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writes:I recently moved to a new area, and I've met a lot of people in the time I've been here. At the very beginning I was swept off my feet by a guy, but ultimately it was just a fling. While that "relationship" was fading, I met a man who happens to also know the guy I had been seeing. They're friends, but not very close. To set the scene, I am 23. My recent relationship was a 20 year old. And the man I am now attracted to is 30. Big age difference. Recently I took the plunge and asked the older man on a date. I tried calling, but he didn't answer. So I sent a text. He never responded. My fear is that there is some kind of "bro code" that is keeping the man from wanting to go out? He might think I am still seeing the younger guy? However, I have no question that he is interested. He goes out of his way to see me, and expressed interest in getting together sometime. Am I overthinking things? I sent the text over a day ago... maybe he doesn't respond quickly? I'm in need of advice on how to handle the situation. The younger guy is still interested in me, and I fear that he claims to his friends that we are still together. He might be impeding my starting a new relationship. Or - the older guy isn't interested. But couldn't he simply respond to the text and let me know that? I'm obviously very confused, and anxious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2016): Maybe this guy works a lot. He's very busy. And when you see him next, he'll apologize, and ask you on a date.
Or maybe he won't.
The point is, whatever happens, happens. Suck it up, and realize that you are worth a damn. And if this guy doesn't give a damn, you don't want him anyways.
Don't rush things that need time to grow. Chill and let time run its course. Love yourself. And wait for the right one to come along. Because he will.
Until then, keep living.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 October 2016):
 If you have the right contact number then I would assume he is not interested in you romantically. Maybe you came on to strong? Or maybe he is not interested because you where just with his friend who still appears to like you.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (14 October 2016):
 Blimey, a whole day? He couldn't possibly be busy, or away, or thinking what to respond?
Given the speed at which you appear to live your life, is it possible your text came across as a bit desperate and over-keen?
Just chill. I am assuming you are likely to bump into this older guy at some point. Just CASUALLY ask him if he received your text and whether he fancies meeting up sometime. Don't accuse him of anything or come over all "bunny boilerish". It can frighten a lot of guys off.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 October 2016):
 Like N91 mentioned, if you HAVE sent it to the right number, and he hasn't responded he isn't interested.
Unless they are close friends there is no "need" to pull a "bro-code" here.
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reader, N91 +, writes (14 October 2016):
 Are you sure you have the right number?
If he's blanking your contact I'd assume he's not interested.
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