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I have really fallen for my friend but am scared to tell her in case it ruins our friendship. Any advice?
Q. i have fallen for a friend that i have known for ages. we grew up together and recently my feelings for her have grown to the point where i can't stop thinking about her. we are really close, even our families think we are seeing each other. i want ...
A. 15 February 2007: I think you're too old now to ruin a friendship just if the object of your affection doesn't feel the same way. Yes it will be embarassing for a few seconds if she rejects you but then it will be over and things will go back to normal. My guess is ... (read in full...)
Any ideas what to get my boyfriend of 3 years for his 25th birthday?
Q. its my bf's 25th b'day in about a week and I have no idea what to get him, we have been together 3 years and Im sick of getting the same thing every year (clothes and alcohol), anyone have any tips you can give when buying something different for ...
A. 15 February 2007: I don't know what your budget is but you say he likes electronics and building things. How about a remote controlled build it yourself plane or car or something? That would be a thoughful gift.
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I keep pretending to be someone else on the net. How do I get past this?
Q. I am a nice person don't get me wrong. I have a big heart and when i go to the store, i buy other people things when i don't have to and i do things to make them happy but when i was like 13-16 or 17, i tryed getting into peoples emails or screen ...
A. 15 February 2007: I guess you need to stop this immediately. It's not that it's wrong, although it's not the most healthy behaviour, but more that it's not fair to invade peoples privacy in this way. I have an online diary and recently I found out that a good friend ... (read in full...)
Is there hope for our relationship? I'm totally stressed out and don't know what to do for the best.
Q. Hi everyone. I need some help because I'm so confused, heartbroken and I feel as though I'm falling apart. Last week my boyfriend of 3 1/2 yrs told me he needs "space, can't be in a relationship, doesn't want a commitment" I took this as a really ...
A. 15 February 2007: You could try telling him that you don't want sex with him until you're back in a relationship since it's making you love him again and you're trying to supress those feelings. To be honest it does sound a little like he can't be bothered to do the ... (read in full...)
Why do I stress out all the time when I see him looking at other girls?
Q. My boyfriend ("Dee") and I have been together for over a year. We recently decided to take a break. We told each other we'd remain faithful, we just need to fix our problems. I have this thing where I always ask Dee if he checks out other girls and ...
A. 15 February 2007: It's not in your head. All guys look at other ladies, just like all ladies look at other guys. It's natural. It doesn't mean anything. It just means we're appreciating that someone is attractive. This doesn't mean you love your partner any less. ... (read in full...)
Why is my dad being like this? What have I done wrong?
Q. My problem is to do with my father. In Sept 2005 he started being horrible towards me, i am married with 2 kids. My father had to come over when it suited him (Wednesday's at 4pm) he was never late. One Wednesday afternoon i phoned him at work to ...
A. 15 February 2007: It does sound like vry strange behaviour, especially since you can pinpoint the moment it all went wrong and it doesn't seem like a good enough reason for your father's behaviour. You asked for people who have been in a similar situation to respond. ... (read in full...)
Do i give up on 3 years of hard work for the chance of finding someone who thinks i deserve more and appreciates me? Help!!!!
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and for a long time now things have been slowly going from bad to worse. he is obsessed with music and has his own home studio, he spends a hell of a lot of time on his music and it's now got to the ...
A. 15 February 2007: What about a room in a shared house? Communal living has its ups and downs but it would be preferable to the situation you're in and in most towns and cities you can find rooms for £60 a week which is completely doable on a student loan and a part ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy at work. Should I go for it?
Q. I am working very closely with a male collegue and what started out to be a bit of fun seems to have gone further than that. There is a 11 year age gap and i am finding myself thinking about him all the time, i am the older one i keep telling mys...
A. 15 February 2007: I guess my main comment about your post is that we're always at our most truthful when we're drunk. Because of the age gap I think you have to wait for him to make the first move if he has changed his mind since the Christmas party. I know this will ... (read in full...)
She sent nude pictures to another guy, now SHE'S acting like the victim!!!
