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Archived questions from: December, 2012 (see latest in Crushes category)

Crushes: Help and advice

Our trio has become a duo and I'm the odd man out

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

31 December 2012 (M) - Evening folks, So, about two years ago, I went to this night school and I got on well with two other people. So well in fact, that even up to now, we're still close friends - and always meeting up together and stuff. However, as is expected with...

I need help decoding this guy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4333 days ago

31 December 2012 (F) - So I posted a question about this guy a bit ago...He is a bit older than me so I wasn't sure how things would work between us but then we kinda went on a quasi-date, it was really fun and he's so easy to be with and I'm trying to decode him and ...

When a guy writes "xxxx" to you, does it mean he likes you?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4333 days ago

31 December 2012 (?) - Well, there's this guy I like. I have known him for awhile. We hugged and stuff but just recently he has been talkin to me more than usual. After talking with him he put after his text, xxxx. Now I know xoxo means Hugh's and kisses but could xxxx ...

How can I get my friend to accept that I don't have any romantic interest in him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

31 December 2012 (F) - I've been friends with this guy for about a year, and for a lot of that time he's had a crush on me. We are both 20, and in college. We are good enough friends that the crush is "out in the open" and we have discussed it without too much ...

How should I proceed with girl I flirt with a lot over texts and what sorts of things should I be talking about?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4333 days ago

31 December 2012 (M) - I have known this girl who is nearly year now, we have been talking for thst long and only recently we started talking alot. We used to talk about other people, and few issues she had but i was never first port of call. Recently we have started ...

My boyfriend never wants to socialise with my friends. Is he being selfish and want can I do about this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

31 December 2012 (F) - Ok my boyfriend of 3 years never wants to do anything with my group of friends, it always has to be his. For example tonight, we were invited to a NYE party with my friends weeks ago but he has been hesitating about going to it. I have asked hi...

I usually pick the losers and jerks - I'm scared to see what happens this time!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4332 days ago

31 December 2012 (F) - So I've started talking to this guy that has a lot in common with me, its like we can constantly talk and not get tired of each other. I have never been able to talk to someone like this and it feels really weird, and Im afraid I am going to say ...

I don't know what to think. Why is he flirty and happy to see me and then he turns away and ignores me?

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31 December 2012 (F) - So I realllllyyy like this boy and I mean so much. I don't even care about any other boy who walks by me cause all I can think about is the guy I like. I want him and I could care less about any other guy. We're friends right now and I don't wa...

I'm not sure about her behaviour - is she a flake?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4335 days ago

31 December 2012 (F) - i've been seeing this girl, and i can't lie, she's confusing the crap out of me. we met about two months ago when she started working with me. one night, a few work friends, including her, all went out for drinks, and after everyone left, she came ...

How can I talk to her without it being creepy or obvious that I like her?

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31 December 2012 (F) - I've liked this girl for a while and I also have a medium sized crush on her friend. We usually talk every morning before school an I always walk the girl I really like to class. I know she doesn't really send me signals but I want to know how I ...

I can't forget about this older guy despite following your previous advice! What's going on? I need help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - Hey I recently wrote for you about this man of 31 years old and was advised delete him from my Facebook account and to focus my attention on somewhere else, so that's what I did. I deleted him from fb and I changed my way to school to not see him ...

My Coworker says he's a "relationship kind of guy" but I think he's rushing things. Does he want more a FWB than a relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4332 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - I have got involved in a coworker. We have been sexting and sending each other pics... I was really against this but he eventually twisted my arm. Thing is, hes only just recently broken up with his gf and says he wasn't bothered about the breaku...

I want to date. But I'm also carer for my mother and sister. How have other carers been able to juggle studies, caring and me-time or even a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - I hate starting these off but basically I'm 17, I have only ever had 1 boyfriend and that's because I'm a carer for my mum and sister, my mum has COPD and my sister has cerebal palsy. Over the past few weeks I've started developing a crush on this ...

She's making catty remarks about me. Do I ignore her? Or involve the guy we both may have a crush on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

29 December 2012 (F) - this girl might like this guy I might have a crush on. I know he used to like me but I think he likes her now though I don't know for sure. He may even like Both of us. Anyways this girl is rude to me making catty/smart comments most of the time...

An Alpha male in my midst. Do I feel this way about him because he's more manly than my boyfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4312 days ago

29 December 2012 (F) - I have a long very term, live-with boyfriend. I have always been loyal to him. My neighbor is very close to my family and is pretty much an extension of such, he comes to visit on holidays and is welcomed into my home no questions asked... A ...

Is the lesson from all this that he'll attempt to make further conversation if this is going anywhere?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

29 December 2012 (F) - Hi, I would appreciate someone's advice on this. I work in an office and sometimes the pressure can get quite intense. There's a guy who works in another department who I've seen looking at me a few times here and there. I find him very attract...

