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*adybug 1
writes:I feel helpless, I am very clean, and been to my doctors and she tested me. every thing can back normal, no infections. My boyfriend has stop having sex with me, because he say i smell fishy real bad, when he pre-cums, and cums. he even gag's. He is a very heavy drinker, and my doctor, say's he has a lot of yeast in his sperm. is this true, can he be the cause, or do i need to change my eating habits. or eat lots of yogarts, I need some advice, it is destroing our sex life. and making me feel that there is something wrong with me. and i dont feel like a woman any more. please some one help. so i can feel like real woman, again.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Thank you for your followup. I think I have to agree with the anon who said that dating a heavy drinker is a bad idea. You're already not having sex, he's insulting your body odor and he's making a joke out of it. I don't think this will get better, sorry. I think it's time to move on and find a guy who does want you, just the way you are, and preferably one without a drinking problem!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 May 2012):
 I will tell you in my personal experience that I have never had odor issues until my current partner.
He swears that every woman he has ever been with has had issues... thankfully he is well aware that it's how we interact with HIS BODY chemistry. Like I said I never had odor problems prior to his semen being in me...
I do not use douche at all... maybe once in a rare while with the doctor's permission after a surgical procedure I will use vinegar and water ONLY.
Also never use soap inside my body... just on the outside I use body wash (rarely soap) and make sure to water rinse very very well with a hand held water sprayer... I never feel clean without one...
If you have been tested and have no infections and are bathing at least daily, then he's just like my guy and is very very sensitive to smells.
The problem is that he's using this as an excuse to not have sex with you... and that may be a cover up as honeypie suggested.
Because although my partner notices my odor it does NOT put him off from wanting me.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 May 2012):
 I think HE has problem with perhaps ED? Or something psychological? and is trying to blame it on you, claiming that YOU smell fishy so HE can't/Won't have sex with you. Sounds like he is actually resenting having sex and that has NOTHING to do with you.
But he is keeping the "facade" of being a sexual being by all the talk and all the "showing" off.
Honey, LOOK at his actions, don't go by his words.
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reader, ladybug 1 +, writes (23 May 2012):
ladybug 1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to thank all of you who have responded to my question, of concern. I will hold all of your caring replies in my thoughts. and learn from your great advice. It gave me some insight. Maybe he has lost intrenst in me all together sexuly. because of this promblem. I have menten the use of comdoms and he still say's no to us having sex. (when it is between the time line he has of two months, without having sex, It' since the last 8 months he desides when we have sex. He plays around with me, grabs my boobs, or smacks my bottom, or dry humps my bottom, huggs and kisses me, and he teases with me. But he wont let me touch his privet parts, at all. and he is always telling me My pee-pee stinks,in a joking way, just to remind me I guess. and that he tells me that he doesn't want nothing to do with it. he would rather go with out it. but he is always joking about sex in some way of form. Just not with me, until he cant go any longer with out it, and then after words, he say real mean things to me about it.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (22 May 2012):
 Make sure you practice extra good hygiene before intimacy between you. Even though you showered before going to work that morning, and you haven't done anything but sit in an office and work all day, by the time you climb into bed at night you need to have taken another shower and don't be afraid to use a mild soap below the decks. Try some flavored lubricants which will add a new flavor that smells kind of sweet and inviting. Also it wouldn't hurt to survey your diet. Do you eat alot of fish? If you think yogart will help, try eating a small cup each day and see if it helps. It'll probably take 2 weeks before you notice. If all your lab tests have come out normal and you aren't experiencing any thick discharge, or itchiness then it could be your natural smell. I would work on bathing the area before you have sex to make sure you are super clean. It should help alot. Good luck.
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reader, curious1987  +, writes (22 May 2012):
 In response to the anonymous writer about nit using soap. that is true. if u use soap u actually wash away the natural cleaning agents so just use water, and u might find the cleaning agents do their job. and also if its his sperm making u fishy, his the problem not u
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2012): Stop dating a very heavy drinker. I'm not talking about the semen factor here, but because that story never has a great ending. Think about it.
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reader, CANDY61 +, writes (21 May 2012):
I always believe in baking soda. Put about three table spoons of baking soda in your bath water daily or put a little on your wet towel is better and wash down there. I wash my whole body with baking soda, dove soap or body wash...I brush my teeth once a week with baking soda...I also dap a little water and baking soda under my arms as a deodorant...I clean my silver with baking soda...I keep a box of baking soda in the frig. You might want to get to the bottom of this and find out if it's you or him, it might be him that needs the baking soda so if it's him he can also use baking soda. I will never be without the baking soda. Let us know if this works for you.
Good Luck
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 May 2012):
I agree with DoubleM - no douching. that totally destroys the PH balance and the natural bacterial balance in your vagina and that in turn can make you smell below.
1. I would honestly tell your man to be tested for a yeast infection, because it could be that the two of you are passing it back and forth.
2. If #1 doesn't help, I'd suggest condoms. Factis, semen is much more alkaline, or basic, than the vagina. Because of this, semen can alter the normal vaginal pH. Seamen has a pH of 7.1 to 8.
The normal pH of the vagina is 4.5 or less, which is on the low, or acidic, side of the pH spectrum
3. Even if you DO use condoms clean yourself after sex.
4. So when you clean below use warm water and try and avoid perfumed soaps, if you DO use soap choose a mild soap, like perfume-free glycerin soap.
5. Change tampons and sanitary napkins frequently during menstruation. The pH of blood is 7.4, which is much higher than the pH of the vagina. Exposing the vagina to prolonged use of tampons and pads can lead to vaginitis.(vaginitis smells like ammonia/fish and very strongly and you will need a course of antibiotics to cure it up).
6. eating yogurt containing the probiotic bacteria Lactobacillus acidophilus can help prevent vaginal infections, perhaps through balancing pH. You can get some in pill form if you are not a fan of yogurt.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 May 2012):
Wait. Your doctor said he has a lot of yeast in his semen? Was she saying HE has an infection that is then transferred to you?
Have you noticed that you smell 'fishy' or was this something only he detected?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2012): Go to a gyn and get a second opinion first OP. Doctors are not infallible and misdiagnosis is quite common.
If the second opinion says the same thing as your doctor OP then it's up to your boyfriend to sort it out.
He either cuts down his drinking or wears condoms and uses dental dams.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2012): I once had this for a short time and went to my doctors. I also was told I had no infection problems. But I was told by the doc that it was an inbalance of bacteria, and to eat live 'bio' yogurt daily. I was also told that maybe I was too clean, and to not bathe with bubble bath or similar, just water. Since then Ive used only pure vegetable soap not the scented kind. Also I was told it can be caused by stress so to find ways of de-stressing. It seemed to go of its on accord. I'm not sure in my case it was just to do with a partner as I hadnt been having regular sex, it was just the odd time I had sex I noticed it, and that person didnt drink much.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 May 2012):
 Wait so his semen is making you smell bad so in response he won't have sex with you? If it's his semen, you can have him wear condoms.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (21 May 2012):
 In my experience with a few "fishy smelling" women, it seemed the main problem had to do with bacterial balance of the vagina. I don't think that yeast infection is the issue unless you have other indications, such as a white discharge, a white tongue, itching and more. The main thing is: Do not douche. That tends to cause an imbalance down there.
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