Q. My girlfriend of 4 years met a patient of hers that she started liking. She went out to lunch with him and 30 days after that she started sending him nude pictures of herself. I've been very faithful to her, despite her very spoiled selfish attitude ...
A. 15 February 2007: Unfortunately some people are capable of thinking only of themselves and it sounds like you've been unlucky enough to meet one of them. You're better off without her which is something I think you know but haven't accepted yet but you'll get there. ... (read in full...)
should I ask him out? I don't know what to do?
Q. hi i am really interested in this guy i no at school we talk or even smile at each other i have asked him out before but he said no i am really attracted to him all i want to do is be with him please help what should i do?...
A. 15 February 2007: Unfortunately you can't change someone's mind when they say they don't want to be with you. All you can do is stay close to him and continue to be his friend in the hope that he might one day change his mind.
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I fancy my teacher at school and heard she's leaving soon. I'm devestated! How can I get over this feeling?
Q. I really don't know what to do. I really fancy a female teacher at my school and I have for around 2 years now. She is leaving my school now and when I found out I cried and cried because I didn't want her to go, I need advice to get over it, beca...
A. 15 February 2007: I feel like this woman has become a role model to you as well as a teacher, someone you admire and want to be like. Just because she's not there anymore doesn't mean you can't still try to be like her. Crushes at your age are so normal and they will ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about masturbating and watching porn? Is there anything I can do?
Q. Hi, I’m a guy who’s 24 years old and still a virgin. I’m abstaining from sex till marriage but I have a problem I’m worried about. At a young age before I made the decision to abstain from sex till marriage I really got hooked on watching porn at a ...
A. 15 February 2007: I think watching porn can be addictive and in your case potentially difficult because you'll start to get an idealised idea of women. Unfortunately very few of us look like and do what these women do. As for masturbating I bet there's not one other ... (read in full...)
How do I hold her hand and kiss her? I'm going on a cinema date with her.
Q. i'm goin on a date with this girl. we goin cinema. how do i hold her hand and kiss her? i dont know if she likes me! i dont wanna scare her...
A. 15 February 2007: Okay, let's work on the holding hands part first since I'm guessing from your post that you're quite young. Therefore there's no need to rush. Holding hands is easy but needs to be approached carefully. If her hand is in touching distance lightly ... (read in full...)
How can i get my girlfriend to try anal sex and three somes?
Q. How can i get my girlfriend to try anal sex and three somes, these are my fetishes and would like to fulfil them. I've asked her and asked her but she keeps changing subject when i mention them. How can i approach her with the question? ...
A. 15 February 2007: You can't really. Rule number one is that you should never do anything sexual that makes you feel uncomfortable. Ever. By changing the subject she's showing that she doesn't want to do these things.
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Can anyone help me with a question I have about health?
Q. Hi, I have a general health question just wanted some advice please?? I have bad water retention and heard that dandelion root is a good herbal remedy for that, I bought the capsules and the label says I can either take the capsules or empty a ...
A. 15 February 2007: I don't know anything about herbal medicines but I can tell you from my over the counter medicine training that opening the capsule will give you quicker results since your body doesn't have to dissolve the capsule first. However always check the ... (read in full...)
He left me twice for two other womanand keeps coming back! What do I say to him?
Q. Well, I know the answer to this seems obvious to everyone else, but I really need to hear it. i was with a man for 3 and 1/2 years, we broke up once for 6 months and he dated someone else, he also spent a ton of money on her snd took her to Mexico, ...
A. 14 February 2007: He's doing it because he's run out of alternative options. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh. Have you noticed that if he can be with someone else he is? He just wants to be with you because it's better than being alone. You deserve SO MUCH BETTER than ... (read in full...)
This boy asked me out and I said no, now I'd like to date him.
Q. dear cupid, i'm 14 and about six months ago this boy who i've known for like 8 years asked me out. i told him no because i thought i didn't want a boyfriend and at the time i didn't. we don't talk at school anymore and i miss talking to him i...
A. 14 February 2007: If you don't talk anymore it might be a case of missing him as a friend rather than wanting to date him so concentrate on re-establishing your friendship first of all and hopefully making the transition to dating if that's still what you want should ... (read in full...)
Has anyone got any tips for moving on?
