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writes:my ex really did not care to look at other females- I know this because every time we were together and even when females in bikinis passed by he really only concentrated on me and didn't care to look.... he wasnt interested at all... my new boyfriend says he "glances" and looks(when not with me) only at the prettiest of the prettiest.... What i really want is true love (and i seen it plenty of times with diff couples) where a guy loves his pretty gf and simply isn't interested in other pretty faces, sexy this and that... Does Someone like that really exist? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (12 February 2007):
 Honey,
I am completely, head-over-heels in love with my boyfriend. I don't lust after anyone else. I really only have eyes for him. He's the only one I want and the only one I'll ever need.
However. It doesn't mean that when I see a super hot guy, I don't look. It's not like I keep my eyes peeled for hotties all the time - I don't go cruising around looking for gorgeous men to ogle at. But if a hottie crosses my path? You BET I'd look! I'd probably look twice.
I drool over Johnny Depp and Heath Ledger. This is dorky, but Nick Lachey has got the hottest body... mmmm... Doesn't mean I don't think my boyfriend is the most gorgeous creature ever. And I love his body - it is so so sexy. But hey, when Nick Lachey is half naked on the cover of GQ, I'm going to look. And I'm going to love it.
Finding a guy who will never look at another woman again is asking a lot. Or is asking for him to be sneaky about glancing at the Hooter's waitress. You should be lucky you have a boyfriend who absolutely loves you. If my boy didn't look at other chicks sometimes, I'd start to wonder about him. In fact, it'd creep me out.
If you guy gushes over women: "Oh my God, she's goooorrggeeeoouuusss. I just want to bite her and see if she tastes as good as she looks. She's perfect. Oh God, she's perfect." - then yes. You've got every reason to be like, "that's weird. Please stop.".
But looking? You know you're the only girl for him and the most beautiful girl in his eyes. Are you the ONLY beautiful girl in the universe? No. Probably not. You're beautiful to him in a way NO other woman can be. But, a pretty girl passes by, he looks. He probably thinks, "well, she's not as beautiful as my girlfriend, but she is cute". And that, honey, is true love. That is very, very special.
xxIndia
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (12 February 2007):
 Hey there,
I think very similar to you - the love of our life should have eyes only for us and no one else. I have battled with this concept for many years now and right up until late last year I was adament that if I caught my boyfriend of 6 years looking at another woman I would end it. But I kinda got something through my head and it is something I am still coming to terms with. I don't know if that makes me a crazy, obsessive girl or what, but I am trying. You see my boyfriend loves me more than anything, hell we survived 2 years in different countries and we never once doubted the trust in each other. I never even thought he would look at another woman because he had me - the love of his life, why would he need to look at anyone else!!??! But! I figured out that if he is looking that he isn't doing it to hurt me or because I'm not good enough. It is simply human nature to appreciate beauty in all forms. I very much doubt he is looking and thinking 'Yeah! I wonder what sex would be like with her' or anything like that, he is simply appreciating beautiful woman. Who the hell am I to tell him not to do that? I hate it of course because sometimes I find myself watching his eyes to see where he is looking (so bad) but I am seriously trying not to be that girl, ya know? That kind of behaviour will just drive him away and he will feel trapped.
So my advice to you? Go and find your perfect man, because he will be out there. He will have eyes only for you when you do find him, but if he occasionally glances at someone beautiful, don't jump on your high horse and start ranting and raving about why he shouldn't, just let it go and remember he is with you and you are the most beautiful woman to him inside and out. xxx
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (12 February 2007):
 This sounds very similar to a note that I read here before - The girl who had a boyfriend that focused his entire attention on her, 24/7. What happened to that pillar of fidelity?
If you can't stand to have your boyfriend look at anyone else, even when you're not around (how you could control that is beyond me), I'm afraid you're going to lead a very lonely life. People look at each other. It's human nature. They don't have to ogle, but they will look. When I'm with a date, I don't stare at other women, but I may glance around a room and notice other women. That doesn't mean I want to get in their pants. I'm not glancing to see who my next conquest is. I'm always curious to see what kind of people are present, and I may be just checking out the exits in case there's a fire . . . you never know. LOL.
So, to answer your question . . . no, the person you describe doesn't exist.
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reader, melschatbox +, writes (12 February 2007):
 My husband isn't an obvious glancer and I like that!! I give him the same respect. Now, if I'm out with the girls or he's out with the guys I KNOW your more inclined to check out members of the opposite sex. I think what's important is that you appreciate and compliment the one your with. If glancing becomes looking and then oggling then you have a problem.
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (12 February 2007):
 Well since you did say you've seen it plenty of times, they obviously do exist. Must be rare though. But I know myself they exist too so you're not so special in being the only one who's seen them:-P I can tell you that it is very rare though
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2007): Awww come on, everyone window shops now and then, it doesnt mean they go into the shop and buys something!
Your boyfriend is only human, just because his head may turn at a pretty girl doesnt mean he wants to run off with that pretty girl.
After all he is with you isnt he? Looking is fine and something every person should accept, 'look but dont touch'
i have been with my partner for almost 17 years, he looks at other pretty girls all the time, and sometimes, my head will turn at a gorgeous looking man too. But just because i look at another man doesnt mean i want and desire to be with them. i am only human, and me looking at another guy thinking his handsome or cute doesnt really mean a thing.
I trust my partner and he trusts me too, there is no jealousy at all between us because we do love eachother, so when his head turns at a pretty lady, rather than feeling insecure or getting jealous i tend to say yes she is pretty i can see why your head turned and never let it effect us. at the end of the day he is with me, no matter how many pretty girls walk past him and no matter how many times he turns and has a peek at them, he is still with me, and his only human!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut isn't real love when they don't look ever? Even when I'm not there? I know there must be guys who will love only me and not care to look no matter how pretty the female is. That's true love!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (12 February 2007):
 No I don't think they do. I think there are guys who will tell you they don't look at other girls for fear of antagonising you but I think it's natural to find lots of people attractive even when you're with someone. It doesn't mean you don't find your partner more attractive. After all I'm convinced you've watched an Orlando Bloom/Jude Law/Brad Pitt/whoever film and drooled over the male lead regardless of whether you have a boyfriend just because it's human nature. Looking means nothing and I don't think it has any bearing at all on true love.
CD
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