I'm pregnant and nearly married but my partner has changed;
Q. Well i have been with my partner for 3 years. ^ months ago we split up dor 6 months but he said he loved me and wanted me back. When we got back together all our previous problems seemed to have dispppeared and he proposed. Wedding is in 9 weeks and ...
A. 26 July 2011: Which would you rather lose, £10,000 or you happiness?
If you know deep in your heart that you truly don't want to marry this guy then don't.... (read in full...)
Telling my lover he can't come to my home..will make him angry! How do I deal with this?
Q. I know I will be judged for what I am about to write, but I am just looking for open minded opinions. I am a 37 year old female, have been seeing a 39 year old married man. I was in a relationship myself (not married, but dated and lived together...
A. 26 July 2011: I think you need to ask yourself what you find so appealing about this man. By wanting him you're denying yourself several things:
- a real relationship
- a decent man
- the chance of actually being loved in whole back
You had a man that ap... (read in full...)
How to face my girlfriend after 7 months break up?
Q. I am a very arrogant and proud guy being from very rich family here. I get everything in my life without dropping a single drop of sweat . 30 months back, I fell in love with a amazingly beautiful girl here and I kept my family status in hide from ...
A. 26 July 2011: Let go of your pride and tell her you're sorry! There's no room for such pride in a relstionship - it won't do to be too proud to say sorry every time you have an argument with a girlfriend. It leaves the relationship open to bitterness and more ... (read in full...)
My friend told my boyfriend I was cheating even though I'm not! Should I end the friendship?
Q. Ok so this girl who is suppose to be my best friend told my boyfriend that i was cheating on him by sending naked photos to some other guy. Truth is, i wasnt cheating on him and yeah she did go through my phone and saw a picture of me in my bra but ...
A. 10 June 2011: you either have to have such a serious talk with your friend that she stops all this crazy behaviour, or you dump her as a friend. The way you've told it, all the current pressure on your relationship with your boyfriend is coming from her, not him ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my daughter's odd behavior?
Q. Your daughter is a great student! She is tall, beautiful with the sweetest personality." those were the words coming from her history teacher at parent teachers conference. My daughter is a freshman in highschool and all the things he said are ...
A. 9 June 2011: i can understand your concerns but at the same time all sorts of things could have happened here.
It seems likely from what you've said that your daughter finds this man attractive - pretty normal. There are several reasons why she may have dro... (read in full...)
Should I follow my head or my heart?
Q. I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months and this time I think for good. This was my first serious relationship. I broke up with her 3 times and I know she will not come back. Problem is I still feel very attached to her. Like I lost ...
A. 9 June 2011: You listed so many reasons not to get back together. And then your reasons for making up seem to consist solely of the fact that breaking up is hard.
I think you know the answer to this one. When you just don't make each other happy anymore ... (read in full...)
After three years it's a lot more than a 'crush' but she doesn't feel the same way
Q. Hi, im a 19 y.o guy. I met this girl about 3 years ago in college, we were best friends in college and i slowly but surely began to fall deeply in love with her. Lemme clarify one thing, she is amazing. She is possibly the hottest girl ive ever met, ...
A. 9 June 2011: I'm really sorry. This girl has been very cruel to you. My guess is that she's never been in love herself before and doesn't understand the pain she's inflicting on you. She should never have slept with you knowing that you're in love with her with ... (read in full...)
I'm scared they're going to think I'm a slut or easy!
Q. I feel like a slut because in drama class these guys I was sitting next to were feeling on my boobs I kinda like it but I kept on her my friend voice in my head telling me to stop so I said do go in there like my shirt but if one did it the other ...
A. 5 June 2011: You're learning a basic point right now about relationships. As a general rule (but not always and not for every man), it is women who control how much sexual contact there will be and when. Normally, whenever a girl feels like doing anything s... (read in full...)
B/f said "I used to have a skinny girlfriend, now I have one with big boobs!"
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and it's pretty much perfect. He does a lot for me and I know he loves me a lot. Now about my problem; I have PCOS along with a thyroid issue. I don't consider myself obese but I'm not skinny. My ...
A. 5 June 2011: I don't think you should bring it up.
Your boyfriend was obviously trying to give you a compliment and make yourself feel better about you boyfriend, he just went about it in the wrong way. Most likely one of those situations where the words so... (read in full...)
The pill and gaining weight?
