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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey so I'm a 22 year old male virgin in college and until recently I never felt like this was a real issue for me (I'm not religious). I've found that a lot of old friends have been getting married or are in serious relationships while I have hardly any experience. Lately I've been wondering to myself if its time to start "trying" to meet women and find out if we can connect, but before I start I wanted to let you know that this is the first time I'm really being open about my virginity online and in real life, I've never brought this up to my friends, my parents, or anyone. I wanted to ask a few questions regarding my particular situation as it seems to be quite uncommon. First of all, I will start off with some history. I've had two opportunities to lose my virginity in the past with shyness being the main obstacle. I'm proud of the fact that I don't drink or smoke but I'm embarrassed about being a virgin. I don't party or go to clubs but I have done it and I sometimes feel like its the only way for me to meet someone my age. I really don't know where to start when it comes to dating and any advice I would appreciate. I'm quite nervous and a bit shy but I feel like I can overcome it. My other concern is how do I know when a woman is interested, I look back on some close female friends and realize(I think) they had shown interest but I was completely blind to itI really don't know if I'm a particularly stunning looking person, I sort of don't feel like I am, but what I can tell you is that I'm 6'4 185lbs and relatively slim (darn stomach).
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): Please don't be embarrassed about being a virgin at 22! I'm a girl and I know for a fact that the majority of girls I know want to feel respected and loved and that jaded guys, who have come to separate love and sex entirely, have lost most of their ability to love and respect women. Don't cheat yourself out of the incredible experience that sex can be when you love and are committed to your partner. First find love... And to do this you may have to pay a little more attention to what girls are trying to communicate to you. Good luck and don't change!
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Well if your looking to get a girl try using the internet.All my recent ex`s and my current gf I got off of myspace.The key to starting a relationship is communication.Run a search for girls in your area and set the criteria how you want it.Then look through profiles to see who interests you and send a letter.Something simple generally works.
Hi.I happened to come across your page and felt the need to say hello.I find you interesting and attractive and I would like the chance to be able to talk to you.
You can customize it as you see fit but that generally works.And send out 15-20 such messages.Remember it`s all about communication.Opening a dialog and keeping it going.Ask questions.Describe things you like.What ever as long as your talking.Your the guy so you pretty much have to set the pace.Once you get a few hours of on-line chat move to get a phone #.After a day or 2 of phone chat try to meet in person.Sex is not the goal.It`s friendship and companionship.Sex is just a bonus.
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