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writes: HelloThere is this girl I think about heaps and heaps and I would really want to be with but she has a boyfriend. I think she used to like me but he got to her first...... Is it right to try and get her to like me again and in a sense "steal" her from him. I heard a quote once - "Love is a battlefield" or something like that, So I don't know lol.Thx
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reader, Samhamss  +, writes (5 May 2008):
I currently face a very similar problem. I would go for it. Be subtle though, If they are remotely close, he won't go without a fight.
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reader, WastedLife +, writes (29 April 2008):
There are ethics in going after a woman/girl in a relationship, or a marriage. We each have our own ethics, but these are mine: I will never interfere with a relationship unless I intend to be with that woman for as long as she'll have me. I am trying to induce her to give up someone she cares for, so I must be better than him(for her) for as long as she wishes. That being said, if I want her that much, I will go for her, no holds barred. If she does not want me, she can say so clearly and directly and I will leave. I will never take the word of a third party such as a girlfriend or even her boyfriend though.
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reader, Anja +, writes (1 June 2006):
 She is WITH someone now, can't have something that belongs to someone else.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (31 May 2006):
 Hi,
On this occasion I am not going to agree with my fellow agony aunts. You are absoloutly right, love is a battlefield. So I'd get out there while you can. You obviously care for a girl and if this girl knows you aren't or don't want to be with anyone else, surely she's see this as sweet, not desperate. It all depends the type of girl you're going for, anyways, I'm, sure she's lovely and I think you are a very sweet person to care so much about one girl. Go for it, fight for her, not literally. But just do the small things, like say "hi" when you see her and be nice to her, don't make a move just yet though. Sometimes a relationship built on friendship is better than one built on attraction.
Good Luck,
Phoebe
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reader, Anja +, writes (31 May 2006):
Well sounds like you were a bit slow on the uptake and now someone has got there before you. Let it go, there is nothing worse then a bloke going after someone who is already attached. Sorry mate you had your chance when she was single. Don't hang around for her waiting to break it up with him, that just looks desperate. She obviously can't have liked you that much as she may have asked you out before.
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