Q. Hi, I've been thinking carefully about going on the Pill for a while now and think it's the right thing to do. My only worry is that it'll make me gain weight (vanity I know!) What have your experiences with the Pill been like? I really don't want ...
A. 5 June 2011: I didn't gain any weight at all when I went on the Pill but the extra dosage of estrogen did make my boobs grow a cup size (which I'm not complaining about as they are teeny).
There's many possible side effects of the Pill as there are with any... (read in full...)
Is my gf cheating on me?
Q. Basically what I want to know, is whether or not my girlfriend is cheating on me. After a bad break-up my fiancee and I got back together, against many friend's wishes.. But lately she is texting ALL the time when she's with me, it's either ...
A. 4 June 2011: Well, I understand why you might suspect that she is cheating, but I don't think you should voice your accusations because really you have no solid proof.
In all honesty, I think that this John character is just a friend of your gf.
A relat... (read in full...)
Why do my co workers want to pry into when I will have children? To me it's rude, and I'm single.
Q. My co workers always ask me when am I going to have children, even though they know that I'm single. I find this extremely rude. My co workers are all older and most married with children. Married people really annoy me as they don't remember what ...
A. 21 May 2011: When they ask you this, just smile and not give them an answer. Don't bother explaining that you KNOW you're single and would quite prefer for these high and mighty idiots to stop drawing it to your attention. I imagine that they consistently ask ... (read in full...)
Do people go through life feeling awkward, without maturing?
Q. I watched a documentary about the human body on BBC iPlayer and it made me realise how empty my life really is. p /> It was about how the human brain developed. He (the presenter) was reflective on his teenage life and how he fell in love e.t....
A. 21 May 2011: Yes, there are people that this happens to. It's really sad that anyone should experience life feeling so alone, but you can change this situation!!! Work at it bit by bit. I was like you not so long ago and I went through a dramatic transformation ... (read in full...)
What do I do? My husband is deployed and I have a crush on his friend who is deployed with him.
Q. Most women who develop crushes while their husbands are deployed develop the crushes because they are longing for someone to be intimate with or get attention from (or they just want to have sex xp). That isn't the case for me. I have developed a ...
A. 21 May 2011: Well, first things first, why did you get married in the first place if you were not in love and didn't imagine yourself with this man until the day you die? Putting that aside, you really probably can never have anything more than friendship ... (read in full...)
Are teachers prepared for their students to be attracted to them?
Q. Hi, Dear Cupid. Would like to know : Can teachers be JUST attracted by their students who are 16/17 or even 18 ? Are they trained to be prepared that some of their students can be attracted to them? Can teachers be attached to their s...
A. 21 May 2011: It's hard for you to see them as humans because you're very young and don't have life experience. To answer your question, yes, teachers most certainly do become attracted to their students and it's of all ages, not just the older ones. And yes, ... (read in full...)
Why did my youth leader reveal this in front of everyone?
Q. Why did he have to do that? I feel so bad.:(? ? ? Last week I went to a prayer meeting with the youth at my church and when we were praying the youth leader said the Lord revealed to him that I've done something physical and the Lord has giv...
A. 15 May 2011: you should tell this guy that it wasn't so pure of him to humiliate you in front of everyone. What he did was wrong and in doing it he is hypocritical. He announces to your entire group that you've committed 'sin,' as though he had a right to judge ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with this man who I met online, as I've fallen for his personality, but I'm completely repulsed by him physically!!
Q. okay so this is a bit of a weird one. i met this guy on the internet and we quickly became close. for almost 2 years we chatted online every night until the early hours of the morning, and on the phone, texting ect. We've met up a couple of times...
A. 15 April 2011: It won't work. There had to be a physical attraction for you to fall romantically in love with him. Romantic love consists of passion, intimacy and commitment. You should feel attracted to your partner. It is bad if you don't, and a definite no-no ... (read in full...)
She told me she had feelings for me and then became an iceberg. Why?
Q. Hi, Why is my ex girlfriend so cold? She told me she had feelings for me and then became an iceberg. She says she needs a month...does that mean she wasn't telling me the truth about loving me? I don't see how people could just switch their fee...
A. 11 April 2011: Maybe she loves you but doesn't want to. Maybe she's taking time away to think if you're really what she wants. This sounds likely to be honest.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me not to be happy that my married lover had a baby with his wife?
