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Archived questions from: September, 2016 (see latest in Health category)

Health: Help and advice

He caught me in a small white lie about my smoking cannabis!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3011 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - Ok so I told a small white lie to my boyfriend that I hadn't smoked cannabis in a while but he found out I had infact the day before but it was only a tiny bit and I didn't enjoy it anyway. When he got with me he knew I smoked and had given up...

How can we slow things down? And why does he keep slipping out?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2896 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - Ok, so, After messaging and chatting to my guy, we both agreed to meet . I really like him, he likes me too. We get on so well, laughing, relaxing and enjoying each other's company. We arranged a few more dates, there is definately a spa...

At 19 I kissed another guy. What is the kindest way to tell my husband the truth? I can't forgive my indiscretion.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - So I've been with my husband ten years, married for two years. We have always had our ups and downs but now we are very strong and we have two children. However, when I was nineteen I made a terrible mistake. I kissed another man in a club while ...

Is becoming angry a normal reaction to being accused of cheating?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3009 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - If you accuse your boyfriend of cheating and he says he is remaining calm because if he doesn't he will become violent and walk out the door and never come back, would that raise a red flag? He said he doesn't like being called a cheater. Is t...

My boyfriend just broke up with me and I am devastated

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3013 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - My boyfriend of less than a year just broke up with me. I am 31. I feel so alone and devastated. He was everything you could want in a guy except he suffered from depression. He couldn't seem to get himself in the mainframe to love someone else. He ...

Partner no longer enjoys lovemaking and it is becoming a dealbreaker

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3013 days ago

26 September 2016 (M) - Hey all, I've been with my partner for 2 and a half years now and for the first while our sex life was crazy good. We were both on exactly the same page with the things we were into and the high sex drive we both had. One day it was really sore for...

How to react when the honeymoon period is over?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

26 September 2016 (F) - I feel like in every relationship once the honeymoon period is over, you reach that point where you're like, is there enough good stuff here that you want to move forward even though you're not high on love anymore, and give love a chance to grow ...

Is it selfish if I get mad at my boyfriend's appearance and silly behavior?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - Is it selfish if I get mad at my boyfriend's appearance and silly behavior? Once he joked about we're having budget marriage with other bridegrooms in a ballroom. He also joked about the pressure of marriage in front of my friends. He said marriage ...

Should my ex and I get back together? We were Bf and Gf together since adolescene until we broke up in February

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - I split up with my boyfriend in Feb. We were together nearly 20'years but we had a rocky relationship as he has a lot of issues. He had a rebound relationship pretty quickly after we ended and now he has split from his girlfriend. ...

Frustrated by petty character assassinations and deceptions. Am I caught between two rather exploitive "friends!" ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3018 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - I think i might be caught between two rather exploitive "friends!" Being of a kind nature i tend to help rather than hurt but if my intuition is anywhere over 50% ,then i believe i have seen my situation for exactly what it is! It is draining to m...

I'm afraid if I get too close to this lovely man that I might cheat on my boyfriend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3018 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - I met a guy yesterday and he bought me lunch. I like him I find him attractive and I think he feels the same about me. We agreed yesterday that we will meet again today at some volunteering project but when he arrived I only greeted him and stayed ...

Why would my Bf's penis go limp after foreplay? Does it suggest that he's cheated on me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3015 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. He is 63. I am 45. He is not married. Neither am I. Just to clarify. We are good friends. Our sexual relationship has always been quite wonderful too. And for a man in his 60's, my boy...

Help! Calling all people with nipple piercings. What are outcomes to consider if I get this done?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3018 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - hey everyone! i am thinking of getting my nipples pierced, just wondered if anyone had any experience of this? I like how it looks a lot but as always there's some real horror stories on the internet (picture of holes in boobs after getting an...

Since the breakup of what I thought was a perfect LD relationship I can't stop thinking about him. How do I cope with this situation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - Hi, I feel like I need a reality check and I don't have many people in my life to ask for advice or open up to. I was broken up with 2 months ago by the person I loved. The relationship ended solely because of distance and the fact that his jo...

Will he come crawling back again, soon, to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3020 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - Hi I have gone my separate ways from my on off boyfriend again. We don't live together, and he has recently started back to college as a mature student and he told me hes very stressed out and has loads going on around his head and has family i...

My LDR is stressing me out. I do want to keep the relationship. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3022 days ago

19 September 2016 (F) - My relationship is stressing me out. To give a bit of background. I was with my ex for 7 years and he cheated. Left me for her. I was single for 9-10 months when I got with my current boyfriend. We've been together 8 months now. Everything w...

What can I do about my very controlling aggressive abusive husband? I want out of this abusive marriage

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2975 days ago

19 September 2016 (F) - Hello i have a very serious problem. My husband is very controlling and he has been disrespectful to my Mom and my children. He has called my daughters stupid bitches and he calls my son a dumb mf. He says thats just the way he talks but i hate it!...

Feeling inadequate and don't know what to do

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3023 days ago

18 September 2016 (M) - This is pretty awkward to talk about here but when you need advice, you need advice. I CAN'T get intimate with people, im talking friends, family, potential spouses, everybody. It has a huge toll on my life. For some reason I can't give myself to ...

