Will a time ever come where I can accept what happened and move on with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi all, Ever since I aborted my unplanned pregnancy, I have felt such a great deal of guilt and sadness. I know this is to be expected but the feeling of resent and anger is becoming too much to handle. My boyfriend hurt me so much during...
A. 29 October 2012: Hi there, I'm really sorry you had to go through all that. I've been through something similar myself and you're absolutely right. He isn't really going to understand how you feel or be any help during the healing process because 1. He doesn't seem ... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable that my daughter with diabetes will inject herself in public. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
Q. Okay, a very tricky question here. About a year ago my 24 years old my daughter suddenly developed diabetes type 1 - yes, type 1 where you have to take insulin - and ever since then she has to take insulin shots 4 times a day. We have no history ...
A. 29 October 2012: I have found that people are very gracious and accommodating when it comes to other people's illnesses/diseases/disabilities. It's just insulin and diabetes is fairly common; most people know what it is and will not be disgusted or offended to see ... (read in full...)
He likes big butts and he can not lie... why does he look if he's got me?
Q. my bf is 10 yrs older and we have a good relationship. BUT he has a habit of looking at big butts of colored/teen women on the internet. So if hes happy why is he doing this? is it because im old and white? i feel as if im not good enough. ...
A. 10 October 2012: Don't be offended, hun. All guys (and women too, I'm sure) look. Some guys are just really bad at being discreet and tactful. He's with you because he likes you and you sure as hell aren't "old". I know my boyfriend loves me so when I did notic... (read in full...)
As a person, she IS my dream girl...but sexually, the attraction is minimal. What can I do?
Q. I don't find my girlfriend that attractive, but I am overwhelmingly happy with who she is as a person. What do I do? My girlfriend and I kind of stumbled into dating each other. We met at a party one night and ended up drunkly hooking up (havi...
A. 14 May 2012: I don't really have any advice to give but I just wanted to say that I'm in a similar situation. My boyfriend and I have had a rather turbulent relationship. We even broke up for over a year and got back together. I do love him and care for him... (read in full...)
Husband watches porn then lies about it!
Q. What to do with husband lying about porn? Ok so..I'm married and have 2 kids. My husband has been lying to me about watching porn. Now the porn isn't really that big of a problem even though I don't care for it because it makes me feel insecure...
A. 14 May 2012: Why does he think it's so important to keep his porn watching habits a secret? Have you told him he shouldn't be watching it or is he just ashamed of himself for watching porn at all?
You need to talk to him and find out why he's lying. There mu... (read in full...)
Husband has lied in the past so am I wrong in not trusting him?
Q. my husband went out of town officially and met an old female batchmate after years. he invited her for dinner as she wanted to meet another male friend. all three are married now. but i felt bad as i was informed only after they all met at venue. my ...
A. 14 May 2012: Honeypie is right.
He definitely should have given you a heads up though I wonder why he felt the need to lie to you about this to begin with. Do you usually stop him from seeing female friends or get easily jealous?
Just give him a little tal... (read in full...)
Am I being petty over my husband's friend?
Q. Hello! So my husband and I were separated for three months and have decided to work things out. While we were separated he was seeing a lady who works in his building. They would go out and hang out and what not. I don't have a problem with tha...
A. 9 April 2012: Are they just friends? If they aren't and did in any way date or have something that was more than a platonic friendship, then I could understand why you'd want this woman out of your lives if you're trying to reconcile. Your husband agreed t... (read in full...)
I feel like he totally missed the boat on the whole chivarly thing.
Q. We had a big snow storm today. After work my car was frozen shut. I called my husband who drives a 4WHD truck to come pick me up. While waiting my boss poured some rubbing alcohol on the door jam and viola it opened. I called my husband but he had ...
A. 6 December 2011: I'm just going to add my 2 cents here. I mostly agree with Basschick. If I were the OP I'd be kind of upset that he took off but only because of how things went down. If my huband had given me the 4WD and then said, "Look honey, are you good wit... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend that I want an abortion? Or just go ahead and do it anyway?
Q. Well... I am 28 years old and have been with the same guy for 10 years... Yes, 10 years. We're not technically married, but do plan to stay together for the long hall. And, I just found out I was pregnant. Obviously we've been being careful over the ...
A. 31 October 2011: I strongly suggest you tell him because it's his child too, and you are in a long-term relationship which means that if you went through with the abortion behind his back, you would have to keep this hidden from him for the rest of your life and ... (read in full...)
I married through love and now it has backfired as he is still messaging the married woman he knew before me!