Q. My lover just had another baby with his wife. I am very sad and disappointed about this. Is this normal? I love the guy so much and he loves me too. We have been together for two years and has been married for three years. I have always respected ...
A. 11 April 2011: Of course it's normal for you to feel like this! You have developed feelings for him but you will never be his number one. Of course you are going to feel sad and upset. Do you think that this is maybe an indication that you want something on a d... (read in full...)
Son is dating an older woman with children. How can I make him come to his senses?
Q. Hi all, I've been pretty confused about something lately and just can't seem to get my mind off of it. I'm really having a hard time figuring out why my son who is 22 y/o is dating this older woman who's 33 and has 2 kids (twins). I feel like he's ...
A. 11 April 2011: Why? Your son is an adult and can do as he pleases. If this relationship is not right it will unravel of its own accord and they will break up. As of now they are happy together and you shouldn't interfere and confuse him and jeopardize his ... (read in full...)
I messed up big time with my ex girlfriend. How can I make things right?
Q. Its been 3 months since my break up with my ex, i believed she didn't love me, i believe she was dating around guys, and had sex with this one guy i had my suspicions with. So during the last 3 months i took up drinking and smoking (not heavily but ...
A. 11 April 2011: Its good that you told her the truth. If you left it for months and months after you started seeing each other again and she found it, it would be so much worse. Well the good things are that she clearly still has feelings for you. She wouldn'... (read in full...)
Married, in my thirties, and still having crushes. Afraid I will act on them Please advise.
Q. I am married, in my thirties and generally a very good, level headed and kind person. The issue is, I have crushes. ALL the time. I don't act on them at all, but it makes me feel really guilty and worried that maybe if given the right ...
A. 11 April 2011: Awww, hey, don't worry and feel guilty about something you haven't even done!! It's perfectly normal to feel attracted to people other than your husband. It becomes an issue in your relationship when you act on them. EVERYONE who's been in a ... (read in full...)
Thirteen and oversexed. Should I ask my brother to buy me a toy?
Q. I am 13 and I want to have sex but I am obviously to young and I get horny a lot and I don't know what to do I finger myself sometimes and I use a small toy or a hair brush it is kind is satisfying but I want a vibrator but I don't want to ask my ...
A. 11 April 2011: You really shouldn't. Your brother will be creeped out. And brothers and sisters really shouldn't share those things with each other. Guess you're going to have to wait till you have your own bank account, kid.... (read in full...)
What advice can I give to my friend that is having an affair with a married woman?
Q. A friend needs advice and I am unsure how to help him. He's having a relationship with a married woman and wants to get out but doesn't know how to end it. She loves him, but I have told him that these types of relationships hardly work. He feels ...
A. 11 April 2011: If he really wants this to end he has to concentrate on the bad things about it. The fact that she will always only be a pert-time girlfriend, they will never have a life together, his feelings of shame etc. Also he should think about the kind of ... (read in full...)
I stay married for my children, but am in a relationship with a divorcee.
Q. I stay married for the children's sake but but romance with my husband died after he cheated on me and am not sleeping with each other. I have just started a relationship with a divorcee who is much younger than me and who said he doesnt mind me ...
A. 10 April 2011: Shouldn't you be wondering whether its best to stay in your marriage or not?? Staying in a loveless marriage is not always the best option for the kids. Instead of demonstrating honesty and the best of a bad situation you and your partner are ... (read in full...)
After being found out he admits to all the cheating and says he'll give up his other girlfriends
Q. Hi everybody! I and my boyfriend are been together for 2 yrs and I just found out recently that he has already a girlfriend before me and they're still together. On top of that he has other women that he sees once in a while... I found out also ...
A. 8 April 2011: This is a man who will never change. Even if he chooses to make you his wife he will still cheat on you. There are some men that will always always always take every opportunity they have to cheat. If you decide to stay with him, you should know and ... (read in full...)
Did my dad over-react? And should I go all the way with my boyfriend?
Q. me and my bf are both 15 and in love and about a month ago my parents left and he came over. we were making-out then i gave him a bj, (we still had our clothes on, his pants were unzipped). then my dad walked in grabbed him by his neck and started ...
A. 8 April 2011: No you should be thankful thats all thats happening. It means your dad is going to let you keep seeing each other but he's telling your bf to keep his hands off you. ... (read in full...)