Q. I got dumped about a week ago, but I'm finding it really hard to let go of my ex. I can't stop thinking and hoping that we'll get back together. Has anyone got any tips for moving on?...
A. 14 February 2007: First of all stop putting yourself down. It's been a week! I once heard it takes one and a half times the length of the relationship to properly get over it. When I'm feeling down about breaking up with someone I give myself a set amount of time to ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and my boyfriend and I really want to have sex but I'm afraid he won't "fit" in me.
Q. need some help please. have been with my bf for around 4 months. i am a virgin, he isnt. we really want to have sex but i am scared as i have heard it hurts, a lot! also (not to sound too graphic) but when he has fingered me he has said it feels ...
A. 14 February 2007: The first couple of times you have sex you probably won't enjoy it to be honest with you. Most guys don't know what they're doing and as you know there will be pain the first time. The pain really isn't that bad. It doesn't last for long and it's ... (read in full...)
How do any of you keep date conversations going without looking stupid?
Q. advice anyone, i have been talking to a friend of a friend for sometime now and i really like her and she really likes me. we have met loads but other people always been there with us. we are going on a date next week and we are both really shy and ...
A. 14 February 2007: I always find it handy to have a few topics in my head that I can bring up if there are any awkward silences. A few good ones are...
Have you been watching that controversial TV programme (fill in name here- I'm british, can't help you) It's rea... (read in full...)
I've been sleeping with my best friend's sister and he doesn't know. Should I tell him?
Q. I've been sleeping with my best friends sister, but he doesn't know. She's 15 and im 17, w'eve been seing each otha secretly now for a few months. I've always been worried thought that he might one day see us togethe and do something. Should i tell ...
A. 14 February 2007: Well..... it's best that this news comes from you rather than someone else but inevitably it will have consequences for you. He might get angry and tell his parents in which case you could be done for rape. It doesn't matter if the sex is ... (read in full...)
I asked a guy out and he said he wasn't sure, he wants to get to know me better, what do I do now?
Q. If you ask a guy out, but he says he's not sure, is that good or bad? i asked this guy out, but he said he's not sure, and want's 2 no me better(at least, thats what i thought he said- i was quite shocked that i had the guts to ask, and didnt really ...
A. 14 February 2007: This is very sensible on his part. You're both so young that being friends before you date is a really good idea. Next step is for you to suggest a day out somewhere where you can chat and get to know each other better. This isn't a date so don't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to break up and get back with me once he sorts out his "problems." What should I do?
Q. i have been dating this guy who seemed to love me a lot for four months and 3 days to valentines day he said he has problems in his life and wanted us to be friends after he's done with his problems we can get back together should i or not ...
A. 14 February 2007: I don't think it's a case of should you or not. He's told you what he wants and I don't think you have an option, apart from the obvious of whether to be mature and give him his time and hope he comes back to you... or kick up a fuss and have a ... (read in full...)
How can i tell if the sperm has reached the egg yet?
Q. me and my boyfriend had sex last night. all of a sudden he stopped and said he nutted inside of me. i asked him again and he said yeah he did but it was a little. then he said you shouldnt be pregnant. when i laid down i felt it starting to come ...
A. 14 February 2007: You can't. It's totally possible that you could get pregnant even if your boyfriend came only a drop and you felt it come out but you won't be able to tell until your period is late at which point you can take a test. Taking one before won't show up ... (read in full...)
I flirted with someone, felt him and he rubbed my breasts, is this classed as cheating?
Q. Hi I need your help, I love my boyfriend to bits, I would do anything for him. Last year I flirted with a guy I knew, my boyfriend is ok with me flirting, but I let him touch my breasts and I rubbed him. I NEVER kissed him or had sexual intercour...
A. 14 February 2007: That's not really for us to say. It's for you to say. As far as I'm concerned I could forgive one kiss but nothing more than that but other people can forgive a lot more or less than that! If it only happened once and there's no chance of your ... (read in full...)
what should a married couple do for Valentine's day?
Q. What should a married couple do for Valentines Day? We have been married for 10 years and golly the roses and fancy dinner sound so cliché. We both work early tomorrow so we can’t stay up so late. I just am out of ideas. I bought him the ipod ...
