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writes:me and my bf are both 15 and in love and about a month ago my parents left and he came over. we were making-out then i gave him a bj, (we still had our clothes on, his pants were unzipped). then my dad walked in grabbed him by his neck and started yelling. now he wont let me see him. last night he snuck in my window and i sucked on his neck cuz he had a big bruise where my dad grabbed him. i feel bad, should i go all the way with him? and do think my dad over-reacted? Reply to this Question
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reader, based51  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 No you should be thankful thats all thats happening. It means your dad is going to let you keep seeing each other but he's telling your bf to keep his hands off you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question since that happend my dad + bf made up and we still havent gone all the way we all sit around and watch movies but my bf and dad always have these "talks" should i be consernd?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Over reacted ? You are kidding right ?I think your dad gave proof of great self control if all he did was yelling, as opposed to totally loosing it and kicking BOTH your butts. Which would have been reproachable ( never resort to physical violence) but understandable in the circumstances. The poor man comes home to find his 15 y.o. daughter engaged in sexual acts both inappropriate for her age,and against the law ( you are under the age of consent ) under his own roof the moment he turns his back. Shold he have clapped his hands and cheered, in your mind ?? Of course he won't let you date him. He cannot trust you not to engage in sexual acts that , you being a clearly immature minor, and living under his roof supported by his money, he has any right to have a say about, and he cannot trust you to show respect and sense of boundaries ( as confirmed by the fact that you let the boy sneak in again , behind your dad's back ). So he has to be strict and watch you like a hawk.So, you wonder if you should go all the way with the boy - to sort of kiss his booboo away, like ? The answer can only be a resounding NO ! 15 , in my view, is too young anyway to be sexually active- but I suppose that SOME 15 y.o. girls can handle sex responsibly. Unluckily, you are not among them.
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reader, inhibited  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 I was the male with all the questions.
If he walked in when the act was being performed I don't think he over reacted considering your age and it was under his roof.
As someone previously mentioned you are his little girl and to some extent you always will be. As time moves on things you do will lessen that feeling but I don't think it'll ever truly go away.
Has your dad mentioned it or apologised for being violent? Most grown men could crush a 15 year old boy so the violence used may not have been so harsh as any neck markings might at first imply? Possibly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor the male that had alot of Questions: yes i was doin it when he walked in. they do let me wear makup and stuff. yes they know we date. and yes they like him he is a good person, just cuz he was messing around dosnt make him a bad person i mean what teenage boy isnt tryin 2 "get some".
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): At what point exactly did your dad walk in? Were you actually performing the BJ when he walked in? if that's the case he almost certainly reacted as any father would but if you were just petting when he walked in then asking if your dad over reacted is all relative.:- Do your parents let you dress in tight clothes :- Do they let you wear makeup?:- What kind of parents are they? Are they strict?:- Are they religious:- What is their opinion of this boy? Have they heard he's bad news?:- Was your dad aware you had a boyfriend and have been seeing boys for a while?If you care for this guy you're going to feel bad for him. That's perfectly natural but under no circumstances do anything physical out of sympathy. I have to agree with what others have said here. If you're wondering if you should have sex then you're probably not ready to be having it yet.
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reader, raiders +, writes (5 April 2011):
 No he didn't overreact, and you should be respecting your parents home. Your boyfriend had no business sneaking in your bedroom after you guys got caught this is only going to anger your father more and you are way out of line here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): No your dad didn't overreact and what you did was illegal. I have no doubt in my mind that if your dad finds out you went all the way with this guy, then the next sex your boyfriend will be having will be with a big ass convict named Bubba in prison.
If you feel bad now, just wait until your dad catches him again.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 April 2011):
 1. dad was overly rough but did not over-react. he's a daddy and you are his little girl
2. if you have to ask if you should go all the way you should not.
my daughter was 15/16 when she slept with her first boyfriend.... later on after they broke up and she met her first adult love of her life at 18 she cried in my arms that she had not 'saved herself' for him.....
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reader, based51 +, writes (5 April 2011):
He didn't overeact.
You're too young to be doing these things really, and you should never do them in your parent's house. Its disrespectful to them.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 No I don't think your father over-reacted. Perhaps he was a little too rough but then, imagine how upset you would be if your 15 year old daughter was presumably about to engage in sex. Far too young and far too inexperienced, oblivious almost to the dire ramifications such things can lead to. He did not know what you were about to do, what would have been going through his mind except worry that you, driven by hormones and the excitement of such things, would have done later on? And now you are actually considering having sex with your boyfriend? I don't know whether or not you are still a virgin but I would advise against it, wait until you are older and ready for it, emotionally and physically prepared.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): You should definately NOT go all the way with him because you feel bad, that is ridiculous!!!
and your dad was just being a dad...first time my dad caught me making out with my bf he also kicked my bf out and i got grounded for a week cuz he couldnt handle the fact that his little girl is actually growing up and into boys and the thought of a boy touching his little girl is a no go. it still is but he accepts it more now since i am 19.
dont worry about it...your dad will calm down in time, its natural parent instincts.
But please dont sleep with ur bf bcoz of that!
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