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writes:Hi everyone,I have a common issue but I cant seem to find an answer that fits my exact situation. I have a crush on my teacher and I don't know if I should tell him or not but I think he likes me back. So ive been in an ensemble all four years of high school and I honestly love it. I'm the best in the ensemble and he knows it. We also play the same instrument and to be honest I'm the most mature one in the room, which means he talks with me the most. We've had some deep talks about college and life and he knows I'm 18. Ive also noted that he watches me and listens in on my conversations. I make jokes all the time and he thinks they're the funniest thing ever (sometimes they really aren't, haha) and he always smiles when I walk in the room. I always get a 100% on everything, but its also because I practice and play everything right. Also if I'm tardy to class he'll let me get away with it while he doesn't do that for others. Whenever he makes a joke he checks to see if I laughed first and if I ask something he almost always accommodates me. I already decided that if I do tell him, it will be after I have graduated so that way I am 18 and no longer his student, sothat way I'm not putting his job in danger. I do plan to come back and visit though, which means I would see him again so if he doesn't return my feelings it might be awkward. There is about a 5-7 year age gap and I believe he and his gf broke up 3ish months ago. Should I tell him? If so should I do it to his face or in a note? Does he like me tl begin with? Thanks for your answers:)
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (29 December 2012):
 He's still your teacher. IamHereToHelpYou makes a very good point when she says he probably wants to see his students do well and may just find your jokes funny.
What I'm saying is not to blow this out of all proportion.
Even after you graduate you should think twice about telling him you have a crush on him or want to date him. He is quite a bit older than you; you will be only just out of school. Could be extremely embarrassing for him - and for you.
Go back and visit your old school when you've been gone for a number of months, by all means. Greet him, chat, and see if HE shows any interest. Keep in mind that he may ALREADY sense your infatuation. We may try to hide our feelings, but people often pick up on them anyway.
Saying you don't want to live your life with regrets (and "what might have been") shows you're taking this too seriously.........you have your life ahead of you; if this doesn't work out the way you hope, well, its disappointing, sure, but not the end of the world! There'll be other guys you'll meet.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2012): Well, I just want to live my life not having any regrets. I cpuldnt stand to think, "oh, what could have happened if I had told him about my feelings." You know? And if he were to reciprocate the feeling it wouldn't be inappropriate because I would've graduated already and I would no longer be his student. I would be in college at that point.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (29 December 2012):
No, you should definitely not tell him you have a crush on him nor should you tell him you're "interested" in h8im.
He is your teacher; you're a student. Gett8ing romantically involved with a pupil is not appropriate - as you are already aware.
If after you graduate you decide to visit your old school, then that's up to you. However, I want to caution you against going back until you've been away for six months or more. When/if you do visit make it a point to get in touch with other teachers and friends. In other words, don't simply focus on him.
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