Q. hey there, My name is senya and i am married for 1 year now.. And i am dating this same guy since 2 years... So basically we are together for 3 years.. My husband was dating a married lady before we meet.. she was married for 2 years when she...
A. 31 October 2011: I really feel for you. I understand that your parents don't want to take you back easily because it was a "love marriage" and therefore, your choice but this man is abusive and cheating on you (or at least trying to, if he's sending that other woman ... (read in full...)
No condom for anal sex? Is it safe?
Q. My boyfriend is my second boyfriend.. I am still virgin... and he is too. At this time, He wish something for his birthday. He wants anal sex :| at first I really do not agree about it but I love him I want to make him happy. I am a little bit ...
A. 12 October 2011: I second RedAthena. Don't do this if you are not ready.
Just to add:
Please, please DO use a condom with a water-based lubricant. You can still get STIs from anal sex and if any semen drips around your vagina, there is a small chance you could... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't like me singing sad songs, will this affect our relationship? Or will she just get over it?
Q. I have been in a very healthy relationship with my American wife here for the last ten months. We met through Online dating and remained in a relationship for one year before getting married December last year in Pakistan and then moved to USA a...
A. 12 October 2011: I think you should talk to her and just try to get her to explain why sad songs bother her so much. I mean, most people sing songs just because they like the lyrics or the tune and not necessarily because they are in that mood at the time.
Maybe... (read in full...)
Deciding not to use condoms....how safe is the pill really?
Q. I've just started dating a new guy and have gone on the pill. We've both been checked out and are looking to not use condoms soon. I'm just worried about the possibility of getting pregnant. I know that the pill is 99.9999999% effective - but what ...
A. 12 October 2011: So_Very_Confused is totally right. I'd just like to add that you should make sure you've been taking the pill long enough before you start having sex without a condom.
Most drug companies will state in their literature that the pill is effectiv... (read in full...)
Is dating this girl worth losing a friend over?
Q. Okay so im haveing alittle trouble deciding what to do. So ill start off in the begining So my freind started dating this girl. they were going out for the past 4 months and in that time the three of us would hang out alot. Now my friend is kinda of...
A. 14 July 2011: I think you need to at least tell your friend that you two are going to be hanging out. He may not like it, but it's still up to you whether you see her or not. Either way, you should tell him because assuming things go well and you two do end up ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for breast size to increase while on the pill?
Q. Hello all, I've been on Microgynon 30 contraceptive pill for just under a week now. I am 22 and this is the first time I've been on the pill. I went on it mainly to try and calm down my bad periods. But I am hoping I may increase my breast size a ...
A. 14 July 2011: Mine haven't changed at all...... (read in full...)
Is it because I'm a virgin?
Q. Hey, so im 16 and im dating my brothers friend who is 23. We are very close and have no secrets. He wants to marry me and have me live with him once I turn 18. He has this issue down south and he gets an extremely unbearable pain if he doesnt have ...
A. 7 July 2011: If he can't get off with masturbating, he's doing it wrong and at 23, I just kinda feel bad for him. You know what they say. Practice makes perfect :)... (read in full...)
Was he doing it to really hurt himself? Do people do that? I know why most men do that and its not this reason, but instead for sexual pleasure.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. As far as many things go, our life together has been great. Since I met him, I just knew he was my soul mate and things were just so perfect with him. I cannot begin to tell you how great ...
A. 7 July 2011: Yes, honestly, I would believe that he was doing it to hurt himself as opposed to doing it for sexual pleasure. I have a friend who is bi-polar, depression and borderline multiple personality disorder. He is a straight male, but one of the thing... (read in full...)
My virgin husband is making me get an std test before he will marry me...
Q. My fiance is making me get an STD test before he marries me. He is a virgin and I'm not. I have been with 2 guys before him. He told me he just wants to be sure I am clean before he marries me because he does not want to catch an std. He is ...
A. 7 July 2011: " I don't want to get tested, but I love him, and can't lose him. "
Dude... Why DON'T you want to get tested? Don't YOU want to know if you have something? A lot of things can be cured but if you are completely unaware of it, it's extremel... (read in full...)
Is it because I'm a virgin?
Q. Hey, so im 16 and im dating my brothers friend who is 23. We are very close and have no secrets. He wants to marry me and have me live with him once I turn 18. He has this issue down south and he gets an extremely unbearable pain if he doesnt have ...
A. 7 July 2011: Honey... There's really no such thing as pain "down south" that only sex can relieve. If he's got blue balls, he can jerk it and if he doesn't like doing that, it's his own issue. Like everyone else has been saying, it's one of the OLDEST lines guys ... (read in full...)
If I'm just seeing him, can I still go on this holiday and kiss other guys?
