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writes: (First off I would like to apologize for the length of this message. There's just some background information I thought might be necessary to put before my question) Hey people I am 15 years young and live in Maine. I have got myself stuck between two girls. Neither of them live all that close to me but I can see both of them on different weekends. But anyway one of them is 3 days less than a year younger than me. I met her a little under two years ago and we started dating around 3 months after. We went through a lot considering that the friend that we met each other through liked me and was pissed off when she found out we where dating. Then during the summer last year we tried running away together for reasons that would take about 10 pages to explain. My point is that since we started dating she was the most important thing in my life and i loved her more than anyone. Probably about a month and a half ago she broke up with me as she has more than once (I have broken up with her too) for the same reason as always. My parents were furious when we tried running away and they vowed to never let me see her again until i was 18. Of coarse after a few months after we were seeing each other in secret. But this meant that we didn't get to see each other more than a few times a month. So she ended it. I knew it would be the end of us but I didn't expect it to end so soon. The only problem is that we are still very much in love and I have tried to convince her to take me back but I also understand why she thinks we can't date. I had no problem waiting for her to realize that we can, that was, until just recently. I met this girl called Mary during this summer. She was my cousin's-boyfriend's-best friend. I started talking to my cousin's boyfriend because she was having some trouble with her relationship and I wanted his side of what happened. Unfortunately they ended up breaking up. Then Matt, her boyfriend, started talking about his best friend who he had recently gotten into a huge argument with. I got him to let me talk to her because he wasn't telling me anything about the argument and he said I could ask her. Thus I met this girl named Mary who's 13. She was very difficult to get her trust which really set her apart from anyone else that I had ever met. Of coarse this made me interested but I knew that I was in no position to be flirting with her. We had a long conversation about Matt and what had happened and she told me that she would talk to him, which was my goal. I continued talking to Mary and Matt for a while after. Matt was the first that stopped talking to me and then me and Mary slowly stopped IMing each other. I got bored about two weeks back and decided to start talking to Mary again. Long story short we are now best friends and she is the most amazing girl I have ever met. Last weekend I visited my grandparent's house so that we could go to the movies and see 2012 because we had a long conversation about it and we agreed that the best place for us to first meet in person would be watching that movie. It was amazing. I had a great time and I could definitely feel a connection between us. The next day we had about 2 hours to hang out before I had to go back home. We hung out with one of her friends and ended up back at her friend's house that was very close to the park that we met at. When I went to go back to the park to get picked up she followed me onto the train tracks that I had to follow for a bit. I am sure that we would have kissed had it not been for her friend being able to see us. When I got home I talked to her on myspace and found out that she wanted me to kiss her after I told her that I wanted to. And so now I know that she likes me and I know that if I really wanted to she could be my girlfriend. But that brings me to my problem. Basically, I can try to let my feelings go for my ex and start to pursue a relationship with Mary, or I can hold onto the hope that my ex might finally take me back. There's a few variable to throw in too. Mary lives further away then my ex. My ex could possibly, however unlikely, be moving to Boston next month. Apparently Matt and Mary dated for a while while we weren't talking and now he started talking to me because I am talking to her and I am sure that he doesn't want me to date her. I am just asking for any advice on which one of these amazing girls you think I should date. Any other comments are appreciated too!! Thanks.~SFL
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reader, youngoneireland  +, writes (19 November 2009):
what you also need to think about is with your ex is that you said that you have broken up with each other quite a few times and at the moment you are not together, so what im trying to say is that you could end up deciding to wait around for your ex to take you back and then a few weeks down the line you split up again and by that time you could of missed out on an amazing chance with this other girl that you have met.
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (19 November 2009):
 Hi, it sounds to me that you are more concerned of which of the two girls is more convenient, which is a bit of strange variable to me. Of course the obvious answer would be which of the girls do you LIKE more? Who makes you happiest when you're with them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): Move on. Life is too short for contemplation. Dude it is really time to move on. You are holding for fear for someone new when it is so obvious that Mary should be your choice.
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