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writes:Silly question here. I've seen pics on facebook of my boyfriend and his ex at a wedding and they had they're arms around each other smiling for a couple of photos. I know I shouldn't compare but he hates photos and whenever people took photos of us he is so rigid and not smiling. Why is that? I'd love a happy couple picture f us and it makes me insecure thinking he was happier with her than me. It took him years to get over the relationship! They split up nearly four years ago and we are together a year and a half.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2014): Wedding pictures are meant for albums and smiles are befitting the occasion. I think you are being just a little silly, making something out of nothing. How many pictures have you seen with them together smiling? If such petty things upset you, do you think that could be a small reason?
If "posing" for a picture, your expression can be real or phony. Only the people in the picture know the mood and emotion at the time it was taken. I think there are more important things to be concerned about than comparing pics of him and his ex. She's literally no longer in the picture.
Does he smile when he's looking at you? That's more important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2014): I don't know what to say, but i get what you mean here. There could be several reasons:.He's grown to not like photos.He was having fun in the picture with his ex.As it was at a wedding, he had to smile.Something is lacking in the relationship.He's questioning his feelings for you.He still loves his exDon't jump to conclusions. These are just my predictions. Try going out together: dinner, fun with friends etc. just to take your mind off everyday life also, you have probably heard before that communication is key for a healthy relationship.As you are both in a relationship you must work together to understand how he feels, maybe he still has feelings for his ex, but you MUST talk to him and let him know that you are there for him, no matter what he does.Next time you go out, make sure the atmosphere is relaxed, romantic and cheerful, let him know how much your there for him, give him what his ex didn't. If he acts all rigid, ask him directly why he is behaving like this as there is no reason for it. He isn't putting any effort into smiling in one simple picture? discuss this with him, it's not stupid. Just remember to be understanding, considerate and loving of his answers.ps. consider how long ago the wedding pic with his ex was.Good luck.15yo girl
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