A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I joined an internet dating site. Some people said it’s worth a go, a lot of people warned me off, and told me there are a lot of users and losers out there. I met a guy, he was nice (although he seemed to have dated a lot of women via internet – maybe he just liked meeting new people) and it eventually turned into a two year relationship which was very happy. He left the country last year for an excellent new job and we ended the relationship because I didn’t want to leave my country and go with him. We were both upset about it but we just couldn’t overcome the obstacle. Although I told everyone that this was the reason, all the people that had warned me off internet dating in the first place are now saying “we told you so” and that it was never going to work out because I met him via a dating site and those relationships usually don’t last because the people involved (meaning the guys) are players. They blame every flaw in the person and every mistake they make on being “off the internet”. I think my relationship was as genuine and as if I’d met the guy any other way, but I’m sure if I met someone else on a dating site (I’m not looking for anyone now in any way) there would once again be rolling of eyes and a lot of “haven’t you learnt your lesson”. I would like to know what others think and have experienced.
View related questions:
player, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, k_c100 +, writes (14 April 2011):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-genuine-relationships-develop-from-internet-dating-or.html
You got a lot of answers last time, did we miss something?!
A
male
reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 I haven't had any personal experiences with this, but a cousin of mine got married to a girl he met on the internet. They divorced, but only after several years of marriage, so I think the internet is not to blame for that.
...............................
A
male
reader, $izZle  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 Hi, There certainly are genuine guys who are looking for a relationship through online dating ... I know I'am 1 of them :P hehe... let me ask you ... are you doing this for the other guys or yourself :Sabout the guys being players .... hmm... you might be dating a guy off the internet and he could be a player too how would you ever know the difference about the I TOLD YOU SO .... I feel what should matter the most is if it makes you happy ... besides if the guy really loves you he will come to you and make things work against all odds ^.^ Remember darling everybody has flaws it is what make us all unique ppl might say the guy is not perfect,really who cares! ...you are the only 1 who knows if he is perfect for you ;)care!
...............................
A
female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 And what do you care ? Let them roll their eyes to their heart's content, it's not against the law.
If YOU are satisfied that your relationship was genuine, and its end had nothing to do with having met him off the net, that's all it counts. You don't need your every action and thought to be validated by public consensus.
Personally, I am one of those people who are skeptical about net-generated relationship and yes, I think too that
dating sites are too infested by users , losers, and most of all time wasters , to make the slim chance of success worth the time and effort. So, you got lucky once, you might not be so lucky the second time. But, then again, you are an
adult , hopefully a discerning, discriminating one, you have your brain and your values to guide you in any situation, so if you want to give it another try I don't see why not.
...............................
|