Is he just playing games with me? He denies, to others, that he still likes me. He claims to think of me sexually, still.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

29 December 2012 (F) - My ex and i had had the longest conversation recently, since we broke up. Word got around that he likes this other girl now. But he told me how he still has had sexual thoughts for me, not her, but me. I questioned why me instead of her. He told...

Should I be worried that my crush might like this other girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4333 days ago

29 December 2012 (F) - this guy I like and this girl are really close. they joke and kidd and talk with each other alot. there is quite a slight age gap but he has had a crush on someone a little older before. Sometimes if I see them both online it's like they talk back ...

Should I confess my feelings to my teacher? / does he like me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - Hi everyone, I have a common issue but I cant seem to find an answer that fits my exact situation. I have a crush on my teacher and I don't know if I should tell him or not but I think he likes me back. So ive been in an ensemble all four years o...

Sex! Is it that I have a sign on my head that every guy I'm interested in sees only that? How do I change that focus?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4337 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - There is this guy who I've liked for three years now. It's kind of pathetic I've admired him for this long and haven't had the guts to ever do anything until now, but let's say I've let him know I'm interested but not enough for him to know I R...

Friend or more? Is she playing games with me to get me interested?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

28 December 2012 (M) - So there is this girl I've been liking for a while. Her friends tease her with me and she acts casual about it, some times she continues the joke herself. As of recent, another guy seems to be interested in her and she's nice to him and speaks to h...

She's gorgeous. My envy and jealousy towards her is out of control. What can I do? I'll lose her if I keep being like this.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - I need help bad! Please help! Im in love with a woman but Im jealous of her. Shes gorgeous. Shes everything I want to be and pretend to be but aint. She's smart, funny, kind, thoughtful, classy, generous, shapely, blue eyes, professionally esta...

Does he see me as his rebound option? Is he reluctant as we work together? Or is he interested in me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - Hi guys... I have a problem. Basically... I changed jobs less than 2 months ago and at my new job I have met a guy who is 6 years older than me. I'm 18 and he's 24. He's been in a relationship the whole time (couple of months) up until 3 d...

How do I get my friend back? At least to talk to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - I'm scared, lost and feel really down. This is basically one of those "how do I get my friend back" questions, however this is a little more complicated. My friend (male) wont speak to me. He cut me out his life with no explanation. We ...

Is the girl I know and like trying to make me jealous? Her actions confuse me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

28 December 2012 (M) - one day in school at lunch i was heading back to my table when i heard a conversation going on with a girl i know/like and her friends. she sat at my table with her friends a few seats down from me,every day at lunch. she was talking about a guy ...

Slept with him, but he became a jerk. Broke up. Later slept with his brother. If they know will they both hate me now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - I know I will be judged for this but I really need help please? I slept with a guy a year ago. After I slept with him, he was a jerk to me and left my life, until recently. However, I recently slept with his brother. Now my ex has just started tal...

I can't tell my family about our relationship. Is it wrong to date my cousin? Is it wrong to have sex with him??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - I have always like him(My cousin) he like me ... He is my boyfriend too but the problem is that i cant never show it in front of My family. Me and him want to tell our family but i dont now how to tell them ?? Is it wrong to date him? And is...

Eleven months later my ex made contact. Is he trying to reconnect? What's my next move?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4337 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - Hey guys, I'll try and keep this as short as possible but two weeks ago my ex contacted me after us not speaking for 11 months. I deleted his number so I didn't actually know it was him but we were together for 2 and a half years. To be clear, he...

How can I pursue my cute neighbor?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - I've developed a little crush on one of my next door neighbors. I am in my early twenties and he's in his late twenties. Occasionally, I see him in front of his house and we always say hello and have the casual conversation but it never goes ...

Texting him for 4 months. Then he suggested FWB. Then ignored me totally. Am I right to be concerned by this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - I've been texting this guy for around 4 months now and a few weeks ago we both told each other we like each other. Since then we've been texting everyday and have planned to meet up and go out somewhere. I should also mention that he also suggested ...

As it's her home area shall I ask her first where she'd like to go on our first date?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

27 December 2012 (M) - So I think I might be into this girl. After we get back to college from Christmas break, I'm gonna see if she wants to go out. Where we go to school is her hometown, so she has her car, and she already has her favorite places, and knows everywhere...

Why did he wait so long to contact me? Then ask about a present, for him? Does he like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - I met up with this guy who is my friend's colleague We both know that my friend want to introduce us to each other that is why she organised the meetup. According to my friend, this guy is quite shy and not proactive in talking to girls and doesn'...

I want somebody to love.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

27 December 2012 (?) - I feel like I will never be able to be successful with women. The only girls I have ever been good at flirting with are ones I am not actually attracted to deeply. I'm a virgin at 19 and am going through medicine. I had an ex who I was with for 2 ...

