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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in Virginity category)

Virginity: Help and advice

He put his penis inside me. Am I a virgin?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4684 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I was on my summer vacation and I was fooling around with the cutest guy and we got naked and all. He fingered me and one thing led to another and umm he put his penis in my vagina (his penis was maybe 9 cm long, I dunno and I'm a virgin, or at ...

Everytime I hook up with my girlfriend I feel sick and I hurt "down there"!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Ok I have a girlfriend right? And we hook up or cuddle or whatever you want to call it, and when we do it gets really intense but, I havent had sex with her yet. Shes had it before but Im still a virgin. Now the thing is a couple of hours after ...

If two fingers hurt a penis is going to horrible!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - the other week i was at a party and ended up making out with a guy i like, he fingered me but he only used one finger and when he tried to use two it hurt alot, how can i make it looser? cz i'm 17 and wanna have sex but if two fingers hurt a penis ...

I'm in love with an 18 year old I met on the internet. He told me he wants sex, and I do too.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5558 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I am 14, and have fallen in love with an 18 year old over the internet, we have been on webcam, shared pictures, text and call eachover. he is already in a relashionship with a 16 year old but i love him andd he feels the same, he wants to come and ...

Is she lying? She didn't bleed when we first did it!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Hello, my question is my gf said that she was a virigin before me, but wouldn't that mean that when we first had sex that she would bleed? Or is she lying about me being the only one? I do trust her but Im not sure because she didnt bleed when...

We want to try and have sex but I cant bring myself to do it!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Ive been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 4 months now. Im still and a virgin and he knows this and he is very uncderstanding saying he will wait till im ready. But the problem is im too scared because I dony know what to do and ive been told ...

Should I lose my virginity to her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - A girl that Ive been dating for a little while and i are planning to go to a convention out of state and hang out and see what their is to see. we have considered having sex for the first time, usually im really nervous about the idea but this time ...

Why are guys so stupid, why do they want to be players?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I'm a 21 year old girl in college, and I love being single and independent. I was in love with a guy who dumped me after a couple months for not putting out (I'm a virgin) and I don't want to have a boyfriend for a while. I've made out with this hot ...

Struggling to have sex for the first time!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5585 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - So, I'm 24, still a virgin and have found the love of my life. We're getting engaged soon and I really would like to have sex. I have not had intercourse before because I'm afraid of the pain. We have tried before but it feels too weird and i feel ...

My First Time

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - So your first times suppose to be special, right?. You dream about finding that one lad who will sweep you off your feet and make all your dreams come true? WRONG. I was 15, gulliable and young.So innocent.The only time i'd ever mentioned sex wa...

Help its my first time today!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - okay..today is the day i have sex with my boyfriend and i'm scared because i don't know what to do with him and he wants me to be on top and i don't know anything about sex and he does not want to be on top of me because he is going to be tried and ...

How do I avoid putting myself in a vulnerable position?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I am anxious about sex and don't know what to do about it. I've always been nervous about it, because my family is somewhat strait-laced. Then, when I was a teenager, an old man once grabbed me in the market and kissed my cheek. That completely ...

It seems like my boyfriend only wants sex, but I don't. How do I handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Okay I'm 15 and I'm still a virgin and I have a boyfriend that keeps asking for sex and Im not ready for that yet...I mean like I'm ready but I just want him to wait...because the longer he wait the better my reputation be at the end.I mean I like ...

Have I lost my virginity or not? And does my boyfriend love me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5587 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I need help i dont no if i have lost my virginity or not because i dont no what its like, so someone help me. How do i know n i also want to know does my boy friend love me cos we've been together for five months now and he's been tellin me he love ...

Have I lost my 'physical' virginity?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5587 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I am 15 years old, and though sex is not intended between my boyfriend and I we are... sexually active. If that is the right way to describe it. Well recently, ever since he returned from his trip to Orlando he has been more and more attracted to me ...

Is it just a case of nerves? Why does it hurt so much?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5588 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, When my boyfriend fingers me it hurts. I am a virgin and i feel its such a tight space as he goes in - i get so uncomfortable. I have never done it with my own fingers. And when he does it, he goes in slowly, with one finger and o...

He put his penis in me but we didn't have full intercourse. Am I still a virgin?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

27 July 2009 (M) - am i still a virgin? last night me and this boy were making out on his couch i was on top and he took off my pants and my underwear and then his. at first he was just fingering me and stuff then he put his penus in me and like it hurt really bad im ...

