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writes: Apologies for the length of this but I need to get it off my chest.I'm 25 and have been with my boyfriend who's 29 for 4 years now.Recently he's become addicted to looking at websites on Adolf Hitler on the Internet; even masturbating over pictures of him and participating in website/forums about Hitler.I can't get rid of the Internet from our house since I need it for my job (I'm a website management consultant!) so what can I do.This Hitler obsession has started worrying me. He refuses to have sex with me when I initiate it - instead wants to masturbate over pictures of Adolf Hitler. He refuses to talk about anything else but Hitler - and I'm getting worried.He's even started taping TV programmes about Hitler too.Yet when I met him four years ago he was such a lovely person. He isn't being controlling or anything like that, it's just he's become more odd.I also have a young son by this man too.What is the best thing I can do in this relationship?? How can I get him back to the man he used to be??Kellie
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reader, bonym  +, writes (20 May 2006):
 Kellie, I read this post the first day it was posted and I have only now managed to put keyboard to computer to give you what I hope is a respectable answer. I am a tad, well actually I am very concerned about your fella. It sounds to me that your boyfriend has developed an unhealthy and rather disturbing obsession with Hitler. Now to me the problem is not the fact he is masturbating over another man, I mean, I dont advocate that thing, I believe God made Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve, but I am not talking about the gay stuff now and I am certainly not trying to cause offence to anyone, so please no one be offended, its just my belief, the problem is who he is obsessed about. To me, even though as I said I am not into men being into men like that, if he was obsessed with Denzel Washington, Taye Diggs, Tyson Beckford, Jesse Metcalfe etc etc I would think "well they are absolutely gorgeous men" and I can perhaps see why they like them but this is highly worrying because if all he is talking about is Hitler, whom as we all know was one of the most evil and racist men in the world does it not concern you that he may start getting involved in all that Neo-nazi junk and he may be starting to turn into a vile racist before your eyes. Obsessions can have a variety of ways of manifesting, for him he is sexually obsessed with Hitler for some bizarre reason but it is going beyond a sexual desire and it may even turn into a character issue. Your guy has a SERIOUS problem and you need to absolutely hound him to see a therapist because this is by no means normal behaviour, its absolutely bizarre beyond normal reasoning. Please keep us posted and all the best. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2006): this is very strange that i should have come across this problem, as my boyfriend and i have had a conversation recently about hitler, apparently when hitler gave his speeches to his people accross germany, many men where believed to have ejaculated while listening to him, they where so aroused by what he had to say that the could not contain them selves, personaly myself id love to have the power to make a man cum by just talking to him , but there you go.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (17 May 2006):
 Ok, is your problem because he is showing gay tendencies or because his object of lust is a Nazi?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): everone on this answer page is right!!! he has a problem...a scaaaaarrreey problem. i would leave him. he must have dark side. i dont know who adulf hitler is, but im assuming that he's a man. he might be going gay on you. thats scary. you dont want to be with this guy, i mean, if its some kind of mental condition he has, you're going to have see him deal with it, and its not going to be easy, and what if he does get help, that doesnt necessarely mean its going to straiten him out and turn him back to the person whom you first met, that loving person. the truthe is he isnt that kind of person, he has a very, weird, dark side to him and has obviously gotten comfortable with you seeing his dark side. dont take chances. i mean i've seen shows of women who later on their marriages found out that their husbands were gay, how'd they found out? they found out when it was too late, they felt sick and tested positive for a std and some for hiv, because there men were sleeping with other men. its sad. some of these woman had no signs of their men being gay, and you at least have a sign. i feel so bad for you, i truly do. take the child you have together and leave him. seriously! you'll be much better off if you do. good luck! you're going to need it!!!
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reader, Bibbi +, writes (17 May 2006):
 Darling, you need to talk to him! I'm not going to make any nasty remarks about him, as this is not un-natural! Although this is a strange thing to be doing, he is most probably going through a stage about Hitler. I am gonig through this huge "I love Fall Out Boy" stage at the moment and he just seems to be going through the same thing. The masterbating may seem over the top! But as neither of us are men, we wont ever be able to figure that out! Lol! Best Wishes xx
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reader, Anja +, writes (17 May 2006):
 That is weird!! Wow...no wonder you are worried. It sounds to me as if he is idolising Adolph as a figure to look up to, probably certain aspects of Adolphs character that he craves or wishes he was like?
What got him looking at websites of this abominable character on the website in the first place? He killed millions of jews...tortued them etc. Ugghh he could have at least chose another formidable character in history to look up to...
Seems as if there is a dark side to your boyfrinds personality that needs investigating... I am very concerned at the fact he blatantly admits he would rather wank over pictures of Adolph then have sex with you. Is he trying to tell you something here? I dunno...this seems quite serious and extreme...you don't have to put up with this sort of behaviour...I think it is pretty disgusting...uggghhh..sorry!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): This sounds like it could be the initial stages of some kind of serious psychosis, possibly even schizophrenia. It has happened to two friends of mine and what you describe gives me a strong feeling of deja vu.
Seek professional help as soon as possible. Your doctor should be your first stop. He'll probably want to arrange a psychiatric evaluation of your boyfriend. Move quickly, preventative action at the early stages of psychosis can help limit the overall serverity of the problem.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): Get him to seek help if that fails RUN !!!
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