Do I waste my time on my crush who doesn't seem to have any interest in me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - Seven years ago ( I was a freshman in high school) I met this guy who I liked (he didnt know I liked him at the time) and became really good friends with. We did everything together eventhough he had a gf and he knew his gf did not like me. We used ...

Is this a date with a crush? Or just business?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - I work at a coffee shop. I have a huge crush on one of my regular costumers. He's very attractive - very fit with a smile that would make any woman melt. I've liked him for months and last week, he'd given me his number. But not for the reason you ...

Never got over my first crush. Lots of health problems since. What can I change so future relationships are more successful?

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27 December 2012 (F) - - This post is long. i'm sorry. Lets just call me 'M' and my first love 'J' I'm quite young, 17 and i fell in love with J at first sight 5 years ago. My heart pounded, my cheeks were always flushed and i kept stammering. Naive i know, but tha...

Shall I trust him or not? My friends say he only sees girls for a short time and then dumps them. I don't want to be hurt.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

26 December 2012 (F) - Just recently, one of my friends invited this guy to a movie with me and a couple of friends. He seemed really nice, and we'd been texting each other quite a bit. He then randomly told me he liked me, just completly out of the blue. I have to sa...

Would he really leave his baby's mother for me? Or is he just telling me what I want to hear?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - I have been with this guy for seven years and during the process of five years we were facing problematic issues because he was cheating. It happened that he made love with this other gal and she became pregnant, I left this guy immediat...

Once our classes resume how should I act around my Crush? Considering I already told him I like him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - I have a crush on this boy for almost a year now but we only became friends last June. Last week,I finally told him how I feel. His response was obscure because he didn't say anything about liking or not liking me but he told stories about pa...

Should I just move on? He seems to prefer that I have a crush on him. But he doesn't suggest we should date.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - Hello there, and Merry Christmas. I was just up late and over thinking a situation that maybe someone could help me with? So about 8 months ago, I told my best friend I liked him in a romantic way. He wanted to keep our friendship so we decided to...

Why does he still keep contacting me? He knows I care. But refuses to give me a commitment to be exclusive.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - I recently ended things with a guy I was seeing because he wasn't ready to see me exclusively. It was hard at first, I really did like him, but with time ill be ok. The thing is though even though we are not together anymore, he will still text me. ...

Why is this guy ignoring me? We had a great 3 days together. I know he has a Gf.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - I had a great time with a guy for 3 continous days. It wasn't supposed to be a date but we met for a lunch at 1pm....and the date ended up 3am! It was not supposed to be a date as he was leaving the country and he already has a girlfriend. How...

I'm shy, so how should I handle my crush on this seriously cute personal trainer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4292 days ago

24 December 2012 (F) - What should I do? This is driving me crazy!? So this cute personal trainer at has been starring at me for months now! He's friendly and talks to everyone there but he doesn't speak to me. He just stares. I really like this guy and I can't see...

I've been flirting with guys the last 6 months. Should I leave my husband and start afresh in a more meaningful relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4341 days ago

24 December 2012 (F) - I met my husband when I was seventeen and married at 21. Now 28 with a child I am so unhappy! We argue a lot, over stupid and small things! I will admit I am bad tempered and may indicate things! Sex life gone down to a point I ask and be let ...

Thank you Dear Cupid. This is a WONDERFUL site. You showed me good directions when I was lost.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

24 December 2012 (F) - I just want to say thanks to all the wonderful people at dear cupid. Since from the beginning of the you have shown love and good advices. Mostly thanks to the wonderful founder of dear cupid. Its so good to know that there's someone out there who ...

My professor seems interested in me. How should I deal with this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

24 December 2012 (F) - Hi. Last year, my professor stared twice at my body during the lectures. I am aged 40. After the course, he asked me to go to come to his office to help me with my thesis. I went there every week. He was soo nice, kind, heplful and a gentleman....

I keep bumping into this guy, I really like him but he's never spoken to me! What can I do to get closer to him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4284 days ago

24 December 2012 (F) - 2 months ago I saw a boy walking in front of the house. He was looking at me, I got surprised and I tought: "Oh my god, he is really handsome!" (Ive never seen him before ). He turned his head back and watched me till he didnt turn right to the ...

I used to like one girl now I've developed a crush on her friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

23 December 2012 (M) - I used to like a girl quite a lot, so I asked her best friend to tell me what the first girl thought about me. However, after a few months now I find myself falling for the second girl. I already told her that I don't like the first girl anymore,...

Is it my character that is such a huge turn off?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

23 December 2012 (F) - i am really shy arround people I don't know or with guys I am into but if I know someone better I am not shy with them anymore... also I am not the party girl type. I don't go out often but most of the time when I do I party hard lol^^ but I am not...

Is it time for me to step back and find a job elsewhere? My married boss flirts with me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

23 December 2012 (F) - Happy Holidays ! This guy that I have known now for three months already is the boss of a company in which I do work at. He claims to be married but I don 't think so I think it's more like common- law. We are flirting back and forward with e...