Q. What would you say if a girl you had just started seeing say for about a week, told you she was going on this kind of holiday. And you knew that she will probably get with guys when she's out there.. would you end it or stay with her? Because I...
A. 1 June 2011: 100% agree with Drew21. Took the words right out of my mouth.... (read in full...)
A quick (honest) survey: How often do you and your partner have sex?
Q. This is something I am interested in as this often comes up on Dear Cupid, how often are couples actually having sex? I know personally I feel that my boyfriend and I are not having enough sex, I am 24 and he is nearly 28 yet we have sex once or...
A. 16 May 2011: I think it just seems that your boyfriend has a lower sex drive and some people just do, for no specific reason and they are completely comfortable with it. Are you bothered because you'd like to have more sex and are a bit sexually frustra... (read in full...)
Is it okay for a FWB, to flirt with your friends, should I discuss it??
Q. Do you think it's okay for a fuck buddy to flirt with your friends? Also, should you talk to him about it?...
A. 1 February 2011: I agree with The Realist. He IS allowed to be single but its kind of classless to flirt (most likely with the intention of hooking up) with your friends. I mean, playful flirting is probably no biggie, as long as that's the level it stays at.
... (read in full...)
I had an abortion when very young. Will I be able to get pregnant later?
Q. hi, i just want to ask some information about something. When i was 14 years old i sleep with my boyfriend 17 years old that time and got positive 6 weeks. when my mother find it out she was very very angry and tell me theres no way for her to...
A. 28 October 2010: You can definitely get pregnant again as soon as you start ovulating. Since you've already mentioned that your period has returned to normal, that's a pretty good sign that everything is fine and you shouldn't have any problem getting pregnant in ... (read in full...)
Should I get married , will I ever be happy ?
Q. i am 32 years old unmarried girl from india, wanted someone with true love but i dont know how i got stuck with a married man,since 7 years i kepton loving him, we did foreplay also, but never let him do the penetration, as i just wanted my husband ...
A. 25 October 2010: Getting involved with a MARRIED person and letting it continue for this long is kind of the issue at the root of all your questions, but that being said and done, where does that leave you?
1. Only you can look within yourself and decide why you ... (read in full...)
What's the hang-up on swallowing?
Q. It probably has been answered already, but what is the real hang up on women not wanting to swallow a man's ejaculation. Taste? Contents? Etc. Also, if you are going to let them cum in your mouth, what's the difference? Men go down on women and ...
A. 24 June 2010: The taste is not that great. And the texture is what really gets me. It's like trying to swallow raw egg whites... lol... (read in full...)
Period is a few days late, could I be pregnant??
Q. my boyfriend was in his boxers and my hands were on his upper thigh but never went into his boxers, i'm not sure if i got any semen on my hands. my period is a couple of days late but im quite stressed about exams and stuff at the moment so im not ...
A. 14 June 2010: "well i mean like as in going to the toilet or something how likely is it that im pregnant?"
Sorry, I'm confused. What does going to the toilet have to do with being pregnant?... (read in full...)
Period is a few days late, could I be pregnant??
Q. my boyfriend was in his boxers and my hands were on his upper thigh but never went into his boxers, i'm not sure if i got any semen on my hands. my period is a couple of days late but im quite stressed about exams and stuff at the moment so im not ...
A. 14 June 2010: Judging from the info you've provided, no.... (read in full...)
Splitting the bill on a first date?
Q. I was on a first date with this guy and we went to see a movie, then had dinner at a Chinese restaurant. We're both students. He is a year older than me. So, he bought the movie tickets online, then announced the price out loud - "so it's 22.50 f...
A. 14 June 2010: Wow... If he asked you and didn't pay for at least dinner on your FIRST date... He really doesn't deserve another date. A lot of my guy friends say they appreciate when a girl OFFERS to split because they like the gesture but they insist on paying, ... (read in full...)
What do you do with a hairy tummy?
Q. Quick question to the ladies my girlfriend has hair on her belly - do all girls get this and do you shave it off?? ...
A. 28 May 2010: The little stubble when it starts to grow back, no matter what non-permanent method she uses, will probably look a lot more off putting than if she had never messed with it in the first place. Some girls have it. Some girls don't. It's no big deal.... (read in full...)
I am worried about hair in the nether regions
Q. Hi, I'm a 17 year old female who is suffering from hair on my butt, not my cheeks, it's inside of my cheeks around my hole. ( I apologize for graphis terms). I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months, and we haven't really gotten to the sexual area ...
A. 7 February 2010: It's pretty normal. Chances are that, unless you're doing anal, he's not going to see any hair in your butt-crack/hole but if it bothers you, I would recommend waxing. It lasts longer and is probably easier and safer than sticking a sharp object in ... (read in full...)
