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writes:i am really shy arround people I don't know or with guys I am into but if I know someone better I am not shy with them anymore...also I am not the party girl type. I don't go out often but most of the time when I do I party hard lol^^ but I am not the type who kisses guys when I am drunk just because I am drunk and I think they are attractive in this moment (I just kissed 3 girlfriends when a I was reeeealy drunk and my 2 ex boyfriends)when I kiss a guy it usually means something to me and I am 20 and a virgin, friends always say "aww" or "aww you are so cute" and they compare me to bambi or to the baby smurf (because I am also the youngest and most innocent and a bit playful)so there is this guy I like and when we are alone I am a bit shy and I always worry about my looks but I feel comfortable when friends are arround us...i tried to get him to kiss me for more than half a year and probably it would even have happened if we were alone and a bit drunkso we had a Christmas party and I had to leave early and the next day a friend told me that this guy probably sleept with someonethe funny thing is this girl's look is totally similar to mine (nearly the same heigh and weight, we both have long light brown hair and we both don't use a lot of make up) and he probably haven't talked more than 10 sentences with her before this night...so if it is not the looks is my character such a turn off? this all made me really sad because I was totally into him and it is Christmas and I am alone and unhappy like the last 2 years and now I feel kind of inferior :(
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reader, MoonliteL  +, writes (23 December 2012):
Hi,
Just because this guy didn't want you, it doesn't mean you suck. We all know many nice people and not all of them are attractive to us. And sometimes we don't even know why some people are more attractive than others.
You shouldn't allow this problem you had with one guy define who you are. You are special. Being shy is seen as a very attractive trait for some men. So just relax, find nice things to do that make you happy, and move on.
There is someone out there looking for someone like you. The sooner you move on from the one who didn't want to, the faster you will find the one who's right :)
I also wanted to say: do as many different activities as you can, so you meet a lot of people. You'll make friends along the way and increase the chances of finding someone faster. And if you feel so bad about being shy, consider theatre classes. You will be taught to leave your comfort zone and pretend you are someone else. The good news is: shy people, once they set themselves free, usually have a lot to give. You'll learn to use that energy to your advantage.
Good luck!
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reader, MoonliteL +, writes (23 December 2012):
Hi,Just because this guy didn't want you, it doesn't mean you suck. We all know many nice people and not all of them are attractive to us. And sometimes we don't even know why some people are more attractive than others.You shouldn't allow this problem you had with one guy define who you are. You are special. Being shy is seen as a very attractive trait for some men. So just relax, find nice things to do that make you happy, and move on.There is someone out there looking for someone like you. The sooner you move on from the one who didn't want to, the faster you will find the one who's right :)I also wanted to say: do as many different activities as you can, so you meet a lot of people. You'll make friends along the way and increase the chances of finding someone faster. And if you feel so bad about being shy, consider theatre classes. You will be taught to leave your comfort zone and pretend you are someone else. The good news is: shy people, once they set themselves free, usually have a lot to give. You'll learn to use that energy to your advantage.Good luck!
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