Could I suffer from premature ejaculation?
Q. I am a virgin but hopefully not for long ;) anyways i obvioulsy dont know how long i can last in bed but it REALLY worries me that i wont be long enough. I understand PE to be the inability to delay ejaculation. Well like i said im not expe...
A. 27 December 2009: I actually asked an expert (another guy!) he says the more you think about it, the more nervous you'll be, so take it easy! If you're really serious about the girl then you'll be fine. Don't rush into anything just cos you want to lose your ... (read in full...)
I am love with a co worker, and don't know how to let her know!
Q. hello i need help on this i am in love with this coworker but she work in front of the house i work in the back how can i tell her i am in love with her? or ask her out? i dont want to ask her at the job. but how can i do this? she is single! ...
A. 3 December 2009: How do you mean you work in the back of the 'house' and her in the front?! Have you spoken to her a lot? If you have spoken heaps, and you get along well, and she's receptive to talking to you, it's a lot easier to ask her if she fancies coming for ... (read in full...)
Out of the blue he tells me "I don't deserve you". Why would he say this?
Q. i love my boyfriend very much, we been together for almost 7 months but i have always known him, he loves me too im his first love and first serious girlfriend, we have fun together, can be ourselfs around eachother and he always makes sure i come ...
A. 19 November 2009: According to 'Cosmo', guys who say they don't deserve you usually have something to feel guilty about...lol
If he's been a first rate boyfriend (and it sounds like he is) up to this point, take it for drunken ramblings until you have a reason t... (read in full...)
He is a liar and a cheat! Now how do I get over him for good?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm hoping someone can help me with this. I broke up with my bf of 3yrs. last week. I just got so tired of his behaviour, he is 26 but has hissy fits like a 2yr. old when things don't go his way, he does "baby-talk", he thinks its funn...
A. 19 November 2009: Well, he certainly doesn't sound like much of a catch to me! You did the right thing in breaking things off. You deserve so much better than him.
If you re-read what you've written here, the very idea of going back out with him should be abhorren... (read in full...)
Ex wants to get back together but she has a boyfriend
Q. My ex told me she wanted to get back together (dated 4 years), but she has a new boyfriend (dated a few months).She told me that breaking up with him would be hard, and she'd do it "very soon"--that was 2 days ago. since then she hasn't called me or ...
A. 19 November 2009: Well it sounds at the very least that she has no idea of what she really wants, or that she wants both of you!
What do YOU want?! Why did you break up in the first place? If it's something easy and fixable, then good luck.
If it's somethin... (read in full...)
Why are him and his friends staring at me?
Q. There is this one guy from my class that stares at me in the hallway for at least three seconds. He also smiled at me a couple times or smiled in my direction. In class he will look at me but look quickly away. He used to stare at me for a minute ...
A. 19 November 2009: Ah...have a look online and google 'body language', there are quite a few reputable sites dedicated to this. Certain tells (without looking like you're staring at him!) can be discovered.
For example; direct eye contact, means he's interest... (read in full...)
Victim of a prank and now confused?
Q. I'm honestly hated, or atleast I think so, by someone I'm in love with- and that I'm not able to get over. Someone who was a bully to me heard that I was going to ask that one person who hates me, and at that time didn't, out and decided to play a '...
A. 19 November 2009: I've been in your shoes in almost the exact same way! When I was at school, I really fancied this boy, and another girl in my class (don't know if you have 'rose day' where you are, but boys and girls can buy flowers for people they fancy) bought a ... (read in full...)
Which of these amazing girls should I date?
Q. (First off I would like to apologize for the length of this message. There's just some background information I thought might be necessary to put before my question) Hey people I am 15 years young and live in Maine. I have got myself stuck bet...
A. 19 November 2009: Hi, it sounds to me that you are more concerned of which of the two girls is more convenient, which is a bit of strange variable to me. Of course the obvious answer would be which of the girls do you LIKE more? Who makes you happiest when you're ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me, but hasn't turned in the key! Why?
Q. My boyfriend moved out without warning. He was a horrible communicator. His name is on the lease and he said that he would give me the key when the lease is up. Why keep the key?...
