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anonymous
writes:Hello there, and Merry Christmas.I was just up late and over thinking a situation that maybe someone could help me with? So about 8 months ago, I told my best friend I liked him in a romantic way. He wanted to keep our friendship so we decided to stay friends. After I told him, we did not talk for about 2 months, and it has taken us a while to get back to our old ways. So this autumn I decided after 2 years of pining over my friend I would finally put myself out there and get over him. Then a series of events happened. One day my male friend and I were at the mall, we were browsing and I walked off to make a purchase. At the counter I started talking to this guy, who asked me for my number and if he could take me out for drink. Startled, I agreed and ran to my friend to get my bag with a pen and paper. I told my friend what had happened, and that I did not know if I should go ahead with it (i am shy and it was weird being with him as it happened) he said, ‘’do you want me to go over there tell him I’m your boyfriend?’’ Surprised, because that is never something he would do, I said no, and gave the guy my number. Later he asked if I went on a date with the guy. I said no, and he seemed to be relieved. Then a month later, I was doing some work in a coffee shop when a guy came over from his party table and asked me if I would like the last piece of his birthday cake. I smiled and he asked if we could meet up some time giving me his business card. On a day out with my friend, I went to pay for something and his card fell out, he saw it and asked who the guy was. I told the story and he looked down saying ‘so are you going to go out with him then?’ I found it quite awkward and changed the subject. A week later on a day out, he randomly brought it up again, saying ‘so did you go on that date?’ I said we had talked but I was not taking it anywhere and he ended the conversation. Then last week at a school reunion an old friend and I made out, it was silly and we were drunk. I felt like we had been through enough for me to tell my friend, like in a ‘wow you would not believe what happened to me kind of way’ but he was like ‘what happened!?’ in a silent curious way. I said it was nothing and he just looked down at me.I feel like he does not really like me romantically, but would be happy if I stayed with a crush on him. So, I kind of don’t know what to do or where to go with this ‘friendship’. I feel I can’t fully move on because of him, so should we start to distance ourselves?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2012): He probably has a crush on you, but its not like he desires your love more than anything kind of thing. Its more of that crush towards you, him not being really sure about his feelings towards you but doesn't want you to be with other gusy while he makes up his mind. You should confront him and ask him if he doesn't like you that way why does he get upset when you tell him about other guys. Good luck
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reader, tinybubble  +, writes (25 December 2012):
When you told him that you like him, he was flattered but at that moment, he didn't like you in a romantic way. But when he saw that you are "in demand" because other guys are taking interest in you, his male ego is turned on saying "this girl likes me and she's mine". I'm not really sure if he is starting to like you romantically or it's just his ego that's working here although there is a huge chance that he is thinking things over about the possibility of the two of you. I also don't think you should distance yourself from him unless it's already hurting that you like him so much but couldn't be with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2012): You are assuming that his interest in your dating status is triggered by more than simple friendly interest.Maybe he wants to be your wingman and not your man. Or maybe he is hoping you will date and take the pressure/guilt off him. Just start dating and continue to be his friend. What will be will be.
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