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Archived questions from: October, 2016 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

Why is he paying child support to his ex if their laszy 17 year old daughter is living with us?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2942 days ago

31 October 2016 (F) - I'm back again for more advice. A little update on my last situation because this kind of involved it. I am still with my fiance, although the wedding date is no longer may 2017. I felt like we have issues that need worked out before that happens. A ...

Boyfriend's parents disapprove but mine don't!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2939 days ago

31 October 2016 (F) - I just moved to America a few months ago and soon after met a boy I really really like. We started dating and just recently hit the 6 month mark. The problem is his parents. His parents a originally from Korea and are very traditional. Since he...

I don't want to have anything to do with my family ... ever again!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2927 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - I want to go far away from my family without telling them where I am going and never ever wanting any contact with them again. I don't know if anyone here knows how it feels to be manipulated by family members till you become a dry well then th...

My boyfriend's wife says he is lying about getting a divorce

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2939 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - Hi, I am with a guy who is separated from his wife 5 years ago. He came to America as a refugee 3 years ago and she is overseas with their son. All his family and relatives knows about me and the fact that they are separated and he is waiting for ...

Future mother in law seems to have won and talked my fiance into putting off our wedding. I'm pregnant and not happy!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2943 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - I posted just over a week ago about bringing my wedding forward as I've not long found out I'm pregnant and didn't want to be a due date bride! But was having issues with my mother in law saying she couldn't get the time off work and generally ...

I think I made a mistake moving away and buying a house with my b/f. I don't know what to do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2943 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - I am 42, and currently in a bad situation with my bf of 6 and 1/2 yrs. I moved 80 miles away from family friends etc to be with him. We bought a house last oct'. However things have got so bad already. He is very strict and sometimes ruthless with ...

What rights do I have as a grandparent?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2939 days ago

29 October 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am a grandparent of a now 2 year old grandson.My grandson is constantly in and out of CPS because my daughter is involved with the child's father and he is the one abusing him.Now I am trying to get visitation rights and she told the ...

How do I inform my family that I'm dating my second cousin?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2929 days ago

28 October 2016 (M) - About two years ago, I moved to the same city that my second cousin, Brooke, lives in. The rest of her family (parents and sister) and my family (parents and brother) lives back in the same town we grew up in. She is 30 years old and I am 31 years ...

My mother is draining the life out of me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2942 days ago

28 October 2016 (F) - I can not handle my mother anymore. I don't know what to do. I don't even know where to start to explain the situation. I'll start with what happened most recently. I was supposed to come down this weekend to help her pack and clean her apartm...

I don't feel comfortable with my boyfriend's parenting

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2942 days ago

27 October 2016 (F) - I have been dating a man with a 13 year old daughter for 5 months and feel ready to meet her. I thought I was anyway. He is still drying her after a shower on her back and her legs. She is going through puberty and has all the maturing parts of a ...

Is my brother in law attracted to me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2946 days ago

27 October 2016 (F) - I've known "BIL" (long term bfs brother) through a friend for a long time but we've never got to properly know each other as I'm quite shy but I have became more outgoing through the years. I also think this is to do with his wife as she is very ...

The mother that abandoned my husband has come back into his life trying to get close and asking for money. I don't like it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2945 days ago

27 October 2016 (F) - How would I deal with my mother in law? She abondoned my husband as a baby. My husband had a very difficult times as a child. When we got married about 8 years ago my husband had built a relationship with her and we do see her on mother's day. We do ...

His family don't think my family are good enough. Should I hope that he will accept me? I fear this relationship could leave me brokem hearted

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2945 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - Hey everyone! I'm a total mess right now and in a desperate attempt to seek advise I'm here. I was in a very serious relationship with a man for a year and half.I met his family,we were thinking of marriage planning kids and then all of a sudden ...

My sister is aggressive and opinionated. Would it be OK if I skipped Christmas this year and stayed home to avoid my sister?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2943 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - I'm having a dilemma over Christmas Day and I could do with some advice. I have a small family consisting of my sister, mother and grandmother. i didn't get on particularly well with my sister- we only see each other three times a year at family o...

Should I now offer to pay more rent when my mother come to live with us, temporarily? My mother and I will share a room

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2945 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - Hi! I'm currently living with two friends, but my mother is going to move in with us from another country, so we are all going to live together for a few months until my mother and I move to a place for just the two of us. Meanwhile me and my mo...

How should I deal with my wife's kinky up and down thoughts? ?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2939 days ago

26 October 2016 (M) - Hello everyone, Thanks for taking the time to read this and offer advice if able. My question is how do I deal with my wife's constant changing thoughts on sex and her naughty behavior. For some backstory, we're both mid 30's, been mar...