A. 14 February 2007: I guess it depends on what you want to do but the very fact that you're married shows love even if you don't give him something overtly romantic. I suggest a lovely candlelit supper followed by an early night.
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I thought he liked me but he bought my best friend a valentine gift and not me! What do I do?
Q. Hello, I don't know what to do. I've fallen for my best friend's ex boyfriend, i even began to believe he liked me too because of the way he was when he spoke to me. We even made arrangements to kiss but he bought my best friend a valentin...
A. 14 February 2007: Is it possible that he was just using you to get back in his ex's good books? Or maybe he didn't want to hurt his ex by giving a gift to someone else. There's really no way to know without asking him but remember this... Valentines Day is a stupid, ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her I do love her, but only as a friend?
Q. I have a girlfriend and we have been going out for a couple of months now. She was the one who confessed her feelings to me, and I said I felt the same but now I realise that I do love her - but as a friend. I know it will really hurt her and me if ...
A. 14 February 2007: The important thing here is to act as soon as possible. The longer a relationship carries on for the more in love she will fall. Just gently tell her that you love her so much but that your relationship can't work because you're not in love with ... (read in full...)
I just want to be loved back from him but keep my best friend!
Q. My best friend told me that her 18 year old brother liked me, i liked him too, after a couple of weeks we slept with each other. I went to Spain and while i was away he got a girlfriend when i came back i found about this. He still kept coming o...
A. 14 February 2007: You're right to feel unhappy about this. This guy, however much you like him, is a slimeball. He's using you and he's using this other girl too. Your best friend feels stuck in the middle between you, his girlfriend and her own brother. Talk to her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to spend some time travelling with the boys first before I join him, should I be worried?
Q. hi, my boyfriend-26 is goin away soon, i will be joining him after a couple of months coz he wants to spend some time travelling with the boys first... should i be worried? i keep hearing of people who go away and then ring up their other half and ...
A. 14 February 2007: I think the stories you read are nearly all of people who go on holiday to get some space and some time to think away from their partners and decide they actually quite enjoy not being around their partners all the time. Your case is completely ... (read in full...)
Problems with my friends-they misinterpret what I tell them! What should I do?
Q. I think my friends have interpreted some of my comments the wrong way, yet when I try to explain they just deny that I meant that. First, my friend told me she went for an audition for S CLUB JUNIORS, a mid-late teens pop group, and I said that I d...
A. 14 February 2007: The problem here is two-fold. One is that your friends are being oversensitive and the other is that it wouldn't hurt to say things in your head before you say them out loud so that you can hear how they might be interpreted. I'm not unconvinced ... (read in full...)
We have a 6 monthold child-so am I wrong to ask for another baby?
Q. me and my husband have been together for a while and he has a child from a previous marrage and one from me he is 6 months old and i want another one i want them close together i only want tos o why not get it all and over with but he does not want ...
A. 14 February 2007: It's lovely to have them close together. However, I strongly suggest waiting until the baby is a year old because being pregnant twice in one year isn't good for you. It puts a lot of pressure on your bones and can eventually lead to osteoporosis. ... (read in full...)
Fallen for my driving instuctor... But he's 30 and I'm a virgin!
Q. Hi During my time learning to drive i got on really well with my instructor. Since passing my test we have been texting flirty/dirty messages. i want to take things futher but he is only up for fun and i am a virgin. he make me feel so good and...
A. 14 February 2007: How do you feel about losing your virginity? For some it's something theyre willing to throw away just to get rid of the damn thing and for others they want to be with someone they care about. I'd suggest going for the latter attitude but if you ... (read in full...)
I'm only 12 but if he finds out I don't think he'll be interested. Should I lie to him about my age?
Q. Hello. Ok i am having trouble with this boy. I really like him but hes 3 years older than me hes 15 and im 12. Do i lie to him about my age?. I met him about 1 week ago. and we talk on msn and everything. We get on great. But im scared that if i ...
