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writes:Hey everyone,HATE is strong word but here I want to use this word and say I absolutely HaTe my relatives! They want everyone to act like their slaves, for 15 years I didn't say anything they would trash talk my dad soo much, my family put us down, the day I stood up and spoke for myself they started trash talking about me, telling my mom all sorts of nonsense about me, they even called my dad and bitched about me, but my parents believed me over them.Although it still disturbs me that they would do such a thing, how cruel and jealous..I have chosen never to speak with them ever and never talk to them in my life, my mom decided to do the same.Has anyone faced situation like this from jealous relatives? I just can't forget what they said about me, its really sad:(
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 February 2013):
 What I have learned is there is family and there are relatives.
your relatives are those folks you are legally related to by blood. if they do not behave properly it's ok as far as I'm concerned to ignore them totally.
FAMILY on the other hand is those folks who you CHOOSE to spend time with.... you can CREATE a network of close friends who become like family and call them family.
As an adult, we have the right to NOT spend time with folks that make us unhappy EVEN if we share blood with them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOmg@ anonymous I'm in the exact situation as you are, they always call and my mom and put her and my family down and my mom doesn't utter a word! I keep telling not to answer their calls, they always try and find dirt against me when I do nothing, as a 24 year old if I drink that too occassionally they call and tell mom what kind of a bad daughter am I, due to which I have decided even if its occasionally I'm never consuming alchohol ever again! they judge me, my mom and especially my dad! They are siccckkk!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2013): My so called super religious family members have been the worst in that department.
My dad has been bad mouthed by his brothers and kicked around. My dad always said he was the black sheep of the family. They even called up my mom and would talk down to her. I told my mom to start hanging up the phone if they spout off to her. She doesn't need their drama.
Then her side is just as bad with her sisters gossiping and being so greedy and martialistic. Yet they get this holier than thou attitude about other family members and their lifestyles and just plain judgmental.
Both my parents let others walk all over them. Well, me, their daughter is not like that all. I could care less what others think. And I am not scared to tell anyone off either. They don't owe me a thing. If all they cause is grief, then grief is what they will get back from me. I won't be intimidated or brought down. I always dreamed of lining them all up and tell "exactly" what I think. Besides I have all the dirt on them and I wouldn't hesitate to use it to shake them up.
I think you are correct. Never speak to them again and don't go out of your way for them. That is what I am doing. If they don't care about you, why should you care about them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2013): Yes, I have endured this from my own brother and his wife, and they have poisoned most of the rest of the family with their lies. I have hardly anything to do with them, unless it is to inform them of our mothers health concerns that they need to know about. I know how horrible it feels, try not to worry about it, just ignore it and let them be poisonous jerks, because life is too short and they will never change at all. they think that you have to do what they want and that they have a right to take or destroy everything good you have just because they are jealous of you. Your a wonderful person, just remember that. Good Luck.
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reader, CANDY61 +, writes (11 February 2013):
It's all jealous and don't let them know that they get next to you.
I would tell them we need to stay our distance until we learn to love each other as family should so move on from them because life is too short for relatives bull crap.
You, your mom and dad stay strong.
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts +, writes (10 February 2013):
 Just know that the only people whose opinions actually matter are those people you actually respect. It's time to forget about them and move on because they aren't worth your time.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (10 February 2013):
 Yes I'm experiencing it now first-hand every day now. It’s a trip to lie after lie if you not being obedient and work or cleaning slave they try to make you so needy upon them. They went way out of their way to make me homeless with children. They figured I would be begging to come back but I won’t. They cause so many problems I have no choice but to do what I have to do They’re using all kind of money and power and church and people to do dumb stuff also I thought they were helping but found out they were just users they prey on people in need. I would have probably went along with it but I was hard to convert and they didn’t reward to me.They got greedy in my eyes and started telling on their selves about selling houses and buying cheaper homes. They showed there true colors about the whole deal and were nasty about it. Stay positive is the best thing that bothers them more than anything.
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