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41-50,
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writes:My boss is a horrible person and a bully. She treats me like crap even though I do a good job (I have great stats for my work, better than almost everyone else). For example, she recently forced me to apologize publicly for a mistake that was her fault so that she could save face.My boyfriend knows this, and knows how badly I've struggled to deal with her behaviour. Even though I love my job, I am currently looking to leave because I constantly feel anxious and stressed.My boyfriend and I work together, but we do very different jobs. He was my boss's protégé, and I understand that it's inconvenient for him and his career that this situation has arisen. I have tried as far as possible to minimize the impact of all of this on him so as not to damage his career, including not objecting when I am treated poorly. Yesterday, a group of colleagues went for a drink after a seminar at work. I came along later, due to the fact that I was finishing up a piece of work. When I arrived she ignored me completely, and I sat at the end of the table next to a couple of female colleagues. My boyfriend, who was sitting next to her, remained in his seat all night until she left, and he barely acknowledged me.I did not expect this. I didn't think he'd jump up straight away and join me, but I did think that after twenty minutes or so he might have said, “I'm just going to speak to my girlfriend” and come over. Am I right to feel peeved that he didn't? Or should I accept his behaviour as the inevitable result of his being put in a difficult situation?
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reader, based51  +, writes (7 April 2011):
 Hmmm, well firstly I'd ask him why he did it. I'm guessing you didn't hear their conversation, is it possible that they were discussing work issues and he needed to stay to discuss them with her? Or maybe they were just right in the middle of a conversation in which case it would have been very rude for him to just suddenly leave. I guess you'll only find out if you ask him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): I'd be peeved. He is your boyfriend. He should have acknowledged you despite what your boss thinks of you. It seems he values his job more than he values your feelings. I don't know the situation, but talk to him about it. Ask him why? You know the type of woman your boss is, so if you can understand that his job may be jeapordised if he was to appear too over friendly with you, then fine. I personally find it horrible. She shouldn't treat your boyfriend any differently if he acknowledges you in public. Talk to him. I'm sorry that happened. I know what it's like to be ignored by someone you care about in a public setting. It hurts. Take care. xx
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reader, Love Mama  +, writes (7 April 2011):
 How long have you been together? Are you exclusive? Do you live together? Your boyfriend sounds like a total knob for doing this. Wait for somebody with at least one sensitive bone in his body. Seriously... when somebody loves you, they want the best for you...it sounds like he still wants the best for him. Are you sure you want to be with somebody like this?Love Mamaxox
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