A. 18 November 2009: Do you have any idea why he left? Maybe he kept the key because he's still got things round your place so even if you're out he can still come in and get them. I don't know about you, but this would make me extremely uncomfortable!
Have you aske... (read in full...)
My husband is abroad and doesn't send money or call to talk.
Q. i am 41 years i been married for almost 14 years and we have 3 kids my problem is my husband i was asking myself if i need quit my marriage, my husband and i do not talk regarding family matters, sex do not say i love you he did not talk to often we ...
A. 18 November 2009: As bad as things seem, you still want to save your marriage, so you're willing to go the distance. Is he though? It sounds to me like you only have the children in common! How old are they?
You need to get a straight answer from him, a few days... (read in full...)
Obsession or Procrastination? How can I focus on my work?
Q. I'm supposed to be writing a thesis but find myself thinking about my lover all the time, and scouring pages like these for answers. I don't think badly of him or suspect him of anything (except being a gorgeous rascal), I just wonder about him and ...
A. 18 November 2009: It is hard to compartmentalise when you're in a brand new relationship! I can totally sympathise with you...however, I think maybe that you are procrastinating about your thesis! Are you having trouble with it?
I usually find my mind starts t... (read in full...)
The woman I love is there, but ignoring me. How can I reach her?
Q. Just over two years ago I met the most incredible and beautiful woman. She is a professional Dominatrix and I had sought out her services to indulge some 'kinks'. However, we hit it off and never did anything professionally. We became really good ...
A. 18 November 2009: Can you talk to mutual friends? These same friends who told you she 'hates' you might be able to give you some more information, though it would be easier going straight to the source! Can you get a friend to go as a mediator between the two of you ... (read in full...)
Do I still like my boyfriend more than a friend?
Q. Hey, I'm in a relationship and I'm thinking of ending it. I've always been an undecided person, so I'm seeking for a bit of advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 5 months. We're both 16. He really is a great guy; Calm, kin...
A. 18 November 2009: I can see that you're very conflicted in what you feel for this guy. There are no right or wrong feelings to feel when starting out in a relationship! Butterflies, well, I've experienced them with a few guys, but then gone off them all together! My ... (read in full...)
Insecure & Losing My Mind...
Q. Please help me... I'm really suffering. I have done countless Google searches, read through hundreds of forums and advice columns, and sought the help of family, friends, and even my significant other, but nothing will silence my thoughts and ...
A. 18 November 2009: Teenagers are a lot more insecure than adults, all those extra hormones flying around our bodies, I'd guess. Your boyfriend was a totally different person as a teenager than he is now, so things he would have forgiven then (he probably didn't know ... (read in full...)
Do I give my husband another chance or give it a go with mr perfect?
Q. Where to begin. Me and my husband have been married 8 years. But the last year and a half lived apart it started out just for work but progressed to a real seperation. Our marraige has been rocky for most of its duration. We have argued for yrs and ...
A. 18 November 2009: I think that if you read back over what you have just written, you'll see which man deserves you more!
On the one hand, we have your husband who is physically and emotionally abusive and seems to want you only when it's convenient and on his term... (read in full...)
To date or not to date?
Q. I've been talking to a guy for almost a year and the past 2 months we've been spending more time together. I have a couple of questions.. he has bad credit and short on money. I feel so shallow when I think of that being the dealbreaker for going to ...
A. 18 November 2009: You aren't shallow at all, you're just looking to the future. The idea of bad credit when you are looking at a long term relationship can be a bit of a downer for you (and him!) in relation to buying a house together etc.
If he's short on money, h... (read in full...)
To others it seems like there is not a lot to lose, but to me its the world!
Q. Hi. I have a major problem i've been in love with this guy for the best part of a year and a half. We were friends and were in the same class, i really thought he liked me, he used to get really nervous around me, like sometimes he couldnt talk to ...
A. 18 November 2009: Do you know for certain that he would never see you as more than a friend? Has this information come directly from him or is it something you've 'heard' from someone else?
I'm very concerned that you feel you 'can't go on' without him, you've m... (read in full...)
I love her dearly but really don't know if the feeling is mutual anymore
Q. I am a 47 year old male, my partner is 32 we have been together for about 12 years now and have a lovely six year old daughter. I tell her i love her everyday,she only says this if i have said it first. if i go to cuddle her its as though i am in he...