Need advice on dealing with a demanding mother

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2945 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - How can I deal with my demanding mother? I'm a 34 year old married mother of three and yet my own mother dictates my entire life. She's had health problems on and off for the last 7 years and when she was at her worst, I had to quit my job and ...

How can I make my husband forgive my mother and myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2946 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - I meet my husband six years ago online. We are from different country and love each other very much. March 2014 we married and I move to his country. I agreed to help him in his business before I get a job there. Therefore I help him. He said that ...

How can I cope with my sister in law?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2948 days ago

24 October 2016 (F) - I am really struggling to be civil to my sister in law. I have tried hard to include her, be involved with her and her child, offer to help out with her child, buy the baby presents etc. I have also regularly helped out her too. However she al...

How do I deal with my partner spending time with his ex wife?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2946 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - I would like some advice on how to deal with a certain situation. My partner and I have been together for nearly 18 months, we are both in our 50s and divorced. He has two daughters in their late 20s, and I have no children. We live about 35 mi...

I think my mom's cheating on my step dad

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2946 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - I really need some advice right now. I think my mum is cheating, or about to cheat on my stepdad. It sickens me to even think about it. Long story short, last year there was an incident where my mum found out that my stepdad was messaging and ...

Dating but can't hang out. We text and he gives me butterflies. Why is this happening?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2946 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - I have been dating this guy who ive know most of my life for about 3 months and were both 15.. The relationship is going good but we never can hang out because im busy and my parents wouldnt allow me. weve met a couple of times while at a mutuals ...

My partner is more interested in pleasing his mother than me

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2947 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - My fiancé and I have just discovered that I'm pregnant and our wedding was booked for the same month the baby is due so we've decided to bring it forward. We've given our small party of 40 guests the new date which is still 3 months away and ...

Why is my dad so hard on me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - Hello :) Recently I moved to another country to take up a different course for university. And well my parents left 2 weeks after my course started and well the first week my dad called me everyday and as time went by I had a lot of work and I wa...

My girlfriend hooked up with my cousin years ago

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

21 October 2016 (M) - My girlfriend and I've been dating for a few months, I'm bothered that I have sex with the same girl my cousin had. I know everyone has a past but he's my family member, it's weird! She told me she had sex with him years ago in college. My cous...

How can I escape this loneliness?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

21 October 2016 (F) - How can I get out of my depression. For the last 7 months Ive been hit with several bad episodes (it's been a rough year) - my relationship ended (it was a short one but still affected the way he acted towards me) he was not a caring man. My work ...

I told him that I thought his kids were sabotaging our relationship and now he won't talk to me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - Hi, I'd been dating this guy for 3months. At first we would go on dates about 3 times a week, then it cut down to once or twice a week and thereafter we'd only get to seeing each other once a month. I thought his kids had something to do with this ...

Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 2939 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...

Where to now? Is my married loved a narcissist? I feel I can no longer trust him

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2949 days ago

18 October 2016 (M) - I had a year long affair with a married man. I am his tennant in the house that he rents out. He left his wife just before Christmas and came to live with me and my kids in the house. During our affair we had a secret bank accounts, and phone nu...

I'm very close to my aunt, but recent incidents with my dog have caused upset and seem to have affected our relationship!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

18 October 2016 (F) - This is a family related problem, but I hope you can give me good advice or support. I have been close to my aunt, I almost grew up in her house and she has been at my side for many years. I have been supporting of her too, when I could. I had to ...

Afraid family will learn I'm on the pill

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2956 days ago

17 October 2016 (F) - Sorta to do with dating. I've been talking to this guy and things are looking up :) I've always told myself that I should go on the pill as another contraceptive (as well as using condoms). However, I don't really want my parent finding ou...

Is it OK to have feelings for a second cousin?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2956 days ago

16 October 2016 (M) - Okay, so I'm at the age of 19 and I have found myself falling for my family member named Rachel. She is not far behind me in age, in fact, less than a year younger. We both attend the same church, a Pentecostal church and she happens to be my second ...

I am worried about my the narcissist my sister is dating!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2956 days ago

14 October 2016 (M) - He had an affair with my sister and he left his wife of nearly 30 years. His wife says he is very narcissistic and will destroy and cheat on her eventually!? Is she right. I can't see it he is very loving and careing towards my sister and teats her ...

I still love him, will breaking up teach him a lesson?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2956 days ago

14 October 2016 (F) - I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost one year. I am 23 years old and he is 28. When we met he told me that I am the one and quickly introduced me to his family and he met mine. The problem in my situation is that I come from a culture wh...

I need help making decisions to benefit my children and shape my future

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2956 days ago

14 October 2016 (?) - Hi all, I am from India. I got married to a rich and educated girl. Initially, she was good and our relationship went well. After our first baby (son) she refused for sex. Her mother asked her to go for second baby. So she compelled me for the ...

