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Archived questions from: October, 2016 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

It's a rocky relationship and I just learned he's been sexting other women! I need advice!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2932 days ago

31 October 2016 (F) - Please I need y'all advice. So my bf and have both live here in the U.K. I came here when I was a teenager and he's only been here for 3yrs now. His mum said I'm a good girl so she set us up. He was not my type so I didn't agree. He pursued me ...

Why is he paying child support to his ex if their laszy 17 year old daughter is living with us?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2947 days ago

31 October 2016 (F) - I'm back again for more advice. A little update on my last situation because this kind of involved it. I am still with my fiance, although the wedding date is no longer may 2017. I felt like we have issues that need worked out before that happens. A ...

I've always felt like my B/f fancied me but now I feel from his choice in porn that he fancied his ex more!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2921 days ago

31 October 2016 (F) - My boyfriend has unknowingly dented my self esteem recently, although he's hurt my feelings he hasn't done it on purpose. I'm not sure telling him would be a good idea. I can't stand arguing! I've started watching porn with him, I've never had a...

Can't shake feeling that ex will come back

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2948 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - My ex and I had a LDR for 1 month shy of 2 years. During the relationship there were many fights, and we'd often break up and reconcile constantly - sometimes multiple times a month. I'm very aware that a bulk of our problems came from me lying to ...

I broke up with my ex, like a new girl but don't know if I should date her because it would ruin any future my ex and I might have

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2950 days ago

28 October 2016 (M) - I'm 18 and in my first year at uni. Me and my long term (1 year and 3 months) girlfriend moved to different areas of the country for uni (about 1hour 30mins by car apart) and due to a number of reasons (including distance, lack of time for each ...

I don't think his behaviour is ok. He told me to 'get over it'. What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2950 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - A few weeks ago after a night out I ended up "making out" with a co worker that I'd liked for ages. He basically said that he'd had feelings for me for a while too and hadn't really felt that way before. We texted for a while afterwards until...

What is this fantasy trying to tell me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2950 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - I when I was 24yrs old I was in a long term relationship with a man that was very verbally abusice- controlling and manipulatin. The last year of my relationship with him he broke up with me and then essentially came back and begged for me to be ...

Should I hang in there in this relationship? Or just express my feelings and move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - Sooooo it seems my estranged bf and I are done done. Short backstory, we've been friends for 10 years, we dated for 3 1/2 and last year I broke up with him. I was frustrated with our development, i didn't feel supported with help with bills and the ...

Married ex who I havent seen for 12 years wants to meet up to catch up

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2943 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - Married ex who I havent seen for 12 years wants to meet up to catch up after reconnecting on facebook 2 mths ago, what does that mean? We werent really exclusive before, but just friends with benefits ( a lot of sexual connection between us) and ...

We are room mates that want to date but her ex is our room mate too!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

24 October 2016 (M) - Hello, just looking for some advice at to what to do as I'm currently in an awkward situation... I'm a university student in my final year and currently living with a girl who I really like. We feel the same and have spoken about it before, the only ...

My ex broke things off is flaunting new woman. How do I get over him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - MOD NOTE: This has been submitted before several times but now has more details so I am letting it through. OP next time just add to this, do not keep resubmitting its too confusing for aunts/uncles. I was with my ex for 10 months, things h...

My ex flaunts his new g/f in my face but behind her back he's still in contact with me

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - I split from my ex earlier this year and found out two weeks later that he was already with someone else (although chances are that she was already in the pipeline). My ex has rubbed his relationship with his new partner in my face- even turni...

What Is wrong with my friend of 30 years? How can I tell him to lose my number and block him from my internet page?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2955 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid,I have come in contact with an ex-flame who makes me smile from ear to ear we have been knowing one other for 30 years. He is 47 and I just turned 45 we both have children and they are grown and on their own.So now he and I are single w...

Are there any strategies to deal with my reactions to the behaviour of his ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - Ive been with my partner 3 and a half years. Whilst i met his family quite early on, other than a handful of occasions i havent socialised with his friends. When i questioned him about this he is told me that the partners of his friends still se...