A. 14 February 2007: Don't lie about your age. If you want to have a relationship and you're sure you're ready for this then you need to know that honesty is the number 1 thing. Your age might put him off but finding out you lied further down the line will mean he never ... (read in full...)
Should I agree to my husband's threesome Idea? Even if I don't want to?!
Q. I've been married for over 10 years now. My husband has this fantasy about having a threesome. I am deadset against it. He says that it burns a whole in his heart and it is something he is going to do, but he wants to do it with me. Will this ...
A. 14 February 2007: The first rule when it comes to sex is never to do something you're not comfortable with. After all if you wanted to use a strap on and have anal sex with your husband and he didn't want to, you wouldn't push the issue would you? Moreover I'm ... (read in full...)
How can I put back the spark in our relationship? Its like we're not even lovers anymore! Help.
Q. Lost spark. My girlfriend of 3 1/2 years told me that she is considering breaking it off because she feels that we have become more like good friends than lovers. Any suggestions on how to convince her to stay and to reignite the spark?...
A. 14 February 2007: Ask her. Maybe she's referring to the way she feels about you in which case there's not much you can do but if it's something like your sex life has gone to the wall or you're not spending enough coupley time together then those things are easily ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is everything I want him to be except I want him to open up more. Now I'm attracted to this womaniser at work even though he's no good for me. Help!
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months and he's sweet, sexy, good looking and everyting he is supposed to be, but he isn't very good at talking about his feelings. At my work Christmas Party i was feeling a bit neglected and ended up having a...
A. 14 February 2007: I think some guys are just not that comfortable with opening up. You know us girls... we have the smallest problem and we need to talk about it. Guys often want to think things through themselves before rushing into telling someone. It frustrates ... (read in full...)
What's the average number of sexual partners for a 17 year old in the UK?
Q. im 17 and only slept with 1 person, all my mates have slept with about 5 by now lol whats the avergae for a 17 year old in the UK?...
A. 14 February 2007: Well since 17 is the average age in this country to lose your virginity, combined with the fact that most people are liars about their number of sexual partners at your age I'd say one comes close enough! Sleeping around is not cool anyway. You're ... (read in full...)
New bf is kind to me and old bf abused me. Why do I like someone who's was so mean to me more than someone who's so good to me?
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend 4 months ago he treated me really badly and hurt me physically and mentally. i have a new boyfriend and he is really kind and loving, but i have 2 problems 1) my previous boyfriend was quite aggressive and often went ...
A. 13 February 2007: I think you felt you could change your old boyfriend and you were constantly striving for his affection and to know he loved you, whereas your new boyfriend gives you all those things on a plate so they don't mean as much when you gwt them because ... (read in full...)
Ready to have sex but is there a time in-between periods when pregancy is impossible??
Q. OK. So here's the thing. Me and my boyfriend are totally into each other and have been going out a while now. Anyway long story short, we're both ready to have sex and understand the consequences and stuff, and we're both virgins. We are both of ...
A. 13 February 2007: You're right to be wary about condoms. My parents didn't want kids and ended up with 3 using just condoms. What about the normal pill. That doesn't have the same side effects as the morning after one. Or a cap or a diaphragm or an implant? There are ... (read in full...)
I have had romantic feelings for both genders...How do I know if I'm bisexual?
Q. I need help with something, it's been bugging me for a while. How do I know if I'm bisexual? I've never had a girlfriend and I've never had a boyfriend but I have had romantic feelings for both at one point. How do I know? and what do I do?!?!...
A. 13 February 2007: When you're young it's 100% normal to have feelings for girls and boys. One or the other usually fades away as you get older. You're just curious right now. Trust me on this and don't date for a while, just enjoy spending time with girls and guys as ... (read in full...)
Ready to have sex but is there a time in-between periods when pregancy is impossible??
Q. OK. So here's the thing. Me and my boyfriend are totally into each other and have been going out a while now. Anyway long story short, we're both ready to have sex and understand the consequences and stuff, and we're both virgins. We are both of ...
A. 12 February 2007: There is no such thing as a totally safe time. Girls have even been known to get pregnant during their periods, although the most fertile time is 2 weeks after your period. Using condoms is a good idea but I'd go on the pill too just to be safe.
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