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Archived questions from: August, 2014 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

How do I handle my best friend who is convinced that I had sex with her husband when this is not true?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3746 days ago

31 August 2014 (F) - My best friend of 35 yrs has accused me and her husband of having affair. We never had a misunderstanding not once .her husband texted me about 3:45 am one morning asking me to listen to him. He and my bestfriend had been arguing so he wanted me...

He doesn't want to move on. I can't see us lasting together. So why do I keep going back to him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3771 days ago

31 August 2014 (F) - I've been with a slightly younger guy for 2 years now. After 8 months we moved in together in to a house i bought. We shouldn't have moved in so quick, because it all ended up pear shaped and i had to move him out to cut a long story short. ...

I'm worried I may be paranoid about them laughing behind my back.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3772 days ago

30 August 2014 (F) - Basically I met this group of girls through my job. I've been there about 8 months now and I would like to think I get on with everyone, however, generally I just do my work and go home. I don't do 'office gossip' if you will. I am quite introverted ...

He said marriage was not about money.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3772 days ago

30 August 2014 (F) - Why does he talk like this? Is marriage about money or not? So I had an arguement last night with bf. I asked him if he's ready for marriage and he said yes. But said no, cause he's been out of job for 8 months now and he's reluctant ab...

Why did my boyfriend, who is a well respected member of the local community, have to indulge in this cheap theft-like activity?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3772 days ago

30 August 2014 (F) - Hi, I am in a relationship (3 months) with a lovely guy (we are both in our 60s) and he is a well respected member of the local community. One thing really bothers me though; our town hosts a huge annual agricultural show and the entry fee is £25 ...

Should I cut all ties with my toxic abusive family?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3772 days ago

30 August 2014 (F) - My family are toxic. My mother is mentally unstable who abused me when I was a young child. My father is cold and distant towards me and has never praised me or gone out of his way to do anything for me. I have 2 sisters. One is self obsessed and ...

It was nearly 8 years ago. We broke up due to his cheating. So why does he still have a hold over me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3772 days ago

30 August 2014 (F) - My ex cheated on repeatedly and when I found out it broke my heart. We were in our late teens and it seemed like I would never get over it, as it does at that age. Time moved on and so did I, and after a year or so I felt ready to start meeting ...

Feeling guilty about walking away from my drug addict guy. Was I wrong to take some distance?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3771 days ago

30 August 2014 (F) - Hi everyone I have been in a relationship for a few months with a guy who is a drug addict. He uses coke, meth, heroin, etc. We recently spoke about his drug addiction and I told him that I will be there to support his recovery. He just has to ...

Should I believe him? My heart is saying I'm not ready to give up on us

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3771 days ago

30 August 2014 (F) - My world is in bits. My heart has been ripped out of my chest and my whole body aches. I can't believe I'm here writing this. I found out Thursday my childhood sweetheart (5 years together) and the man I love to pieces has been cheating. He h...

I've moved with my boyfriend and now he's putting me on the back burner

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3772 days ago

30 August 2014 (F) - So I really need some advice... I been with my boyfriend for little over 7 months... Well he got a really good job offer in Ky and had asked me to go with him... So last week we moved... I love this man more then anything in the world and I want to ...

How do I deal with a co-worker who refuses to tow the line?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

30 August 2014 (M) - Hi gang, Im used to answering questions on here rather than asking them, so here goes. Its not actually strictly a relationship question but it is effecting my relationship due to stress and worry. I work as an office manager for a small chari...

10 ways a guy can get himself kicked to the cur10 ways a guy can get himself kicked to the curbb

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3774 days ago

29 August 2014 (M) - Cindy wrote an excellent article:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ten-best-ways-for-a-woman-to-be.html I felt that the article needed a counterpoint for the guys. I've sure read about a lot of guys mistakes and while I'm sure I will miss some, he...

Why is my friend treating me like this after I helped her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3774 days ago

29 August 2014 (F) - Why is my friend doing this? Am I overreacting? So when my friend had no money and needed to get her hair done I took her to salon where I do my hair and paid for her to get it done, Cause she's my friend and was just trying to help her. ...

I'm stuck in Romeo and Juliet save me!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3774 days ago

29 August 2014 (F) - Ok so im in a Romeo and Juliet situation. My mom and dad got in a fight with my friends mom and dad, and we are not supposed to talk. But a few days ago he told me he liked me and I told him I honestly did like him, i really do like him and ive ...

Is this starting to become a love triangle?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3773 days ago

29 August 2014 (F) - Is this starting to become a love triangle? A couple of years ago, I met a married couple who became my friends (the woman more than the man). I too am married. With time, I found my friend's husband increasingly attractive, and noticed he is so...

I like messing around with this guy but don't want to have full sex with him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3774 days ago

29 August 2014 (F) - Hi. Just to note, my age is I will be 21 in a few weeks. So I have known this guy since we both went to the same school for a year age 15/16 (him being in the year above me) and during that time we were casual friends, he was a cool loner type who...