Our wish to adopt a child has provoked some negative reactions, how do we deal with them?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2950 days ago

14 October 2016 (F) - My husband and I have decided to adopt. I was surprised by the negative reaction of some of our friends! I was prepared for the usual fears and prejudices (it's not your flesh and blood, you can never love him the way you would your own etc.) b...

Am I being unfair, insensitive or inconsiderate of my MIL?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2957 days ago

12 October 2016 (F) - I’m at my wits end with my MIL... if it wasn’t bad enough when my partner raced down 107kms to take his mother to the hairdressers when no-one else was available for free, this next exploit beats all. Earlier this year my MIL made flight ...

Is this the old him again

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2868 days ago

12 October 2016 (F) - I broke up with my husband two months ago we spent a month apart. We split as he had issue with favoritism towards his kids and a dislike of my eldest girl and my father. He also tried to control me. Generally his attitude stunk towards my kids and ...

My Girlfriend Turned Rude and Immoral, Should I Dump Her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2961 days ago

12 October 2016 (M) - When we started going out I thought she was a nice girl, she has loads of friends, is liberal, goes to rights protests and that sort of thing. Was also very happy and smiley. However I'm repulsed by her recently. For example she grew up in a bet...

Depression, drinking and having to go on holiday abroad

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

12 October 2016 (M) - I live with my parents, and i'm currently on medication for depression. when my parents have had holidays, ive been able to look after myself and have behaved. I'm seeing a pyschlogist at the moment who is helping me through my troubles. I asked he...

My strict Chinese parents don't know about my boyfriend and it's difficult to keep hiding from them

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2961 days ago

11 October 2016 (F) - Hi everyone, a little about me before i write about my issue. I'm 3 months away from turning 18, I have a boyfriend which have to be kept secret. (I know what you're thinking, im a liar and yes i admit I am but heres why) So my boyfriend and I ...

Am I out of line for asking my b/f to change around his child support situation with his ex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2961 days ago

11 October 2016 (F) - hello ive been dating my bf for a year now. He is 51 I am 47. He has an ex and three children. I have two children . We live seperatly. He and his ex do not follow the child support schedule its been now 6 years that they have not been together ...

Why get married? How do I tell my family that they're waiting for something that will not happen?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2961 days ago

11 October 2016 (F) - Why is getting married so important!! I'm 25 I have been with my partner 10 years my relationship is fantastic I trust him we get on like best mates there's no drama it is as close to perfect as I could have ever imagined! We own a home 50/50 not...

Am I being mistreated? Is this emotional abuse?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

11 October 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for 2 years. I don’t know if this is emotional abuse or if there is something I can do to fix the problem. This morning I had gone to make a shake for him and when I poured the material inside ...

I love him but I hate him. Where do I go from here? Its officially over but I still have feelings

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2960 days ago

10 October 2016 (F) - I don't know where to start but Ive lost so much over the past year and the losses still keep coming. I'm 38, two sons (18 and 15) and divorced for a little over a year. My sons are great...my oldest is a freshman in college out of state and my ...

Should I keep making an effort with my little brother? He's cut me out of his life for no reason.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2963 days ago

9 October 2016 (F) - I'm 24 and my little brother is 19. We were quite close and brought up by a single mother. I bought a house 2 years ago but still made an effort with my family, and I regularly call my mum. Well my brother has recently moved into a flat with ...

I am sure my boyfriend is battling depression. How do I help someone that doesn't want to be helped?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2963 days ago

8 October 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now and have only recently come to the conclusion that there is a high possibility that he is dealing with depression. Since December 2015, I have noticed a serious decline in per...

My brother and his wife is spreading rumours about me? Its driving me demented I'm also pregnant

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2956 days ago

8 October 2016 (F) - I'm 21 , married and moved in with my mother about 12 months ago after our rent rose sky high. We are living with my mother as we were saving for a wedding and a deposit for a home. My wedding is over with and we have our deposit with the house ...

Why did he present as single and not wear any ring? Only telling me later? I broke up, but now he's pursuing me. How do I handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

8 October 2016 (F) - I'm a divorced mom of 2 children. Single for almost 3 years now. I am tall, thin, athletic, and would consider myself a 7.5 – 8, however, six nights a month doesn’t really allow a lot of free time to date. About 7 months ago, I met a very cute ...

Coming Out - my personal experience

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2964 days ago

8 October 2016 (F) - If you are an 'out and proud' member of the LGBT community then it is more than likely that you have a coming out story. Some of these stories are funny,and sometimes they are sad. But regardless they make for great conversation starters. But h...