This 22 year old virgin wants this guy SOOOOO BAD!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I've had this friend for two years. We get along well and have a lot in common. Last year we had met up with another mutual friend and were talking about dating. He had stated that relationships are just not for him and that he just can't do the ...

First time sex question!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

24 July 2009 (M) - Hello peeps, I am 25 this year and is currently seeing a 40-year old woman. She is divorced and has one child. We knew each other about two months ago and really hit it off, hence we are currently at this stage. In her marriage, she had mostl...

I'm religious and have told him I'm not taking it any further, but he still wants to try his luck. What can I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - Ok, here's what's going on. I'm mormon, age 20, a virgin. I have a bf, 21, not a virgin. I tell him my restrictions for our relationship of going to 3 months, I tell him I want to wait until marriage before I have sex, including oral, he's agreed to ...

She has a boyfriend, but we want to sleep together and I'm worried about the size of my penis. What should I do?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

22 July 2009 (M) - the girl i liked she said she liked me too but she has a bf an idk what to do. she said that it is ok that we have sex but neither of us have ever done it before. i like her alot an when we do finally have sex i want it to make her like me even ...

Want to lose my virginity but I'm scared I'll bleed. What should I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I'm fourteen, and i'm in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years, and we want to have sex soon. I'm afraid, because if he goes really fast, I'll bleed, and I don't want to bleed all over him, because if y ou're a virgin and you pop ...

She was my first time, but I'm wondering if I was hers?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

22 July 2009 (M) - i recently got married and on our first night we didnt go all the way as she said it was hurting her but even on the next day she didnt bleed but she says she was a virgin. can that happen as she doesnt play any sport and i always thought there ...

I'm a virgin and he's not, what do I do seen as he is moving a bit too fast?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Hi, I have a question about my relationship with my boyfriend. I am 19 almost 20 and he's 21, I'm a virgin and he's not. We have been dating for two months now, and I have told him that I'm still a virgin and that he's not allowed to touch certain ...

We have decided to lose our virginity to each other....but I'm scared and uncomfortable with my body

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Hey... Well ive been dating this guy for around 3 almost 4 years and like latley hes been like beenig wayyyy to much of a sweetheart :) and i love it! :] We are both 18 and agree that we are ready to loose are virginitys to each other... It will soo...

I'm a 29 year old virgin that doesn't want to wait anymore

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I'm a 29yr old virgin, and while I know that's 'okay', I really would like to have a (few) sexual experience(s) before I turn thirty. (And please don't give me self-esteem advice or wait-for-fate advice. I just really want to try this, in case I ...

What is it that causes pain for a woman when she loses her virginity?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5587 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Hiya all, I have a question about first time sex for a woman. What is it that causes pain for a woman when she loses her virginity? Is it when the hymen breaks, or when the vagina stretches? Ive never really been sure? Any help would be great...

Heartbroken over 2 guys!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I dont know how to stop this heartache feeling, it never seems to fade. I lost my virginity to this guy in december after a few too many drinks, we meet each other in the summer and liked each other but nothing happened because i was scared because ...

Is there something wrong with only wanting to have one sexual partner?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend says that I have "twisted view" whatver that means. He and I been together for almost 2 years now and he took my virginity. According to him he wants to have sex with other people now because he is too used to me. He is 19 years old. He ...

Can anyone tell whether I will bleed the first time I have sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - okay... i masturbate quite alot. but i guess its just something us girls dont admit to lol! anyway ive been with this guy now for a little under 7 months, and im not stupid i know sex will happen pretty soon! but we've not rushed anything.. my que...

Just had sex for the first time and it was painless! I don't understand.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - hi i am 15 and just lost my virginity today to my boyfriend. it was also his first time too. anyways he is like about 6 inches or something like that and when we had sex it didnt hurt me at all! i was already used to being fingered. anyways i didnt ...

I'm feeling guilt and regret over losing my virginity!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - i know theres no way i can go back or anything! but is there any ways of stoppin all this guilt and regret? ive been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. im 17 and hes 19, both virging when we got together, i always said i didnt want to loose ...