My boyfriend never buy me gifts or flowers. Do you think this is petty of me to think this way or is this a problem?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3774 days ago

29 August 2014 (F) - I buy my boyfriend nice gifts, all the time. Golf stuff, beer stuff, nice ties... He really doesn't do anything for me at all. He brought me a book for my birthday and a sex toy and that's about it. Otherwise, our relationship (one year so far...

I'm worried about our relationship now that our lives are changing.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3775 days ago

28 August 2014 (M) - My girlfriend and I both found jobs rather quickly after leaving university. Call it good fortune or whatever, but she started working this week and I am due to do so next. I have found myself worrying that these changes to both our lifestyles could ...

How can I reconnect when I don't know anything about him, not even his name!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3774 days ago

28 August 2014 (F) - So i met this guy and i just fell for him the moment i saw him. I was invited to do some work for the company where he works and we just hit it off. Then only thing is I want to ask him out but i have never asked a guy out before. And the problem is ...

I am sick of financially supporting my boyfriend.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3775 days ago

28 August 2014 (F) - Am I a bad person to want marriage and a secure future My bf lost his job 8 months ago and I've been supporting him emotionally and financally since then. We've been through so much. We fought, argued, he's pushed me away several times bu...

I'm confused, did he want to break up or not, I need an outsider's opinion.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3768 days ago

28 August 2014 (F) - So I'm a bit confused right now. (I posted last week about breaking up) I've been with my (ex) partner for the last five years. He recently done his phase one on his training with the army, we had all these things planned before he was shipped ...

My feelings are all jumbled between ex boyfriend and current room mate.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3772 days ago

28 August 2014 (F) - Hi. I recebly move in a new house after a recent break up with my 2 years boyfriend. I noticedt hat one of my house mates started flirting with me.one day he suggested to watch a movie in his room. We made out twice it was leading to sex but I was ...

My controlling parents want me to live at home forever and I feel trapped.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3775 days ago

28 August 2014 (F) - I am stressed and in need of advice. I'm 18 and living with my parents to go to community college but ever since I was 14, I have been wanting to move out. I can't move out just yet because I have no job or car. Although I have money saved from when ...

Asking him for sex is like asking for a kidney! Is it normal for a man to try and avoid sex so much?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3759 days ago

28 August 2014 (F) - I'm with my man a year and 6 months and the sex is becoming non existant. At the begining it was great but now im lucky to get sex once a month. It's always me who has to ask or make a move never him and its upsetting me. When i said it he said he ...

How do express my feelings about this LDR? Should I cut him some slack? His actions don't express romantic intentions to me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3775 days ago

27 August 2014 (F) - I am in a LDR of two months with a guy in UK. We talk everyday and he professes his love for meeting a woman like me everyday. He wants to be with me and marry me. I am feeling the same as well but I do have to questions compatibility or maybe I'm ...

Conflicted. Do I stay with my new crush? Or try to resume with my former Bf?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3774 days ago

27 August 2014 (F) - Hello Everyone, I am in need of some help. I'm not quite sure where to start but I will try my best. I am starting my sophomore year of college on labor day, which is in less than a week. I'm excited, but I am also kinda dreading it. For ...

Should I even try to save this relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3776 days ago

27 August 2014 (M) - Hey guys here's my situation, Me and my girlfriend of almost 3 years recently went our separate ways. For about the last 7 to 8 months I've pretty much sleep on the couch 3 to 4 times a week due to problems with her and having a 1 year old son with ...

Should I tell my Mom the things my cousin has shared with me about my father and the affair my father is having?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3776 days ago

26 August 2014 (F) - My cousin [We'll call him R] came with me today with news that really shocked me. He told me my dad has been seeing a woman he graduated with who has a lot of money. The other day, R came to my house (I still live with my parents) and I wasn't the...

Expecting a baby with Bf. Looking for accomodation. Bf suggested adding a female room-mate. I said no. Was I wrong to say no to his idea?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3776 days ago

26 August 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I are currently apartment hunting. We are expecting a child in a few months and have been looking for a 2 bedroom apartment with little luck. The other day he messaged me telling me that one of his female coworkers was looking ...

Am I too idealistic to be with a Vulcan type personality?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

26 August 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I took a break for about two months - we will be together for two years in October this year. We talked at length about the issues in our relationship and both feel that we have worked through it well. The main big problem is a...

I think my B/f might he seeing this other girl but I don't know what to ask him.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

26 August 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I normally have a great sex life. We would have sex maybe 2-3 times a day when we first met, and although nothing too kinky, it was adventurous. When we moved in together it slowed down, and he almost stopped wanting it as of...

My boyfriend wants to be a lone traveler!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

26 August 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating about two years now. He has a son with another woman unplanned. I've always known he's wanted to travel the world at some point and I never thought much of it as its something I'd like to do at some point too, not ...

My boyfriend disappeared for days and I feel sad, confused, and lonely

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

26 August 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I have (or had...) a very happy relationship, at least it was happy on my end, and he seemed happy too, but now I have no idea what is going on. It was very hard for me to trust him at first because of all the things that have ...