A. 18 November 2009: Talk to her. Find out what's going on in her mind.
Maybe it's not a coincidence that you haven't seen without clothes since your daughter was born..! Has she ever suffered from depression at all? She sounds like she's really insecure about hers... (read in full...)
I feel depressed, unhappy and ugly.
Q. I feel depressed, unhappy and ugly. My first love and I broke up 3 months ago because he doesn't want to deal with our relationship. He basiclly put me in the depression I'm in and then left me. He also now tells me that I am not attractive to him ...
A. 18 November 2009: I'm so sorry that you feel so awful. I know you don't want to hear this now, but you're better off without him. It probably feels like you'll never be happy again, but this will pass, I promise you!
As for getting over him, time heals all wounds, ... (read in full...)
I know nothing about dating! Has anyone got any advice?
Q. I am a 20 year old male who has never had a date because I've always been to shy to ask anyone. I am, now, perfectly confident in myself and can talk to girls much more easily. The problem is I don't really know absolutely anything about dating and ...
A. 18 November 2009: Okay, firstly, date venues. Once you find a girl you like, get to know her and ask her what activities she enjoys. This doesn't mean it has to cost a fortune! Just if you make a bit of effort to find out what she likes, you'll have a much easier ... (read in full...)
I need 'alone time'! How do I get this with others around all the time?
Q. I never have time to 'be alone'.... and no I dont mean like sleeping time, like 'me time' to make me happy and explore. My dad or his girlfriend is always here so I can never get done what I am trying to do. How do I get some alone ti...
A. 18 November 2009: Oh, sorry! I totally missed the point about 'exploring'! Yes, well you wouldn't want to do 'that' in public would you! Forgive me.
I agree with the previous poster, lots of music to cover any noise of enjoyment is probably the thing to do here!
D... (read in full...)
Having a bad tug of war with my heart..over my current guy and the ex bf! Help!
Q. Alright, so my ex and I had been dating for just over a month when he broke up with me because I was distracting him from God (since we are both Christians) and that he just needed time and space to figure things out in his life because he has a ho...
A. 18 November 2009: Aww..you're welcome! Any time you feel like giving us an update into how it's going, feel free, love to hear from you! AK.... (read in full...)
After he's done things to hurt me, he still just blames me. How can I make this work?
Q. Hi, I am 19 and I have been in the relationship I'm in right now for almost 2yrs. I have a very big problem with my partner. I have lied to him as well as cheating. I am not proud or happy about what I did, but there is nothing I can do to change ...
A. 18 November 2009: Yup, I was kidding, I should have realised that sarcasm doesn't come across well when you're typing it rather than saying it!
I am glad you've taken off the rose coloured glasses and are beginning to see him as he really is! You can contact ... (read in full...)
What's his problem? Why does he act this way around only me?
Q. There is this guy in one of my classes. I've noticed that he will not come near me. Like he needed a spot to work and instead of just going to the one that was next to me he went to the one on the other side, but the whole time he kept looking over ...
A. 18 November 2009: It does sound to me that he fancies you. The very fact that he's able to talk to other girls (him being shy and quiet anyway) says that he's less into them than he is to you. I'm sure you've noticed that you always have no problem talking to guys ... (read in full...)
Can I get herpes from giving him a hand job?
Q. I met a 46 year old man the other night and I am 23.... We ended up making out and things started to go further and he told me he has herpes on his genitals. He said it was over for me to give him a hand job but not oral. So I did. He was not ...
A. 18 November 2009: As the previous poster says, I doubt that you would have contracted herpes from him, but if you have any kind of sexual contact with him again, ask him to use a condom. Better safe than sorry!
This is a horrible affliction to have as it will alw... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to hate my crush. The fairytale is not gonna happen?
Q. I’ve been having boy troubles! My crush that I have liked for almost 2 years, me and him has been friends. I think that my love for him is slowly fading away. I’m sick of the fact that he doesn’t pretend like he cares about me and I feel hate when I ...
A. 18 November 2009: After reading your post, I think you know that by the way he treats you he doesn't feel that much for you.
I think you're more scared of never having a boyfriend again to break up with him. Don't sink to his level, you're better than that! He... (read in full...)
