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writes:My girlfriend dumped me one year ago. We remained together for two years. It was long distance relationship with occasional meeting here and there. When I looked back into that relationship, I felt guilty and ashamed for lying with her about my job and salary . I exaggerated my position and salary 4 times what I was getting . I also exaggerated about my educational qualification that I was double Masters...though that lie now has become true with me having completed double masters this year. Six months before she dumped me, I told her about my actual job and salary position but kept in hide my educational qualification. She dumped me saying that since she was from well-reputed family, I need to have a good job to make her parents impress so that they could give me her hands. When she saw me not getting to the top quickly, she gave up and left me. Few months, back I was holding grudge in my heart for her that she dumped for small reason but now I realized that she was practical I was idealist . Now I am feeling guilty and ashamed for having lied about so many stuffs with her and can't get this out of my head. I would appreciated you people could help me get rid of this guilt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): Okay so you lied to her but you're no longer together so why feel guilty? Learn your lesson and move on. Remember one thing my friend, the truth is the truth is the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): She's your ex which means its over. You did do the wring thing by lying.
Any relationship which is based on a lie is not a healthy relationship.
You realized your mistake, that's good. Don't repeat it again.
I believe that if your ex truly loved you, money wouldn't matter but as it is, it did. I don't think you should waste time thinking about it. Move on. Life is too short.
Find someone who loves you for who you are.
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reader, $izZle +, writes (29 July 2011):
 look pal you know what is best for you more than anyone in this site... OFC! you do owe her an apology for keeping her in the dark. But the way I look at it you should be happy that you didn't end up with a materialistic girl who wants you for a fat pay n all that jazz to impress others... at the end of the day you will have to spend your life with the person you marry... and do you really thing you will be happy with a girl who want you for your paycheck and your position? Well you did make a mistake by not telling her the truth... but if she knew the truth when she met you she wouldn't have been with you for the time that she was I'm sure of it. The way I look at it you did what you had to do to gain her attention.Further more if she did love you for who you are... she would have appreciated you for coming clean with her and accepted you as you are. OFC! it does have its consequences at the most she would have been mad at you for a little while for not telling her the truth but she would have come around when she realized that you love her and that's why you came clean with her... Good luck m8.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 All you can do is apologize to her, not expecting anything from her, and NOW leading your life with honesty and integrity.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 Hey. Well first of all she dumped you because she wanted a richer more educated guy to impress her parents ? that is an extreamly stupid reason to be dumped. No offence but when you are looking for someone to love you don't just go out with them because there rich or have a degree in this or a degree in that. You go out with them because you love them and think that they are a good person, so don't feel bad because you don't have a job yet you still have time to get one and when you meet someone who loves you they will love you for you and not just because you have a double masters. Unfortunely you did lie to her and now you are feeling guilty because of it, you shouldnt of felt that you had to lie about your education just to impress her. However you did lie and it wasnt a good thing to do, learn from your mistakes and make sure you don't lie again, but if she favoured you because she thought you had a double masters then well she can't be that much of a good person. Don't think about it to much and just try to get over your break up, and by all means don't think your a bad person. Hope this helps x
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