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*lleay
writes:I have got involved in a coworker. We have been sexting and sending each other pics... I was really against this but he eventually twisted my arm. Thing is, hes only just recently broken up with his gf and says he wasn't bothered about the breakup but still, people need time right?. He says Im really cute, sweet, friendly smiley ((before all the sexting) and wanted to come round mine tonight but I said no. Hes always said he's a relationship kind of guy, but has shown me no signs to wanting thatwith me. I think we're rushing into things way too fast and I'm worried that all he wants is sex. Advice would be greatly appreciated!! (P.s view last question I asked to view progress on whats happened between us).
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reader, elleay +, writes (3 January 2013):
elleay is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCheers all. Just friends and just texting. Both have been honest with eachother and haven't ruled out a potential relationship in the distant future.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 January 2013):
You are being a little naive if you seriously think he'll suddenly fancy you and you#ll end up together. You might know people who that has happened to, but you can't count on it because you'll also know people who it hasn't happened to.
I also don't think FBW will work this time, as you're already too close. This could seriously end up with you just being a rebound, then getting dumped.
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reader, elleay +, writes (31 December 2012):
elleay is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate: I've told him I don't want just sex which he obviously thinks is a shame. He says he's not ready for a relationship which I thought already. Thing is... I'm wondering if I could be in that situation... I like him and sex with someone you like is better than no sex at all right? Or am I being stupid and naive? I know loads of people who have got together after being friends with benefits...
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 December 2012):
 Rule number one that ALL girls need to know...
STICK to your guns and NO means no! IF you realllllly don't want to send naked or "sexy" pictures. no one should EVER "twist your arm" and make you do it.
DO NOT put yourself in a position where you feel you HAVE to do things you don't WANT to to please a guy. THAT is NOT how you keep a guy.
OK to your guy. Seems like he wants sex not a relationship with you. He is on the rebound and looking for sex.
IF you really WANT to try and date him, STOP sexting and being so available and for goodness sake STOP with the pictures. Ask him to take you out of a date. If he can't do that well then end whatever it is you have with him.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 December 2012):
I don't think he's showing any signs either. Seems to me that he's either after a rebound of the FWB thing. This has moved far too quickly, and there's a risk that this will just turn into a sex thing. I'm also a little worried that you so easily gave away sex texts and pictures to a guy who 'twisted your arm'.
I think first of all that you need to stop the texts, and stop the pictures (you don't know where those will end up!). Then you need to have a talk with him about actual dating, or just stopping what you're doing. Given that he's just ended it with his girlfriend and he's already moved on to sexting and pictures, I'd suggest that you move on from him.
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reader, Pontoon  +, writes (30 December 2012):
Hmm.. I assume this guy is more or less your age. If so then his hormones are on fire. He just recently broke up with his girlfriend. And he has twisted your arm with sexting and doing stuff you don't want to do. Your inner self, a.k.a. intuition, tells you that you are rushing into things.
Listen to your intuition. This guy just wants to get into your pants because it will help him get off, get over his ex or a bit of both. You are the one who is going to lose..
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