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*aby blue fairy
writes:ok my mum h8s me this may seem lyke all 13yr old girls goin through a stage but she really does im sic of tryin wif her any more and i think her and my dad r spilittin up (agen) so ill just live with him is it too late to even bother wif my mum nw she does my ead in all the tyme i know i sound hash but if only you new its not physical its just her words how she sez things i dnt know y im writin all this i doubt no1 can help but if yoo thinkyoo can plzplz dooo thanx Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve +, writes (16 February 2007):
 Hi Blue,
I'm sorry to hear your mum and dad might be splitting up. It must be horrible for you. I can understand you saying that you don't think you and your mum are getting on just now but think of all the pressure she's under with her and your dad arguing all the time. You're obviously too young to know the reasons why they are splitting but she's very much under pressure and will probably be saying things to you that she doesn't mean.
I would try and by your mum's friend just now, god knows she'll need one if your dad leaves. She probably feels a rubbish mum, hopeless and worthless. She really needs your support right now. See if you can help her around the house more, ask her if she wants to talk... make her a coffee and tell her she looks tired, put an arm around her shoulders and tell her how much you love her. I think if you were to do that you'd see a different side of her. She's trying to keep it all together here and it's hard to be a wife and mother some times. She'll really appreciate it, trust me!
Eve
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reader, baby blue fairy +, writes (14 February 2007):
baby blue fairy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionerm i didnt want to go in2 details and im crap at english so y bother its nt a lesson thanx 4 the advice everyone else and yoo
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reader, cd206 +, writes (13 February 2007):
 I don't want to tell you it's just a stage because I remember how condescending I found that at your age when I was having problems with my own mother. Believe me, throughout my teenage years she made me feel so incredibly worthless I often felt like moving out and if I'd had options like you have then I probably would have. The thing is though it does pass in 99% of cases. You are pushing your luck a little bit right now which is normal when you're 13. You want to start being treated like an adult but your mum is unwilling to accept this.
This probably isn't the most mature thing I can tell you to do but it helped me get through the difficult years. Whenever my mum told me I was fat or stupid or whatever I just said "Yeah mum you're right" and stopped listening. Believe me it really winds them up when they're trying to pick a fight and you don't let them!
CD
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reader, childof1981  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 I think you first step should be to revise your post to use proper English so there is no ambiguity in what you mean. Second, give us more details with the issues between your mother and yourself. You were vague and did not give us the context of your situation and we will need that to give you reasonable advice.
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