're gay. This can take a while. I would say at this stage your body and mind are not ready to make that decision. If you read up on puberty you'll find it's a very normal dilemma. I'd suggest you wait for a couple of years until you're at an age where it's easier to identify your feelings. If you're still undecided at that stage, then seek advice again. In the meantime enjoy all your friendships and don't worry about it!
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