I have had unprotected sex for 5 months and not fallen pg, does this mean I cant have kids or something?
Q. im 17 years old i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, hes 23 years old, ever since we got together we havent used protection once, i dont have to worry about STD's because we have been tested and we are both okay. the thing is i dont want ...
A. 18 November 2009: Why do you think you never got around to going on the pill? I think that on some level you do want a baby. At 17 do you really want to be responsible for another human being? Forget going out and partying (or whatever you do for fun), you'll be ... (read in full...)
He said..I am boring!! How do I become more interesting?
Q. How do i become more interesting? a guy that likes me said im boring. im your typical student i go to school durin the week . then on weekends i hang out with friends and party or whatever comes up... i never liked him rejected him a few times until ...
A. 18 November 2009: Is it really that important to you how someone who you don't even like that much, feels about you? How nice of him to say you're boring! Charming really.
If it is important to you, what sorts of things does he do with his time? You could try and ... (read in full...)
I have to make a choice between 2 men as I'm hurting them..what do I do?
Q. I am torn between two men. The first is my boyfriend of 7 months, he is the best thing that's ever happened to me and is completely devoted to me in every way. We began a long distance relationship in September when I moved away to university, and ...
A. 18 November 2009: Long distance relationships are too hard for most unless your relationship is extrememly strong. I'm worried about your boyfriend self-harming... and this is only going to stress you out more.
I'm reading from your post that it seems like you... (read in full...)
Will asking her out...ruin our good friendship?
Q. Hey Folks. I could really use some advice from like the best in the biz. so here it goes. Me and a girl (both 15 years old) are quite good friends like we hug like everyday usually but she hugs other people however i'm in love with her and...
A. 18 November 2009: Compliments will get you lots of answers!
Okay, firstly, how does your friend feel about you, has she given any indication that she likes you more than a friend? Hugs are a way to show affection to friends, and she obviously is an affectio... (read in full...)
Having a bad tug of war with my heart..over my current guy and the ex bf! Help!
Q. Alright, so my ex and I had been dating for just over a month when he broke up with me because I was distracting him from God (since we are both Christians) and that he just needed time and space to figure things out in his life because he has a ho...
A. 18 November 2009: It's obvious that your faith is important to both you and your ex, but this doesn't give him the right to manipulate you by crying that he 'needs' you! You feel pity for your ex because of his past and this could be a symptom of what you think you ... (read in full...)
I have a huge dilemma! Five girls to choose from...what should I do?
Q. ok. i have a dilemma (and no it isn't my spellings) right. i'm a bit of an accidental player...in that i'm a flirt. i'm totally in love with this girl (not naming names so we'll call her 1) i love (1). and yet i have 4 other girls try...
A. 18 November 2009: Well, lucky you!
Whilst it may be flattering that so many girls are 'after you', you don't necessarily 'want' any of 2-4. You say that you LOVE 1 but how does she feel about you?
I'd go with your heart rather than your 'little head' in this si... (read in full...)
I get overly excited with my bf...and it's embarrassing! Is this normal?
Q. Um, so, this is very embarassing. But I can't ask for advice anywhere else but on the internet, because, well, it IS way too embarassing. So, to get straight to the point, I've been dating a guy for 2 months. We've grown really close together, ...
A. 18 November 2009: Depending on time of the month, the amount of lubrication can be either too much or too little. Every woman is different, unless you've been taking any medication lately (which could be a contributing factor) this is normal FOR YOU...it will vary ... (read in full...)
Have I fallen in love with her?
Q. I need help understanding myself. I am a man living in the US Who moved here about 4 years ago for work from tokyo after being there for 5 years and meeting a woman. In between jobs had a child with her and built her and my daughter a beautiful ...
A. 18 November 2009: I doesn't sound like 'love' to me. You wouldn't be sleeping with other women if it was love. Obviously you love the mother of your children, but wouldn't say you're 'In Love' with her.
How does she react when you tell her you keep her around f... (read in full...)
I need 'alone time'! How do I get this with others around all the time?
Q. I never have time to 'be alone'.... and no I dont mean like sleeping time, like 'me time' to make me happy and explore. My dad or his girlfriend is always here so I can never get done what I am trying to do. How do I get some alone ti...
