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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a crush on this boy for almost a year now but we only became friends last June. Last week,I finally told him how I feel. His response was obscure because he didn't say anything about liking or not liking me but he told stories about past girls and a gay guy who told him that they like him and how he remains friends with them as if nothing happened. I took this as a sign of him not liking me but of course, I am still hopeful that he might think things over and change his mind since he had no definite answer and I don't think he has a crush on anyone at the moment. So after I told him, there were no awkward moments and we could still talk about random stuff. But, he is not a talkative guy and it is not his nature to initiate small talk.I decided to not initiate talk with him if he isn't the first one to approach me but if he'd talk to me, I'd respond as I would normally would. The last day of classes before the holiday break, there was this Christmas program in our college. We are members of a common organization so we were together with our orgmates for some time but we did not talk at all. I don't plan on texting him this holiday break because I am sure he will not text me back. I don't know how to act around him when classes resume after the break. Should I continue not talking to him? Or should I forget my decision and initiate the talking? Because I was thinking that, what if not talking to him would further destroy my chances with him? Or maybe I should just move on because he will never like me back?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 December 2012):
 It will hurt a while til you realize that he was "just" a crush. When you accept that it won't hurt as much. YOU will meet other guys, guys who can give you something back.
Chin up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, people I've told this about said I should act normally. But what if it hurts to act normally? We always talk during organization meetings and he gives me free violin lessons twice a week. It hurts to talk to him and know that I can never have him :( By the way, this is my first crush (Yes,at this age...I'm a late bloomer) so it's my first time to experience heartache and all these romance things.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 December 2012):
Just be your usual self. Be polite towards him.
If you don't think he likes you back, then yes, move on - doesn't mean you have to stop talking to him.
If he never felt "that" way about you, you didn't ruin your chances, because you never had a chance - know what I mean?
The ball is in his court, so if he doesn't bring it up, he isn't interested. It happens. Once in a while we all get crushes on people we can't "be" with.
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