Unexpected break-up. Can anyone give me any advice? Advice from guys would be much appreciated.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3020 days ago

17 September 2016 (F) - Me and my boyfriend were together for nine months and I was so happy. Suddenly, he broke up with me on Monday and I don’t understand why. He said he thinks we’re not suited and have different life experiences but I don’t understand how this can...

The sex used to be mindblowing and not it is not. What could be possible reasons for this ?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3024 days ago

15 September 2016 (F) - I have been with my man for 13 years. In beginning our sex was mind blowing ! And over the years it has gone up and down ! But the last couple of years he doesnt think he should do anything . Well when it is time to have sex then he is up fo...

My married BF doesn't want his wife to know about us until he has removed all his belongings from his former home. Seems he cares more about his belongings than me. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

14 September 2016 (F) - Ok so here is my dilemma I am 29 dating my friend who is married he is 30 and his twin brother who is also 30. Ok so how this happened was I just recently moved back home and I ran into an old friend of mine that I have had a crush on since I ...

I get so emotional I cry about this crush almost every day! How should I tell this single man I have a crush on him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3020 days ago

14 September 2016 (F) - I have been thinking of leaving my job and returning to full time education to start my career, however, I have been having a big crush on my male colleague for almost three years now. I really like him and he is always on my mind. He is so handsome ...

At 47 am I too short, or too big, or not pretty enough to ever be asked out by a guy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3024 days ago

14 September 2016 (F) - I am in my 40s I never thought I was pretty or good enough to date any guys. I had never went on date before, no guys ever ask me out Sometimes I think there something wrong with me I guess I am pretty enough for any guys to ask me out, or smart...

Is it really wrong to pay for sex

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

13 September 2016 (M) - I have reading the many posts on dearcupid from men who are contemplating paying for sex. I see that most people are against it, like it is the lowest a guy can go. I am at the lowest point in my life now and it will only get worse. I have Marfan ...

How can I explain to my friends that she's a great girl, despite what I said earlier?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3028 days ago

12 September 2016 (M) - When I was 9 years old I moved to a new town and my neighbour kissed me on the cheek and said that I was her boyfriend and she has pretty much been my life since then. We dated for as long as I can remember, she was my first kiss, first girl I t...

My Granny forbids me to go to a counsellor so can someone please explain if my Mom always hated me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3023 days ago

12 September 2016 (M) - Please don't tell me to talk to a consellor, my granny and pawpaw don't like it bc their Pentecostal. I live with them, their my dads parents and my dad is in Colorado. My mom is in Oklahoma and so is her dad but he is in a group home. He's ...

How can I encourage my online date to be positive with himself?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3028 days ago

11 September 2016 (F) - I have been trying online dating and have been chatting with a nice man and we plan to meet . He seems a bit low within himself , we were chatting today about general stuff and he seems a bit depressed about his weight he told me 2 years ago he lost ...

Are there any safety concerns in being a nudist?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3029 days ago

11 September 2016 (M) - When I am home alone, I enjoy walking around completely nude. For me, there is nothing sexual about it, I just don't like wearing clothes. I am just wondering if this is a sign of something wrong with me mentality or is normal for some people to ...

How can I better control my emotions when I'm hurt during tae kwon do tournaments?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3026 days ago

11 September 2016 (F) - Hi, i need help with stopping myself from crying when i get hurt. I was doing a taekwando tournament, i am a white belt and the person i was sparring with was a black tag. She battered me and punhed me in the face and head till i fell to the floor. ...

I have nothing in common with my work colleagues. How do I get out of spending time with them? Any coping strategies that might help?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3029 days ago

10 September 2016 (F) - I'm a fairly new member on this forum but thought I would post as there seem to be some people who talk a lot of sense when posting on here. I would be interested to hear your views on my situation.(Apologies in advance for the length of the post...

I need help with a fading relationship, please? Can I make him happy again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3031 days ago

10 September 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid, I started talking to my current boyfriend early on in the year. We talked all the time and everything was perfect - we made each other happy, nothing ever went wrong and we trusted and understood each other. We started going out...

Can people tell when they're "the mutton dressed as the lamb"?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3030 days ago

9 September 2016 (F) - Just in case people are not familiar with the term “mutton dressed as lamb" - it refers to older people who try to appear younger (and usually fail dismally). And it's most often applied to women who wear clothes that are aimed at a much younger ...

What sort of outcomes have others experienced after taking allergy shots? Hesitant about this option suggested by my therapist.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3032 days ago

9 September 2016 (F) - I have been debating something for awhile now whether to get allergy shots are not. I've suffered from allergies for awhile now. Hives and Seasonal Allergies. I get a lot of sore throat, itchy eyes and nasal congestion. I have been taking nasal sp...

How do I deal with this? He broke up with me due to the lifestyle of my Uncle, who died 23 years ago.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3032 days ago

9 September 2016 (F) - Hi, My friend of 1 year 3 months decided to break up with me because of "society" as he says. Because my family background doesn't match up to his expectations,my uncle(my dads sister married him)the uncle in question,who died 23 years ago was a ...