A. 18 November 2009: You can be alone in your bedroom can't you? I spend a lot of time in mine, reading, using the computer etc.
I also go to the beach a lot, by myself, or the park, if you go early in the morning, there aren't many people around and you have time to ... (read in full...)
How can you believe someone loves you?
Q. [MODERATOR NOTE: Two posts from the same poster have been combined into one question.] I Love My Boyfriend So much But When he says he loves me i have a hard time believing he does because i have been hurt in the past. i have been with him for 7 mo...
A. 17 November 2009: When we've been burned before it's always goin to take us longer to trust again.
He sounds lovely though! He took you to meet his mother (that's a serious thing for a guy!) it tells me that he's committed to you and really does love you.
... (read in full...)
Smelling sweet... or not!
Q. This question may sound a bit stupid, but do women ever get paranoid of what they smell like down there? I don't smell or anything but when my boyfriend plays with me I get paranoid just in case I do, and even if I did would a boy tell you? I'm just ...
A. 17 November 2009: When we're sexually aroused there are going to be smells down there, not unclean smells, just normal ones!
I usually shower first (before we have sex) and use a strawberry body wash so no thoughts of what i smell like enter my mind!
There a... (read in full...)
After he's done things to hurt me, he still just blames me. How can I make this work?
Q. Hi, I am 19 and I have been in the relationship I'm in right now for almost 2yrs. I have a very big problem with my partner. I have lied to him as well as cheating. I am not proud or happy about what I did, but there is nothing I can do to change ...
A. 17 November 2009: Death?! Torture?! These are not the words of a guy who has just been 'hurt'...he sounds psychotic! Please, please leave him! You say you've nowhere to go, but what about a women's refuge? Not sure if you go to church, but someone in the clergy co... (read in full...)
I worry that my friend is influenced negatively by her entourage! What can I do?
Q. My close friend has always been a real individual- star-wars loving, outgoing, person. She is real peppy and bubbly. Well, she's going through some kind of weird transitional phase and she's gotten real quiet and secretive. She started hanging out ...
A. 17 November 2009: All you can really do is be there for her if she does need to talk. Maybe invite her to come round and see you more often? Perhaps if she doesn't hang around with her 'entourage' as often she'll change back to her old positive self? Confide in her, ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and desperate to have sex?
Q. i am a guy of 18yrs old am still a virgin and i have a girl-friend i keep telling her about sex but she ignores me and i need it desperately what can i do to have sex?...
A. 17 November 2009: Is it more to do with the fact that you feel that 18 is too old to still be a virgin or more that your hormones are so abundant they're making you feel like you'll turn radio-active if you don't have sex right now?!
There is nothing wrong with wai... (read in full...)
After he's done things to hurt me, he still just blames me. How can I make this work?
Q. Hi, I am 19 and I have been in the relationship I'm in right now for almost 2yrs. I have a very big problem with my partner. I have lied to him as well as cheating. I am not proud or happy about what I did, but there is nothing I can do to change ...
A. 17 November 2009: Heard that expression, 'Once bitten, twice as shy"? After you cheated on him, major trust issues erupted (obviously!) and he's now trying to get back at you by making you feel as bad as he did when you hurt him. I honestly think that this situation ... (read in full...)
I worry that my friend is influenced negatively by her entourage! What can I do?
Q. My close friend has always been a real individual- star-wars loving, outgoing, person. She is real peppy and bubbly. Well, she's going through some kind of weird transitional phase and she's gotten real quiet and secretive. She started hanging out ...
A. 17 November 2009: I'd be concerned about deeper issues that instigated these changes in your friend! For someone who has always known their own mind, to go to being a 'sheep' can't all be about peer pressure entirely and so suddenly! She is over 21, so without a... (read in full...)
Why are him and his friends staring at me?
Q. There is this one guy from my class that stares at me in the hallway for at least three seconds. He also smiled at me a couple times or smiled in my direction. In class he will look at me but look quickly away. He used to stare at me for a minute ...
A. 17 November 2009: You say this boy is outgoing, but maybe this is just bravado and he's really quite shy too? Staring at you because he's got a thing for you but too scared to actually talk to you! (I used to have guys stare at me back in the day - though usually ... (read in full...)
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