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writes:Dear Cupid, I'm back with more relationship drama, i'm 18, i shouldn't be dealing with this, but anyway the last time i was on here it was about my best friend and i and our break up. call me crazy or stupid i probably am for this but i'm back with him but we're not engaged, we're just seeing if the feeling's still there. He's gotten his life together, he's happy and i'm happy for him but lately he's been like before neglectful. For example last week he got on to me for not calling him all this weekend i called him he refused to come to the phone. I love him with all my heart i do and I don't wanna hurt him, but whether he realizes this or not the more he does this it's motivating me to cheat on him. Help Me
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reader, courtnii  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 I feel you should try the hard to get approach to this because if you cheat you'd probably get a lot more than you bargained for. But this is a last resort ! If what he's doing has been getting you upset lately you should talk it over with him! Cheating is going to make things spiral out of control, then it will be bye bye for your relationship , you don't want that do you? Also think what would happen if other people found out about you cheating on boyfriend, people would be wary about dating you, then if you and your boyfriend were to unfortunately break up, I think the closest thing to cheating is playing hard to get, (even though I believe cheating is wrong). For instance: if you go out somewhere to socialise, try talking to other guys and see if your boyfriend notices. It will probably spark jealousy in him. By using this and similar methods he will learn to appreciate you a lot more and that he needs to be a lot more respectable towards you! Hope I helped and you are not crazy! Definitely not crazy! Good luck babe xx
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 If you feel like you want to cheat on him you are better off ending the relationship. As of yet you're not quite there, but on the way. That means either you must stop this development in the relationship, before it is too late, or you should leave. You are back together to see if the feelings still there, but even when they are, all the old problems are also there.They say there is a reason for why it didn't work the first time. The only way a relationship with an ex can work is if you have both changed dramatically and fundamentally, and wont repeat the same problems, or have developed an ability to handle these problems.Facing problems, and wanting to cheat, is the sign of the same problems occurring, and an inability to correctly handle them. Either you talk to him and FIX this, permanently, or you should end the relationship. A good relationship wont make you want to cheat, besides wanting to cheat out of revenge is both childish and wrong. Cheating in itself shows a lack of morals, so you do not want to lower yourself to the level of a cheater. Break it off instead. Remember that any new boyfriend you get, who finds out you cheated, will not respect you. Do not cheat.
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 a very good answer^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^until he realizes it and wants to change, it will most likely stay the same.
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reader, Plexi +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Hun, first of all you are not stupid or crazy........you are human! People usually don't change unless they really want to so you can not esxpect him to become someone he is not. If you are not hapy in this relationship and feel that his neglectful behaviour pushes you into the arms of another then just break up with him and find yourself a special guy who will treat you right and who deserves you after you break up. I understand that you may not like hearing this because you love him and feel attached to him but believe me hun, there is nothing worse then loving someone who will never stop hurting you. You are young and you are right, you do not need to waste your youth with a guy who isn't crazy for you when there are so many nice guys out there who would love to treat you the way you deserve to be treated!Good luck hun, I hope this helps a bit........XOXO
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reader, based51  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 If you don't want to completely destroy any chance that your relationship might have to recover then cheating is definitely not the answer!!! When you are on a rocky road cheating will only obliterate what is already damaged! Unfortunately, things going wrong in a relationship is usually the motivation for cheating and results in such awful awful consequences. Usually it is even a very bad idea to have any relations at all with anyone for the first six months or so after a break up.If you are upset with him then you need to discuss the issues with him, not run into the arms of another man. It sounds as though this is something that you have spoken about before and the problem is just re-appearing. You guys have broken up before?? Over this?? Usually on-off relationships mean that you care deeply for each other but there are continuing issues that cannot be resolved because of natural differences. A person is who they are - you cannot change them. If an isolated incident were bothering you, then sometimes a relationship can prevail through it. But when its a deep aspect of a person's personality, then rarely will things work out. The way it goes in relationships, you either accept someone for their flaws and all or you decide you want something different and break up. What is it that you want here?
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