I feel I'm ready to lose my virginity but I'm self conscious about my body!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - My bf wants to hav sex with me but im nervous, i am prepared to loose my virginity to him but i feel as if im ready but in the same way i dont. im quite self conscious about my body im just confused about what to do x...

I lost my virginity to a guy I hardly know and now I'm feeling guilty

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

20 July 2009 (?) - hi, i lose my viginity to a guy i barely know, we dated several times and he is expeienced he knows how to make me feel good, then that happened, i even didn't bleed a lot cause he is so good at it, now he is going to leave me cause he said he need ...

I'm worried she'll start being afraid of having sex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5595 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - Hi i have a big problem last night i had sex with my gf she said she was a virgin, first we did some foreplay when we go to the momment she said it hurt like hell she almost cryed we try it twice, then we watched some tv together, now my question ...

Do I have an elastic hymen or something?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

19 July 2009 (F) - ok actually this is my first time 2 talk about it.the first time i had sex i didn't bleed at all and then the secoond and so on. ahy is that? is it that i have an elastic hymen or what? plz tell me how can i know that without going to the doctor?...

Am I still a virgin after he fingered me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4198 days ago

19 July 2009 (F) - Hi, last wednesday my boyfriend fingered me and it was my first time that someone did this thing to me but i now every thing about these things ... the thing that worries me is that after 2 hours that he fingered me i went home and i went to pee and ...

How to make myself more loose?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

18 July 2009 (F) - I am really tight in my vagina. I really need to loosen up before sex but i don't want the other guy to know how tight i am. How do i make myself more loose? ...

Mom of four virgin sons, how common is this, can parents cause this, can I help?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

18 July 2009 (F) - I have 4 sons ,all of them over 20 years old, 3 moved out from the house,one is living with us. I'm absultley stunned by the fact , that none of them ever had a girlfriend,and they are all virgin,they are also very self distractive on differen...

Does every girl bleed, when she loses her virginity?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

18 July 2009 (F) - When u lose ur virginity, do u bleed?...

Does first time sex...hurt?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

18 July 2009 (F) - Does sex hurt when you lose your virginity?...

Should we wait for better facilities, before having first time sex?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

18 July 2009 (M) - right i myself am a virgin and i really like rhis girl who isnt a virgin. she also likes me back and she knows im a virgin. next week we r both going on an army cadet camp for 2 weeks and we are both thinkng the same thing, getting together on camp. ...

Should I lose my virginity to a guy who I'm only going to spend another month and a half with?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - I'm 18 and a virgin. My boyfriend of the same age is not a virgin. We started going out a month ago, and we were friends before that. I'm leaving in September for university, and we agreed at the beginning that we would not do long distance. We've ...

Morning after first time sex and I'm sick! what could it be?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

16 July 2009 (F) - okay so you dont need details so i wont make this too long!.. but yesterday my parents went away and because im an only child, i didnt want to be alone for the first night, so my boyfriend (of almost a year) stayed over. we got a film, pizza etc.. ...

The first time....

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

16 July 2009 (F) - hi, i'm a virgin and i was just wondering how much blood there is when you have sex for the first time and does it come out during or after the event. ...

I told him to wait, then I freaked out ....

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

16 July 2009 (F) - I told my boyfriend that I was going gave him virginity on his birthday. He isn't a virgin and waited for me since I wasn't ready yet. He started pressuring me unintentionally, he kept telling me he wait until his b-day and I sort of felt like I had ...

Feeling awkward with my virgin b/f

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend, but I'm a lot more sexually experienced around him, he's a virgin and I'm his first girlfriend, I lost my virginity at 14 and have had several partners. I feel quite awkward around him, any tips??...

Was it wrong of me to lose my virginity to my ex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - Well first off i'm a 16 year old girl in serious need of advice! I would normally go to my mom or dad for advice but this time i cant. i feel like if i tell them ill disappoint them and thats exactly what i dont want. cuz like ever other norma...

22 male and still a virgin

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

15 July 2009 (M) - Hey so I'm a 22 year old male virgin in college and until recently I never felt like this was a real issue for me (I'm not religious). I've found that a lot of old friends have been getting married or are in serious relationships while I have hardly ...

Does this sound like someone who has been sexually abused?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - So I have been dating this guy for a few months and I think he might have been sexually abused as a child. He just told me that he is not capable of loving someone in a romantic way, and only loves me as a friend. He also told me once that he will ...