Is it must for a girl to cum during sex?
Q. I want to ask a question. Is it must for a girl to cum during sex. and how do you make a girl cum?...
A. 5 February 2010: In short, yes, ideally both partners should cum during sex but that's usually not realistic so... aim to make her cum as often as possible but make sure she enjoys it every time. Find out what she likes and foreplay is important. Practice :P... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 5 February 2010: Why would you put your penis in some undetermined gooey substance in a tree?... Everything else aside, that can't be safe...
Buy a fleshlight or something...... (read in full...)
I'm quite daunted by the idea of first time sex.
Q. I'm quite daunted by the idea of first time sex. I'm almost 22 and still a virgin. Not to mention I hear that women prefer men with experience and are quite turned off of having to 'teach' someone at all. I know there may be 'some' that don't mind, ...
A. 20 January 2010: I lost my virginity to my then-boyfriend who waited 6 months later to tell me that he was also a virgin... And honestly, I was pretty annoyed. It would have been so much more meaningful if he's just told me... And I think it's cute and admirable if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is too loose!
Q. I've been sexually active with my boyfriend (I also lost my virginity to him) for about a year and a half now. A few days ago I played with my PC muscles when he was inside me and he said it feels wonderful, and then proceeded to tell me that it was ...
A. 5 January 2010: A vagina CAN'T get looser from having sex. Every woman's vagina is a different size, just like every man's penis is a different size, and short of invasive surgery, it can't be changed.
The ONLY way a woman's vagina can get looser is after sh... (read in full...)
How do you know how to trust when different doctors tell you different things???
Q. How do you know how to trust when different doctors tell you different things, as well as pharmaists? My male doctor tells me that when you start on the pill you are not protected until you finish at least one full pack, if not 2 packets, just to...
A. 5 January 2010: I'm not sure what the answer is here, but as far as I've ever heard, the safe way is to way until you finish at least one pack/7-14 days before you stop using a condom so your body gets used to the change in hormones. I think if you start when ... (read in full...)
Hollywood ex: Do? or don't?
Q. Hi All, So my boyfriend has been sort of hinting that he'd like me to get strip the carpet downstairs, but I'm a little unsure about it. Ladies, have you done it before? Would you recommend it? Does it hurt as much as I think it might? Any ot...
A. 22 December 2009: Personally, I think waxing is much better than shaving and it lasts longer. With shaving, it very quickly starts to feel like you've got a cactus in your underpants and it'll drive you NUTS.
Yeah, waxing does hurt but I don't think it's terrible... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to like him when he has a girlfriend and a baby?
Q. I work at a grocery store with a couple of pretty good looking guys. There are 2 in particular that im really interested in. The most prominent guy is Brian. He's 24 and he has a girlfriend named Amber. Amber just had a baby about a week ago by ...
A. 22 December 2009: What kind of guy is out flirting with a 17 year old when he's got a very young child at home and a girlfriend? I think that just shows the kind of person he is and that's his choice.
You, however, can choose not to encourage his inapprop... (read in full...)
Why do married men have affairs with less attractive women?
Q. On a Dr. Phil show it was said that 80 percent of married men have affairs with women who are less attractive than their wives, why do married men choose women who are less attractive, my husband had an affair and the women was not what I ever ...
A. 11 December 2009: I think people (men and women) cheat because 1. They don't respect their partner enough, but more importantly 2. Because they're bored and they can. It has very little to do with looks, and attractiveness. They aren't looking for prime rib, ... (read in full...)
Married sex issues! He says I take too long to orgasm.
Q. I've been married for two years been with him total 10.5 yrs. I enjoy giving oral...he does not..he says I take too long...and has "sighed" in the middle of it once. I seem to only get oral when he's been away with work...like it's a welcome home ...
A. 11 December 2009: ... It's kind of his job to make you orgasm... If it's taking "too long", it's obviously him that needs to re-think his technique...
Sorry. Men with that kind of attitude just bug me.
Maybe try giving him some direction with what you'd like ... (read in full...)
I left, she kissed somebody else, now I want her back, but she is wary
Q. I am a 25 yr old male. Ive been withthe same woman for almost years the first 6 months were better than I could have ever imagined then we hit the one year mark and we start arguing alot more then a few weeks ago I got tired of fighting without ...
A. 11 December 2009: Oh wow... This sounds identical to my and my ex's situation. You do have to try to be what she needs you to be. When arguments start, try to figure out what the problem is and stop doing it. You basically have to prove to her that she's safe with ... (read in full...)
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