If I stay with him, I feel like my soul will die. If I leave, I'll leave with the clothes on my back and my child, with nowhere to turn...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3776 days ago

25 August 2014 (F) - So I need some advice/help... I'm 24 and a mother to a beautiful 7 year old daughter. I have also been in what I have discovered to be a very toxic relationship for 5 years. To sum it up, we have both hurt each other for no reason but too...

I feel like we're going in different directions

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3778 days ago

25 August 2014 (F) - Hi everyone! So I'm having a bit of a tough time recently. Ive been with my boyfriend for 10 months now after meeting at university and although it hasn't been plain sailing it has generally been very happy and loving relationship. ...

A drunken night of kissing and cuddling meant nothing to my friend! How do I respond back to him?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3778 days ago

25 August 2014 (F) - Hi everyone, i hope you can help!! I'll try and make this as short as i can! Ive been friends with this guy since school (like when we were from about 10) and a year ago we reconnected as friends and even though he was at uni out of london, whene...

Does it matter that my boyfriend never confronted his friend's creepy behavior toward me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3778 days ago

25 August 2014 (F) - When my boyfriend and I first started talking to each other, before we had any titles or anything, he invited me to a party at his friends house. It was going to be the first night we spent together so I was pretty excited. I invited my good friend ...

My boyfriend's friend is trying to get him to cheat. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3772 days ago

25 August 2014 (F) - Hi everyone. Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years, we did have a 11 week separation back last year and got back together in February. This separation was due to a change in circumstances and in this break we both dated other peop...

I cant stand my boyfriend's family and things with my boyfriend are starting to fall apart as well. What do I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3778 days ago

25 August 2014 (F) - Iv been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now, engaged for a year. I agree that I rushed into this relationship and I have nothing to say in my defense. I had known him for many years because we worked in the same place and he seemed great. ...

My parents are up fighting and talking at night and I can't sleep!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

25 August 2014 (F) - My parents don't let me sleep at night! In 2013 I developed an eating disorder followed with random binges due to a lifetime of my dad's bulling and being a sensitive person, and continued despite all of this. He also abused everyone in my f...

My boyfriend was smiling in photos of him and his ex but he doesn't smile with me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3776 days ago

25 August 2014 (F) - Silly question here. I've seen pics on facebook of my boyfriend and his ex at a wedding and they had they're arms around each other smiling for a couple of photos. I know I shouldn't compare but he hates photos and whenever people took photos of us ...

It is wrong if I would kiss my older 3rd cousin and experiment?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

25 August 2014 (F) - I just got in touch with my third cousin over a year ago. We both find each other attractive and flirt a lot. He even offered to pay for my first tattoo for when im legally able to do it without my parents. This means that I would have to go up to ...

My pessimistic mom is getting on my nerves!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3778 days ago

25 August 2014 (F) - Okay this is my big problem. My mother is very pessimistic and as if she grew to have a strange hate to this world. One time.I was telling her about an earthquake that hit a certain city in US where one of our neighbour is currently living and then ...

.I don't understand why I should be faithful and invest in a relationship that has unstable future plans

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3776 days ago

25 August 2014 (?) - I have been dating this man for a year and a half and I need a solution to a problem. We are in a long distance relationship an hour and a half drive away.I live in a big city and he lives in a small town. I am willing to relocate to another big ...

My boyfriend's parents are against me and now he won't even spend the night with me because he's afraid they'll find out we are together again!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3778 days ago

24 August 2014 (F) - Hey All, Me and my Boyfriend (Dany) are together for more than 1,5 year. I feel love the first time. It would be a real happy love-story BUT (!!) unfortunately his parents have problem with me :( His father is my teacher at school (that's how...

I feel like she's using me. I love her but why should I put up with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3779 days ago

24 August 2014 (M) - Why do I feel like I'm being used,I try my hardest with my partner,give her money,take her out,buy her fags,she hasent got much,i do love her,but I don't think I can take anymore,it feels like it's all one sided,it feels like the more I give,the ...

I think he blocked me but I'm unsure why! Should I try to find out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3778 days ago

24 August 2014 (F) - So aunts and uncles, I asked a question a few weeks ago about a guy I talk to in New Jersey, whom I planned on pursuing when I got up there. He's my best friends brother, and we've hung out and what not when he comes down here to visit family.. ...

I regret letting the moment pass ......

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3778 days ago

24 August 2014 (M) - Hi Guys I like a girl at work. She is one of the girls there who is very pretty and most guys try to flirt with her. I however don't do that much cause I am much senior to her (11 years) but there is always teasing and some tension between us. Last...

My girlfriend and I are not speaking .... AGAIN!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3779 days ago

24 August 2014 (F) - Well my girlfriend and I arn't speaking again. She literally makes me feel nuts with how double standard she is. We were talking about how you can fall in love with two people, she claims she would be okay if I cheated on her and fell for someone...

He proposed, but every weekend is taken up with his children ... what if I want a child too?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3778 days ago

24 August 2014 (F) - Hi. My bofriend proposed 2 months ago. As he has 2 kids with ex, he spent Saturdays taking them out somewher, dropped them back at their mom's because she doesn't like them sleeping out and on Sunday took them to visit their grandmother from about ...