Is it possible that my therapist may like me a bit too much?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3032 days ago

9 September 2016 (F) - I haven't had a session with my therapist for a while. I met him again recently and he was acting differently to me (I've known him for a while). His eye contact felt like he was staring at me and he was constantly smiling at me. We also joked ...

I've lost weight and now down to UK size 12. How do I get out of thinking bad about myself when subjected to Fat Shaming?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3032 days ago

8 September 2016 (F) - Im writing this because I'm so tired of being body shamed all of the time. Growing up I was a size 8, but then I left school, started a new career, had a baby and the weight creeped on. At my heaviest I went up to 15 stone size 16 which is very...

What if my body turns him off? Should I wait until I’m more comfortable with my own body?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3032 days ago

8 September 2016 (F) - So I like this guy so much, he's very handsome and has asked me out on a date. I really enjoy being with him and things are advancing and all but i am really self aware of my shape, i have always struggled with my body , i am 5'1' and i weigh ...

Is my boyfriend a total loser I should lose or am I missing something?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3031 days ago

8 September 2016 (F) - I have been seeing a man in his 40s for six months. I am also in my 40s. He has told me he cares about me and we've talked about a future together. Four days ago my father was rushed to the hospital. He had two large blood clots in his lungs and...

My eight year old son is such a handful. What action should I be taking to address the problems I face?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3032 days ago

8 September 2016 (F) - I just don know what to do. My. Son spends school holidays with his dad who lives abroad, My son is eight. every time school holidays approach i'm exhausted and really stressed because he's such a handful. I have some health problems too and...

Not sure I want to be in this relationship anymore. Two babies and he's rather play a computer game. I'm not sure I want to be in this relationship any more. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3033 days ago

8 September 2016 (F) - As a quick bit of background info: I’m a stay at home mum of two (2 year old and a 6 month old). I do have a job but was on maternity which has been extended due to having cancer and dealing with all kinds of other crap... My partner is the m...

Somewhere along the way I got lost and upset her. Is our relationship over?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3030 days ago

8 September 2016 (M) - Hi, I have been living and dating my partner since January this year. We have done a lot together in this time and also share a family pet. i have a lot of stress from work related matters and been off work temporary with a back problem. Over ...

I can't shake off these feelings of hurt. What do you guys think?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3033 days ago

8 September 2016 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend a little over a year and we moved in together despite my fears and objections from my family. I've been badly hurt and I admit, I hurt others too. I considered myself unlovable and hurt men who claimed to love me. My cur...

Should I move out while my mother fights cancer?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3032 days ago

7 September 2016 (M) - I have a poor relationship with my mother. She is very abusive both mentally and emotionally. I find her to be very manipulative, provocative and incredibly aggressive. She always says and does things to upset me on purpose. I don't trust her ...

He has no answer... can someone help me out here with advice? Why can't he last longer?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3031 days ago

7 September 2016 (F) - At the beginning (11 years ago) we lasted quite long... my husband (7 years) now cums so fast... or his urge to let it go happens as soon as I do anything to him, from stroking it, BJ and as soon as he enters me he can't hold out. But with his ex's...

Is my past affecting my current relationships? what can I do ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3035 days ago

7 September 2016 (F) - I really feel that my past has been having a very strong affect on my relationships. I grew up with my grandparents, one of which was only my grandparent due to marrige. I lived with them most of my childhood ,things there caused it to be unsafe a...

Why? All my life people have taken an instant dislike towards me and I don't know why. What needs to change?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3032 days ago

6 September 2016 (F) - All through my life I have struggled getting people to like me, people take an instant dislike to me and I don't know why. I'm not rude, I'm polite, I can be painfully shy at times and I think people mistake this as being rude or stuck up. Been ...

How can I stop ruining every prospective relationship with anxiety?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3035 days ago

6 September 2016 (F) - I have been single for nearly a year now. In that time through one reason or another I have spoken to and got to know 3 different men (romantically) that I have began to like. It always starts off well in that they are attracted to me, we have a g...

I don't feel comfortable with who I am. How do I turn my life around and find contentment and satisfaction ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3033 days ago

6 September 2016 (M) - So just a week ago I turned 33 years old. By now, a lot of people would know about my previous posts in regards to dysfunction in my marriage. But I want to change focus to think about my own personal development. Perhaps I am being too hard on ...

Anxious about the future. What help should I seek to overcome these obstacles that exist in my life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3025 days ago

6 September 2016 (M) - Flunked out of college twice and now I'm 25 expecting to graduate next year after 7 years of schooling. I have lost all hope in my future because of my failure and an extremely competitive job market. I have no idea what I am struggling for and ...

How do I cope with my troubled and tormented thoughts of her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3034 days ago

6 September 2016 (M) - I am a mid aged guy and 7 years ago, I began seeing a woman from work. I was separated from my wife and 2 teenage girls but used to still see my wife on a friendly basis and help her out and still occasionally had sex with her. The woman is m...