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writes:Should I get everything of my chest or stay silent?I was friends with a guy a for couple of years and we had "kisses and cuddles" on numerous occasions, it wasn't anything serious, we were both going through some stuff and I thought we were friends, anyway one day he asked me out but text me before we were due to meet to say he could make it. Needless to say we didn't speak for a while, anyway about six months later we were friends again, just friends. A few months ago he asked me out again and again he cancelled a few hours before we were due to meet. I haven't spoke to him since as I feel stupid for allowing him back into my life. I am so angry with him, he has repeatadly got in touch for the past fortnight and I am getting annoyed with him.Should I keep ignoring him? or Tell him how annoyed I am with him and tell him to leave me alone?I really want to have my say so that I can close this chapter of my life and move on because it has been on my mind ever since he cancelled on me again.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 March 2013):
 I agree with CIAR on this one… you want your say but what will it accomplish, other than to let him know he bugs you and that will feed his ego. I think ignoring him totally 100% gets the point across much better. He’s not worth the effort. Let him stew.
In fact, I would delete his number and block his number, his email and any social media you may have with him.
LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE… that will be your say!
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reader, CANDY61 +, writes (15 March 2013):
I wouldn't say a word to him, I would close the chapter and move on like nothing happened, don't show him that you're angry, that would really make him think twice because he knows what he did was wrong.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (15 March 2013):
 Maintaining a stoney silence would, in my opinion, be more effective than saying anything.
Giving him a piece of your mind gives him a chance to read you and plan accordingly. He knows you're not pleased, but without hearing from you he really doesn't know what else to think or what to do about it. It also shows him he isn't important enough to you for you to want to square things up with him.
It also allows you to occupy the higher ground. He has behaved badly but you have, thus far, behaved as a mature adult.
Block him and continue to ignore him. If you bump into him and he greets you, be classy, cool and formal.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (15 March 2013):
 I am not sure if giving him a piece of your mind is going to do anything to him. It may help you vent, but what do you hope he gets out of it? He obviously knows you are angry because you've cut contact off with him and the fact that he keeps toying with your emotions means he cares more about his ego than you.
If you are going to cancel a date at the last minute, the proper thing is to at least have a good excuse and call via voice (or at least face to face). He didn't have the courtesy to do that for you.
At your age (and assuming he is roughly the same age as you), you need to avoid playing games -- and that is exactly what he is doing. I suggest taking this one as a lesson learned and let it go. Nothing good can come out of retaliating except saying something you might regret later.
Eddie
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