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*exicana897
writes:I've been sexually active with my boyfriend (I also lost my virginity to him) for about a year and a half now. A few days ago I played with my PC muscles when he was inside me and he said it feels wonderful, and then proceeded to tell me that it was the first time for a few months that I actually felt tight.He says my vagina was really tight for like the first two thirds of the time we've had sex, but it has become loose. Is contracting my PC muscles on purpose the only way I can make my vagina feel tighter? I'm only 15, have I become loose already??
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reader, Leo1989  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 you arent too young for sex however im not sure what on earth your boyfriend is on about as you cany actually stretch your vagina. its usually a baby that does that not a penis. perhaps his penis is too small or something io do not know. or perhaps he is just being dumb. talk to him and sort it out is what i suggest. good on you for using protection.
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reader, mexicana897 +, writes (6 January 2010):
mexicana897 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe're in Italy, where the age of consent is 14 and not even supervised in any ways.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 January 2010):
 Where are you living?
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reader, mexicana897 +, writes (6 January 2010):
mexicana897 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh and for those who say it's illegal, I'd like to say we're not living in the USA. The law is different here.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (6 January 2010):
Try telling law enforcement that you are old enough, because your boyfriend could actually go to jail for statutory rape for having sex with a child.
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reader, supermum  +, writes (6 January 2010):
 He is 18???????? And you are what 15? Call the bloody cops, thats illegal!!!!! That is not responsible behaviour on his part, sleeping with an underage girl!
I am glad you are using protection...but seriously...does you mum know?
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reader, mexicana897 +, writes (6 January 2010):
mexicana897 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers everyone, though some of them were pretty weird.
We might be young but not immature, and he's 18 so he's not a child either. I'd also like to add, because of some people's comments, that we're very responsible and use protection. We're also very capable of understanding what we're doing...
I'm not going to dump him, since we really love each other and this is not the kind of a relationship that we just have sex and hang out without any intentions of getting married etc in the future. And I don't think he said it to make me feel insecure, since he's a guy and doesn't really know what women think about that stuff.
Anyway, thanks for the answers.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (6 January 2010):
 To experience the pleasure of sex, one is required 'AN EYE' to see the pleasure. In your case you keep open your body's eye, [sense of site] that note unimportant matter, about looseness or tightness of vagina or smallness or largeness of penis, is real problem. You are required to keep open that eye, which has capacity to see something unsealable. My indication is about mind's eye.
Other wise, there is no such thing as tight and loose vagina. Yes, female and even male sex organ has natural and in-build capacity to generate pleasure. Just keep open your mind's eye during your love making.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): "A vagina CAN'T get looser from having sex...The ONLY way a woman's vagina can get looser is after she has a baby."
I'm not sure how anyone that has ever had sex could come to that conclusion. If my fiancee' and I go a week without engaging in sex, I definitely feel significantly tighter, to the point that sex is relatively difficult and unpleasant until I stretch out a little.
That isn't really an answer to the 15 year old's answer, more a refute of the craziness of the other poster's answer.
To the 15 year old: size does matter, to an extent. The Karma Sutra separates people into three different sizes, which I could list, but won't out of laziness and apathy. But, it sounds like you are a maybe a mare (a medium) and your boyfriend is a hare (a small). If you were with a bull (a boy-medium), then things would probably be nicer for you.
On the upside, since you are both children, maybe he will grow and really fill that gap.
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reader, carebare  +, writes (5 January 2010):
A vagina CAN'T get looser from having sex. Every woman's vagina is a different size, just like every man's penis is a different size, and short of invasive surgery, it can't be changed.
The ONLY way a woman's vagina can get looser is after she has a baby and since you're 15 and I'm assuming you have never produced any offspring, you should be fine!
Maybe he's sometimes not as hard as he thinks he is... Seriously... It happens...
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reader, supermum +, writes (5 January 2010):
Yeah, do say his dick feels small! If his is the only dick you have had, there is no reason why you should feel loose lol...get a new bf!
Asisde from that, tightening your Pelvic Floor muscled everyday is a good thing to get into, i do it. Its more important if you are pregnant, once you have had a baby, but it can increase orgasms, tighten you up, reduce the risk of continence problems etc etc...i do them all the time, at work, at home in front of the tv, in the bath...no one can see you do them so its ok.
Just pull the same muscles that stop you from weeing, hold it for 5 seconds, and release. Repeat 5 times. Do this as many times a day as you remember, usually 3
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reader, Angzw +, writes (5 January 2010):
He is being manipulative and talking BS. He is just trying to make you insecure about yourself. Maybe next time you could tell him that his dic feels smaller and see how he likes it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 January 2010):
Your boyfriend is full of crap, ignore him or better yet dump him. If he knew anything about female anatomy he would be blushing at his idiotic comment. Since you are only 15, I wish I COULD scare you into thinking you can actually stretch your vagina out by having sex.
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