Should I tell my BF how I am feeling over talk of his ex? Or should I investigate if she is real?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been going out for one month now, but were friends for two years. I know all of his friends, but recently he's mentioned someone who he's never even spoken about before. Apparently, they used to be boyfriend and gi...

I can't get my unemployed ex boyfriend out of my house

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2956 days ago

21 October 2016 (F) - I've been in a relationship for 6 months, been thru a lot but really don't want a relationship anymore period. The issue is I haven't been able to get him out. What do I have to do? He has no job now after I threw him out and stuck in my area for...

Why would my ex want sex with me when he loves his girlfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

20 October 2016 (F) - why would my ex bf want to have sex with me so bad when he loves his girlfriend so much? me and him stay in the same hood, he is always with her but he will text me and tell me he misses sex with me and our relationship was not serious as I thought ...

Why does my ex initiate conversations on skype?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2955 days ago

20 October 2016 (F) - Why does my ex boyfriend initiate conversations with me daily on Skype when we're no longer together? He's been initiating conversations for about 2 weeks now. He also apologises when he is quiet on there and says 'I really hope you're okay'...

If I get back together with my ex, should I tell him about the people I have slept with while we were broken up?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2955 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - Hi there! So I was in a 4 and a half year relationship with an amazing guy. We broke up due to living in different places, arguing when we saw each other, and as I was in my final year at University, had way too much going on for all the arguing....

He blanked me for weeks then blows up because I was with some one else?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2958 days ago

18 October 2016 (F) - I was texting / meeting a guy (let's call him Fred, this isn't his name) and was seeing each other for about 9weeks.. Then for some reason he stopped talking to me. He said he had family issues and personal problems and can't give me what I want, he ...

My ex broke up with me, then texted me 2 months later that he still loved me, then said he didn't want to lead me on!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2959 days ago

18 October 2016 (F) - My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. I've been dealing with it. The other day,out of the blue, he sent me a text message that said I love you. I felt that was not intended for me, so I called and told him that I think he sent the text to the ...

I am worried about my the narcissist my sister is dating!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2961 days ago

14 October 2016 (M) - He had an affair with my sister and he left his wife of nearly 30 years. His wife says he is very narcissistic and will destroy and cheat on her eventually!? Is she right. I can't see it he is very loving and careing towards my sister and teats her ...

I need help making decisions to benefit my children and shape my future

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2961 days ago

14 October 2016 (?) - Hi all, I am from India. I got married to a rich and educated girl. Initially, she was good and our relationship went well. After our first baby (son) she refused for sex. Her mother asked her to go for second baby. So she compelled me for the ...

Why would my friend lie and say he didn't know my girlfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2964 days ago

14 October 2016 (M) - Andre [32,M] has been my best friend for almost 15 years, we lived together at Arizona, we live together now(only temporarily though). The reason I say temporarily because I have been dating this girl [31,F] for a year now, and we have been tal...

Is it bro 'code?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2964 days ago

13 October 2016 (F) - I recently moved to a new area, and I've met a lot of people in the time I've been here. At the very beginning I was swept off my feet by a guy, but ultimately it was just a fling. While that "relationship" was fading, I met a man who happens to ...

Is this the old him again

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2873 days ago

12 October 2016 (F) - I broke up with my husband two months ago we spent a month apart. We split as he had issue with favoritism towards his kids and a dislike of my eldest girl and my father. He also tried to control me. Generally his attitude stunk towards my kids and ...

Am I out of line for asking my b/f to change around his child support situation with his ex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2966 days ago

11 October 2016 (F) - hello ive been dating my bf for a year now. He is 51 I am 47. He has an ex and three children. I have two children . We live seperatly. He and his ex do not follow the child support schedule its been now 6 years that they have not been together ...

