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writes:I dont know how to stop this heartache feeling, it never seems to fade.I lost my virginity to this guy in december after a few too many drinks, we meet each other in the summer and liked each other but nothing happened because i was scared because i'd never kissed anyone and we acted too much like friends and it just sort of faded out.After we had sex, i wanted to be with him but he felt like it wouldnt work and we stopped contact for a few months and it was the hardest thing ever because he was like my best friend. We speak again now but hes moved on, hes got a really beautiful girlfriend and they seem really happy together, but i cant get over him fully, i feel so much regret inside because hes such an amazing person and he treats girls so right. And fair enough its my fault it didnt happen when i had the change but im a good person too and i deserve someone.Since him ive only meet one guy and he used me and never spoke to me again. Where as he knows a lot of girls so he has options and can get to know any girl he wants. While i just never meet anyone or have a chance to get to know anyone new.so basically im heartbroken over 2 guys, one that lives round the corner who i bumped into and pretended to like me for months then used me. and the one who i regret not getting with so much and having to see him treating his girlfriend like a princess, especially when i bump into them in town.Im so hurt, i just want to be happy and meet someone but there's nobody.I go to parties, gatherings, etc but there's never any new guys there just same old people.I suffer from depression and anxiety so its pretty hard, but i do try to keep happy but its so hard when i've got this going off tooany advice?
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reader, Jamez  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 This guy sounds great, he was your first love.I lost my first love, Nia. it was the hardest time in my life and ive never fully gottern overit and i still cty inside when i see her.you need to move on like he has, live your life and look back on him not as something lost but as a great period in your life and cherished memoryies you will call on oftern. and i know the pain will never go away.It is better to have loved and lost then never loved at all.yours if you need me,James xxx
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reader, AskSam +, writes (21 July 2009):
 You poor lovey,
It is hard moving on, the heartbreak is always tough, that pain in your tummy and the tears and depression only fuel the anger and greif more. Stop beating yourself up, this guy has moved on and probably wants you to be happy now. He is so why dont you? It will take time, and some sensibility from your end to move on, but i think for you and your health its the best option.
The othrer guy who used you, may be attractive but isnt worth your time, he used you so you said. So hold your head up high and leave that trash behind! :) You sound like a lovely person so I am sure there is a guy waiting out there for you at the right time, give yourself a make over or even have one allocated girly day where you say right, its time to move on.
I wish you lots of irish luck and much happiness for your future.
sam
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