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writes:When we started going out I thought she was a nice girl, she has loads of friends, is liberal, goes to rights protests and that sort of thing. Was also very happy and smiley. However I'm repulsed by her recently.For example she grew up in a better and more well off home than I did (she went to private school and is always boasting about how close her family is, whereas my parents split when I was little). But she seems to hate rich people possibly because she is always moaning about how she was bullied at private school and the "spoilt rahs" at her uni (I went to a uni full of rahs and made good friends with them!). A mutual friend is dating a really well off girl and she told him bluntly to "take her for all she's got." She also randomly says stuff like "I hate the happy rich guy [on that travel ad], literally want to strangle him ugh!" because she can't always afford a holiday! Wtf?She also can be a mean girl. We are both in our 20's but she does not always act like an adult. She randomly takes pictures of people that aint even funny like some construction workers reading the Daily Mail or a guy asleep on the bus, then she posts it on FB with a sarcastic caption. She seems classist though she moans about rich folk!! I am not sure if this is because of her family whom she is close to though she always boasts they're a well mannered and great family, maybe she just boasts to make me jealous idk. Her brother is extremely stuck up and emotionally immature, half his social media is posts about how angry he is about something, and her dad is a well known writer.. when I've been to visit them he has been really weird and critical about things we discuss. He just isn't open minded and really rude and I think my GF gets her superiority complex from him.Should I dump her? I dont like dating girls who are mean even if its not to me, I have tried mentioning to her but its so hard to get through. Am I too sensitive?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (13 October 2016):
 I have to ask, do you think your girlfriend has mental health issues?
I ask because my partner's daughter used to do the "taking photos of random strangers and posting on social media" stuff a few years ago. She had various mental health issues going on and could see nothing wrong in her behaviour, regardless of how many times people told her it was not acceptable for someone in their late teens to do this sort of thing.
She would also do things like sitting with her friends in local McDonalds or KFCs and "mocking the sad people". I mean, what the hell???
She has been diagnosed with depression and other mental health issues and is now getting help, but she saw this behaviour as acceptable.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 October 2016):
 She seems like a VERY sad and negative person, not the kind that spreads joy, just misery.
The things about her that you do not like are they deal breakers for you? Because it's not likely that she will change. To me, it seems like her attitude towards other people is a learned behavior that her brother also displays. So for THEM it's the norm.
As for her posting pictures of a random stranger and using them as "attention fodder" on her Facebook, ewww that is just really sad and pathetic. It's a disgusting, honestly.
I could not date such a person. Spiteful, bitter and hateful? Not my cup of tea. You have to decide if her good point makes up for the negative parts or... if the negatives ones are just a deal breaker for you.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 October 2016):
 She has a lot of hatred in her. You are right she is a mean person and she tries to belittle people. She might be well off but she wants more, she is jealous off people who have more than her so she tried to bring them down. She also takes pictures off strangers and technically cyber bullies them. Not a nice person. I couldn't be with someone like this. You cannot change her. My advice would be to end things.
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reader, singinbluebird +, writes (12 October 2016):
 She sounds absolutely awful! I second Ciar and say yes leave her!
My sister had an old co-worker who take pics of random people behind their back and send it to her friends so they can make fun of people. It was gross, immoral, and completely asshole behavior. Suffice to say, my sister stays as far away as she can from this woman.
There are terrible people out there but there is also wonderful people. You just got remove the ugly ones from your life. Im sorry you had to put with her as well, Id run if I was you. But just know there are many wonderful women are out there, dont lose hope.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (12 October 2016):
 Yep. I think you should dump her.
She'll likely grow up EVENTUALLY but there are no guarantees and why put yourself through it.
Be honest about your reasons, and perhaps consider reporting her offensive posts to Facebook.
For future reference, unless you're under the heel of an oppressive dictatorship-which Britain is not, participating in 'rights protests' is usually a pretty good indicator that someone is NOT open minded, and even less interested in anyone else's rights.
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