A
male
age
41-50,
*iscuit35
writes:Hey guys here's my situation, Me and my girlfriend of almost 3 years recently went our separate ways. For about the last 7 to 8 months I've pretty much sleep on the couch 3 to 4 times a week due to problems with her and having a 1 year old son with her. She works during the day I work nights so we hardly see each and rotate watching our 1 year old son. I barely get any sleep during the week so on Saturdays I try sleep in to make up my missed sleep... My girlfriend is the worst night person ever!!! I hear the F-word all the time when I come to sleep at night or I get yelled at like she's my mother and I must come to bed with her to have sex with her. Which is a good thing, but there no mutual respect. She makes me feel really upset when she act's this way. So on memorial day weekend we were supposed to go out of town together, We ended up getting in a huge argument!! I ended up calling her some very hurtful things... Which I regret and Told her how sorry I am... She took no accountability for her side of the argument!!!! Which is kind of how it always goes. So I went out of town without here, she ended up going to her mother's house and ended up relapsing on Weed, she had been sober for 2 years her own mom supplied it to here. I've been sober for 3 1/2 years so this was very upsetting to me. So we ended up agreeing on going our separate ways when our lease expired on August 1st... A week after I agreed I told her I would really like to work it with her and baby boy... She declined stated she was happy about us going our separate ways. She just bought a house 1 month ago everything went through fine. She told me still want's a sexual relationship with me and she says I'm not really sure what the future holds with us but I really care about you a lot. Recently 2 weeks ago she came to my house I hadn't seen her in 2 weeks I got her flowers and made her lunch tried to make advances she declined... I was really upset about this, she's giving me mixed messages!!! She always text me and trying to keep tabs on me but doesn't and recently bad mouth me on FB. I got really upset with her a week ago and told her to stay the BLEEP out of my life!!!! I've been feeling bitter and angry yet I still feel like I Love her!!! I'm not saying I'm a perfect or she is, just curious should I even try to save this relationship?????
View related questions:
flowers, mixed messages, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (28 August 2014):
 You both needs to this break. Try and be friends and civil for the sake of your child. DO try and move on as this relationship is unhealthy and she is on weed and you might just be tempted to go back into it. Move on and just be a good father.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2014): She is basically trying to hold on to you just for convenience. She doesn't want you to move on and find anyone before she does. She wants a boyfriend she can put on the shelf, until she needs one. She sounds very resentful.
You have no relationship to save. You seem to be incompatible on every level.
Try to stay on civilized terms for the sake of your son.
You're an incompatible couple with a child between you, which is the worst combination ever. The child will suffer from your dysfunction and constant friction. Drugs and/or alcohol will only complicate things, and make matters even worse!
If she's always in bitch-mode there isn't much you can do but try and get along; so you can see your kid. Remove sex from the equation and watch the difference it will make.
She's offering sex to keep you away from other women, and to scratch her itch when it's convenient. She doesn't want you, but doesn't want any other woman to have you either. You didn't mention it, but I think someone cheated on someone once upon a time. Your post shows all the symptoms.
She's punishing you for some reason.
That child is going to be a game piece, played back and forth between the two of you. Go through the legal system and get your paternal rights in order; so you can see your child without hassles.
Do yourself a favor and stop having sex with the witch. Your only reason for being anywhere near her should be to see your son. Separate and stop with the immature games.
Love? Please explain where love is exchanged anyplace in your situation. Doesn't sound like she's in-love to me.
Love is missing, if all you do is fight and create a disruptive environment for your child. Who should be placed above all of this commotion. The stress from all the tension between you two, will start to show in the child's behavior. Sooner or later.
...............................
A
male
reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 August 2014):
 Biscuit: You're 30-35 Y.O..... and you and your "G/F" are still acting like teenagers???? WHEN are you and she going to become adults?????
You ask: "....should I even try to save this relationship?????..."
I ask: "WHAT relationship?????"
Good luck...
...............................
|
