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My boyfriend says he found another girl that gives him happiness. Can I get him back?

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Question - (26 December 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 28 December 2012)
A female Nigeria age 30-35, *uky writes:

Have been dating my bf for 3yrs.

Recently he started complaining about my attitude, saying am too insecure, demanding, and that he has found another girl that gives him happiness and there is nothing I can do.

Truthfully, have been kind of rude and bad to him since, but he sometimes caused it. He said he stil loves me, but he can't leave her because she is the only one that gives him peace, love and care this period.

I love him but am confused. I have been thinking if there is anyway to bring his mind back?

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (28 December 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntHoney he sounds like a real JERK....

I am not sure why you are confused.

He wants you to turn a blind eye while he has sex with another woman to "put her in her place" and you are supposed to be ok with that?

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A female reader, elise22 Netherlands +, writes (28 December 2012):

elise22 agony auntPlease, please don't put up with this! I have to repeat that you deserve better than some guy cheating on you just for the fun of it, and who obviously doesn't care that he's hurting you. If you stay with him now, he's only going to do it again and again because you gave him a free pass.

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A female reader, Ruky Nigeria +, writes (27 December 2012):

Ruky is verified as being by the original poster of the question

He later told me that he wants sex wih her and then intends to push her away. All because she is too proud..

Therefore I am really confused.,well thanks for the advice

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A female reader, CANDY61 United States +, writes (27 December 2012):

He told you straight up that he's happy with the other woman so the best thing for you to do is take the pain and move on. You will hurt for a little while but you will get over it and you'll be glad that you found someone eles that except you for who you are.

It doesn't mean that you're search a bad person, you're just not the one for him so do like he did, find someone that make you happy.

Wish you luck

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (27 December 2012):

eyeswideopen agony auntI totally agree, you are beating a dead horse, let him go. Time to trade up my dear.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (27 December 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntIf you truly love him you will let him go.

He is right, you can't make him love you and there is nothing you can do.

The only thing you can do is let him go.

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A female reader, elise22 Netherlands +, writes (27 December 2012):

elise22 agony auntI don't really understand, you're still together with this guy after he told you he's in a relationship with someone else as well?

It makes sense to me that you have been rude to him, since he's treating you like crap. I'm sure you don't want to hear this, but even if he did change his mind you wouldn't be better off.

Please just break up with him because you deserve so much better than to be treated this way! He doesn't love you because if he did, he wouldn't be trying to make you insecure and he definitely wouldn't start a relationship with another woman.

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