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writes:So I've known this boy a year... and after a few months of talking we discovered we liked each other more than friends, but due to distance we both agreed to just stay friends (he lives in Scotland i live in Ireland) i know pretty much everything there is to know about him, just as he knows me inside out, we really trust each other and he has always been there for me no matter, but lately I've been feeling weird.. i get really depressed when i dont talk to him and cant concentrate on anything, and my stomach starts to hurt when i think how much i miss him, and when ever my thoughts draw back to him i get very breathless and there's a pulling feeling in my chest, and i have to sit down cause my legs get very unsteady.as i said I've always had a crush on him.. but I've never felt this strongly about someone before, and i don't know what to do, cause we already agreed on being friends and he lives so far away, but i don't think i can keep going like this without him.please someone give me some advise :(
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 cut him off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI had to cancel a trip me and my friend planned for Halloween months ago, until I'm not going on the trip any more, I have enough money and time to visit him, so I decided to tell him.
His reaction not really being the one I wanted, he told me not to come, and to save my money for better things instead even though seeing him is the best use my money has to me.
I told him this but he insisted that I don't go, so I told him that if he just don't want me visiting him, all he has to do is tell me, but he said it's not that, but I can't really see what else it could be.
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reader, Indie23  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 I'm really sorry you're so uncertain about all of this, it's really not an easy situation. I read in your reply that you're going to see him soon and I think this is a good idea. Try to take your mind off him until then and when you do get to meet him in person, you guys can work out what you want to do.For the record, it sounds like this guy really does care for you. Just take things slow, you're both young, anything can happen.Indie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo mizz.butterflies
No i haven't met him in person yet, but we talk over video calls all the time and he has rang me a good few times, i am going to visit him this year, possibly in January, but i don't want to wait that long but I've no choice, cause i can't take time off college, he knows him planning to visit him.
To Indie23
I've had long distance relationships in the past, so i'm willing to try one with him, but i don't think he would be willing to try one, i know he cares about me, but he has never really said he cares about me enough to be with me.
To $izZle
I'm very sorry to hear about that, but i sort of guess that would be my biggest fear with him, since i met him a year ago now, i've never known of him actually getting with any body since meeting me, he's never even so much mentioned another girl to me, i'm debating if this is a good or bad thing, i have the money to see him, but it's college that's getting in the way.
Also thank you all for your advise it was very helpful and has made me think more into this matter.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (19 October 2010):
have u met him in person?
if not u need to meet him SOON.
u reached the point where not seeing him HURTS.
You are both in the UK after all,and there should be cheap flights and such.
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reader, Indie23 +, writes (19 October 2010):
It sounds like you really like this boy and I think you need to give a long distance relationship a chance if you are feeling this strongly towards him.
Love is different for everyone but I think you may be falling for this guy. Long distance relationships are hard, really hard, but if love is there than anything can happen.
Indie.
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reader, $izZle  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 I know what you are saying and it is hard ....when you miss him too much and you are not able to reach him and tell him how you feel about him coz you both decided to be friends make you feel like you have a knife stabbing your heart I know it :( I have been through all this and this is how it is its not easy to get over it .... and the best you can do in this situation is to keep yourself busy with activities .... go out keep yourself busy so that you don't have time to think of him coz when you think of him that's when it hurts even more :( Well this girl I fell in love with she is from another country she loved me too .... but she wanted to have sex so she did many times and it hurt me a lot but I couldn't say anything to her coz I'm too far away from her to do anything about it ... she was using pills and had sex many times I cried every time she did that I finally had enough money to go get her to my country ...I told her as soon as I finish my studies ill come get her and that was like 3 months she got pregnant in the mean time by some guy and I was sad cried a lot too told her ill take them both but she said she can't coz she married him coz she didn't want her baby to grow without a dad ...the moral of the story is it will end badly ...Never mind the stupid story of my life lol .... just don't end up like me ...zZz
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