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writes: So your first times suppose to be special, right?. You dream about finding that one lad who will sweep you off your feet and make all your dreams come true? WRONG.I was 15, gulliable and young.So innocent.The only time i'd ever mentioned sex was when i giggled about it with my friends in the classroom. Sex was dirty, for older people. People my age didn't have sex surely.? Thats what i thought , until my friend came in to school one day, all flustered and chatting excitedly how she'd lost her virginity.My friends and i chatted all lunch time about my friends lost virginity. All the usual questions were asked, did it hurt? how long does it last? were did you do it?. She replied giggly, i couldn't help but slightly envy her. She seemed happy, and now i wanted to know what losing my virginity was like.The weekend finally drew closer and friday came. The last day of school, i still couldn't help but think of my friend and her lost virginity, however i put it to the back of my mind and went to meet my boyfriend of 2 weeks. Yes , i was already in love, or so i thought.Saturday came, my boyfriend asked me to go out with him and some friends. How could i refuse? i loved him, surely he would look after me. The night however fell upon an hazy blur, he bought me alchol and suddenly i felt unwell, had no control over my actions. HORRIBLE."Lets have sex" He slurred. I nodded in agreement. So we went outside, in some trees and he lay me down. I lay there stiff, my eyes half closed. I felt myself falling asleep. Pain soured through me, then it stopped. It was over. Yes i'd agreed to this 15 minutes of pain, but was that it? Was that all i'd dreamed about for so long.?Monday came and i couldn't wait to brag to my friends, until i got a phone call of my boyfriend saying it was over. He didn't feel the same for me anymore. I was heart broken. The guy i thought i loved, the guy i lost my virginity to was dumping me. For a while now this has been a regret of mine. Don't let the same thing happen to you. Make sure you have sex when your ready, and preferbly sober.
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reader, jstdunno  +, writes (18 August 2009):
It saddens me that you say you loved hom, no you did't.
That word gets thrown around now all the time and has lost all meaning. Someday you'll fall in love and know what it is.
Sorry you ha such a bad experience though. Young women need to take ownership of their sexuality and not let boys talk them into bad sex. And everyone male and female need to stop getting so drunk. It is so dangerous, one drunk night could leave you with a baby or a sexual disease. I hope others learn from your story Bodylotion.
I recommend scarleteen.com The best site around for young women I think.
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reader, Love is all you need  +, writes (1 August 2009):
 that must have been horrible, but believe me you will meet someone who loves you and wouldnt want to hurt you and you'll be able to share this with.
hope that helped....xxx
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (31 July 2009):
 Wow I am sorry that was your first time, I cant imagine how much that must hurt now when you look back. But I thought I would add in my story just to prove that sex under 16 (while I know its illegal but thats another issue!) is not always awful and sometimes it can be good and not something to regret in the future.
I had been with my boyfriend for 6 months, we were madly in love and very happy. We had both been trying out new things sexually with each other (we were both virgins) and had done all the usual foreplay things. Around the time I was 15 and a half it just felt right to have sex with my boyfriend. We were both ready, loved each other and trusted each other. And it was amazing, I've never felt so close to anyone in my life...it was a moment I will never forget. My mum was mortified - she just saw the age of 16 as the earliest appropriate age for sex. But says who? How can the government dictate when all teenagers in the country are ready for sex? That is just ridiculous! I understand they are protecting young teens but from 14+ if you are in a long-term relationship where you are happy and in love, then why is it harmful to have sex? Some people might be ready at 14, some might be ready at 34! It doesnt really matter, as long as you know at the time it is the right decision for you to have sex then who cares!
I wont ever apologise for having sex at 15, my mum still asks me to this day "do you regret it" and the answer is always no. I wouldnt change the experience for the world. I dont even remember any pain, any akwardness etc. It was just a special moment because it was right for both of us. Age is just a number; losing your virginity is all in the mind.
I imagine this will be controversial because I know a lot of aunts/uncles like to tell the teens on here to not have sex, even the ones who are like 16-17. But you cannot decide when someone is ready for them - it is such a personal decision and thats the way it should be.
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reader, hunkydory +, writes (31 July 2009):
Im very sorry to hear how your bf treated you, I hope that you are ok now. Im 18 and im still a virgin but I like you had frineds bragging bout it but I jus didint seem ready. I hope you find a guy that you love and he loves you back, because it is a wounderful feelin. And when you meet him tell him bout what has happened if you feel you can, because if he is understanding he will not rush you into anything and will wait until you are ready.
Good luck ? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): I'm sorry about your experience. i really hope that you have your life back on track and fall in love if you have not yet. if you have and they are good to you, hold them with what ever you have and don't let them do. you know there is love out there so don't be afraid to fall in love. just make sure the guy loves you back and if he does I'm so happy for you. keep that close to your heart and fight for it because it is had to find a good guy that you can trust. you know that the boy did not love you even he only thought he can get you drunk to sleep with you. you don't have to do what other people are. if your friends are doing something you don't have to ... its not up to your friends or other people but its up to you. i have had my experience to with alcohol. so think twice the next time you drink. and hold on to the one you love. thanksx0x0
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): you were very unfortunate.thankfully when i lost my virginity(not that i believe in virginity but hey)at 14 i didnt regret it,had no pain and loved it.whilst the guy was just my friend we stayed friends.hope you have more luck in the future.
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (30 July 2009):
bodylotion is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for all the post. Eyeswideopen you pointed out the possiblities of STI's ect and i agree with them. However this is a true life experience of mine which fortunatly didn't involve me catching any sti's or becomming pregnant ect.
Thankyou everyone.
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reader, AngelKittyXxX +, writes (30 July 2009):
 i'm sorry... it would be horrible to lose your virginity like that... but the sad thing about my younger friends, who are 13-14 have already lost their virginity, and my best friend has slept with 13 guys, and she has a boyfriend... i comfortabley lost my virginity to my baby 2 weeks ago, we were both ready (and sober)... why am i telling u this? well, be smart on your prideful decisions... it doesnt matter wat theyre doing, its wat your doing...
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reader, kerry169 +, writes (30 July 2009):
 i totaly understand u herei was with my bf (ex) for lyk under a month he was 18 i was 14we always drunk at the weekends and 1 weekend i got really drunk... i tottly wiped out couldnt remember a thing.so the next day i went out with my mate and we headed for my bfs house were we bumped into 1 of his mates on the way round.. he made a joke that i had sex the night before but i never took notice as he is a joker but then he pulled me to 1 side and told me i really hadshook took over me and i asked my bf about it and he said we hadnt so ''being in love'' (more lyk a joke) i beleaved him i had no reason not to so later that night the drink started to flow again and i was tipsy not wanten to get drunk he told me we did have sex but was afraid off what i would say i was soo annoyed over this i went in... the month after i got abused and didnt want him to touch me n anyway but hugs and kisses (witch no1 can blame me for i was 14) and he dumped me because he said i had changed from this had happened then a day later he was trying to ride my friend but it never happened for him :D
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reader, Charlpop +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Wow.
Would you like to be my hero?
Almost all of my friends [girls and boys!] have all had sex [most more than once!] and they all tell me I should do it, especially since I turned 16 a couple of weeks ago, but... I don't want to do it just to say I've done it but I don't want to be like the only one out, but seriously, this article has made me see sense!!
Thanks for warning me, but I am really sorry that you had to go through it so you could tell others... :(
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Thanks for posting this! It is a great summation of sex at 15 or younger. Not the hearts and roses that young girls envision. However,you don't mention the other repercussions that can happen such as STDs, pregnancies, and of course the dreaded notes on the walls of the boy's locker room/bathroom "For a good time call...".
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