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writes:Hi,I'm 18 and dating a guy who's a bit older than me (he's in his mid 20s). So far everything's been fantastic. My family and friends approve so there aren't problems there.The one person who doesn't approve is my dad. When he found out about my boyfriend, he hit the roof. My dad is a scary sort of guy, he's got a terrible temper and anger management issues. I love him to death, but he can be very scary sometimes.He's going to be meeting my boyfriend soon and frankly I'm extremely worried. I know that no matter what I say to my Dad, he will not be on his best behavior. He'll say things like, "Why can't you get a girlfriend your own age?" or "Why are you hanging out with a teenager?"I don't know what to do. First of all, not to sound immature, but I find it a bit annoying that my Dad is barely in my life at all (parents are divorced) and he maybe calls me once a month or visits once a year, yet he thinks he has the divine right to tell me who to date. Just a pet peeve I guess.So I need advice, should I even let them meet? Knowing my Dad, it'll be disastrous.
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reader, xBadabingbadaboomx +, writes (12 February 2007):
 I wouldnt worry about it. Im 17 and my bf is 34 - wow thats going to be fun!! hahaha Oh well at the end of the day if ur happy in ur relationship then dont worry what other people think EVEN if it is ur dad thats unhappy about it, he should be happy that ur happy - with someone who doesnt treat u badly - if he cant see that then he needs to open his eyes...
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (11 February 2007):
 I think I see why your parents are no longer married.
I think your best course of action is just to prepare your bf for the meeting and let it go.
He bound to meet him eventually anyway especially if at some point you decide to marry this guy. My father in-law was no picnic either and I knew him before I even met my wife.
So even though the meeting might drag your bf over a few rocks and high places it will probably be for the better because then there is no reason for secrecy or avoidance and your bf may have a little better insight on you and your feelings. Hope it works out well. Doc.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (11 February 2007):
 Speak to your boyfriend. All guys are scared about meeting their girlfriend's dad but knowledge is power and if he is prepared to answer questions like why are you dating a teenager he can prepare an answer. Let him know that there is no pressure for your Dad to like him. After all you're 18 now and your dad can't forbid you from dating anyone you want to so although I think you should warn your Dad to behave himself don't let him get you or your boyfriend down. It's the way you feel about each other that's important.
CD
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reader, kenny +, writes (11 February 2007):
 I don't think that it is a big age gap between you and your boyfriend. i know he is your Father and he loves you, but you can't let his comments come between you and your partner.
If you are really worried about them meeting for fear of your father saying someting derogatory torwards your boyfriend then i would say don't let them meet. If he does meet him it sounds like your fathers comments could be quite upsetting, and this will put unessesary tention on your relationship.
Good luck x
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