My boss bullies me, and my boyfriend is a colleague. Am I right to feel peeved that he ignored me at a social gathering?
Q. My boss is a horrible person and a bully. She treats me like crap even though I do a good job (I have great stats for my work, better than almost everyone else). For example, she recently forced me to apologize publicly for a mistake that was her ...
A. 7 April 2011: Hmmm, well firstly I'd ask him why he did it. I'm guessing you didn't hear their conversation, is it possible that they were discussing work issues and he needed to stay to discuss them with her? Or maybe they were just right in the middle of a ... (read in full...)
Am I slutty?
Q. I want to know if I'm a drunk slut i'm 19 and In my sophomore year of college last year I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 4 months but since we broke up... ive had 2 one night stands (full intercourse) given two blow jobs, and let one othe...
A. 6 April 2011: it doesn't matter what we think. No matter how promiscuous or chaste a person may be there will always be someone who will disagree with their sexual choices. What matters is how you feel about it. You should never do anything that makes you f... (read in full...)
The more he hurts me the more I want to cheat on him!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm back with more relationship drama, i'm 18, i shouldn't be dealing with this, but anyway the last time i was on here it was about my best friend and i and our break up. call me crazy or stupid i probably am for this but i'm back with ...
A. 5 April 2011: If you don't want to completely destroy any chance that your relationship might have to recover then cheating is definitely not the answer!!! When you are on a rocky road cheating will only obliterate what is already damaged! Unfortunately, things ... (read in full...)
Did my dad over-react? And should I go all the way with my boyfriend?
Q. me and my bf are both 15 and in love and about a month ago my parents left and he came over. we were making-out then i gave him a bj, (we still had our clothes on, his pants were unzipped). then my dad walked in grabbed him by his neck and started ...
A. 5 April 2011: He didn't overeact.
You're too young to be doing these things really, and you should never do them in your parent's house. Its disrespectful to them. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is extremely insecure and controlling
Q. My girlfriend is extremely insecure and controlling. To her credit, she was absolutely honest with me up front about her "tendencies" but said during her 7 months of being single prior to dating me, she had softened up a bit. (Her ex-boyfriend of 2 ...
A. 4 April 2011: You aren't doing anything wrong here. She's sucking the life out of you. Have you spoke to her about all of these issues?? If you want to save this relationship you should talk to her about it and insist that you need more independence from her. To ... (read in full...)
I have injuries from the war and now no one wants to date me
Q. Here's the deal i got back from Iraq almost 1 year ago from a explosion in which took my leg off, and left me with bullet holes in my back. I had my leg put back on, but now there is a 10 inch scar going down the right side by my knee and wraps ...
A. 4 April 2011: by 'damaged,' goods she may not have meant your physical injuries. These other girls could have just 'bolted,' because your knowledge of war scared them and not because of the scars or anything. And no, not all girls are like this. I dated so... (read in full...)
Is there any way our fooling around could have caused pregnancy?
Q. I'm extremely scared, probably freaking out a little too much. But I need help. My boyfriend and I were in his car fooling around this past weekend. Clothes were on. By accident I put my hands on the inside of just the top of his jeans and it felt ...
A. 4 April 2011: NO!! There's NO WAY you can be pregnant from this. You have to have sperm (either ejaculate or pre-cum) deep in your vagina for pregnancy to be possible and even then it will only happen if you actually ovulate. Conceiving is quite a complex ... (read in full...)
I love him so, but I'm scared of getting hurt. He is still friends with his ex's. Please help.
Q. Iv'e currently been with my boyfriend for 4 months however we've been friends for two years. My problem is that I can't stop thinking about his ex girlfriends. I love him and I trust him. I just really don't know why they bother me so much. Maybe it...
A. 4 April 2011: Well he hasn't actually done you any wrongs here. His past is his past and what matters now is that he's with you. You should forget about these people and just enjoy your boyfriend. He isn't doing anything wrong, you're just letting your ... (read in full...)
How Personal Bias and Gender Stereotypes can Influence Advice
Q. I write this article knowing full well it will not be received very well by some. I can only hope that this article will still be allowed due to the merits of the argument I am presenting. I have noticed on multiple occasions a prevalent double...
A. 4 April 2011: I know its been a while since anyone commented but I just thought I'd bring what I think to the table. I'd agree that it's not actual intentional sexism but more deep seated views that people have about men and women regarding sex. I guess in ... (read in full...)
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