She broke off her engagement for me and its freaking me out

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2967 days ago

11 October 2016 (M) - So I need opinions. I was seeing this girl for a while last year. She seemed super into me and I liked her a lot but I just wasn't ready or looking for a relationahip at the time. I'd just gotten out of a three year relationship and just wasn't ...

Should I send my ex boyfriend a Christmas card with a small gift?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2966 days ago

11 October 2016 (F) - I have been single for about 4 months now after coming out of a 3 year relationship, I have recently been thinking of him again the relationship ended on bad terms. Its coming up to christmas and it will be weird without him should i send him a ...

I love him but I hate him. Where do I go from here? Its officially over but I still have feelings

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

10 October 2016 (F) - I don't know where to start but Ive lost so much over the past year and the losses still keep coming. I'm 38, two sons (18 and 15) and divorced for a little over a year. My sons are great...my oldest is a freshman in college out of state and my ...

Help me move on from my ex! Or does he still love me? HELP

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2968 days ago

9 October 2016 (F) - I have dated a lot in my lifetime, but I was in love only once...and I blew it. I'm writing today to get help, perspective, and advice on how to move on. What you need to know is that my parents divorced after 20 years, I have been so scared o...

Why does my ex keep coming in and out of my life?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2968 days ago

9 October 2016 (F) - I posted a thread about an ex who lives 4 hours away and we were on and off for few years...then broke it off for good because he met someone closer.I was devastated and told him we should go seperate ways. He recently came back in my life only ...

I broke up with my boyfriend because of the distance but I really miss him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2969 days ago

9 October 2016 (F) - I started dating my boyfriend (newly ex) when I was 17 and senior in high school when he was a freshman in college. We have been dating for over three years, long distance but can occasionally visit each other on the weekends and breaks for ...

How do I allow myself to be vulnerable and work through fear?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2824 days ago

8 October 2016 (F) - Hi all, I was on here in the spring talking about how a really abusive relationship left me sour and I was just doing the friends with benefits thing for awhile. Well- I met someone. He is a kinder man than I could ever have dreamed of. We b...

Do I get back with him and have a baby?.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2957 days ago

6 October 2016 (F) - I really am starting to worry about the future now and what decisions I should make. There have been lots of things that have happened over the last few years that is very difficult to talk to anyone about, so I came across this and thought, it ...

We had our ups and downs should I go back to my ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

3 October 2016 (F) - My ex is recently single and I miss him a lot. Should I go back? Weve had ups and downs when we were together but the sex was off the charts amazing and hot and everything you can imagine. We use to laugh a lot but our relationship was...

I miss my ex sometimes but am afraid to tell my girlfriend

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

2 October 2016 (M) - I miss my ex from time to time. We were together for 4 years. I have a gf and we are honest about everything. I feel bad for not telling her. We have been dating for 5 years. I never use to understand why people kept secrets between someone the...

My ex broke up with me so why is she acting so weird about avoiding me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

2 October 2016 (M) - My ex was picking fights so we broke up and it ended messy. I tried everything to keep it going. At the time I thought it was completely my fault and I was doing something wrong but looking back now I know it was both of us but largely because of ...

Is it worth calling her up after 3 years? Or should I just let it go?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

2 October 2016 (M) - 3 years ago I met a beautiful and smart girl at comic con and we hit it off right away. She was 19 and even though we lived 80 miles from each other, we made it work and saw each other every weekend. We got into a relationship and everythi...

I'm having a tough time with being single. How can I stop feeling so lonely?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2976 days ago

1 October 2016 (F) - I have written here before and I'm having a difficult time being alone- I have realized the pat friends and boyfriends I have had have all been toxic but have filed some void. Lately I have tried to keep busy and be alone but it's driving me nuts- I ...

I still have feelings for her. Should I keep in touch? She's about to marry another girl.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2975 days ago

1 October 2016 (F) - So I need a little help. Last year around this time, I started seeing a girl. She was beautiful, smart, educated, sweet. All things I look for in a relationahip. Honestly nothing was really lacking and we were pretty great together. We dated fo...