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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest in Age differences category)

Age differences: Help and advice

Lied about my age, will he still love me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5681 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, i met my boyfriend online 2 months ago. We got chatting and really hit it off, met a couple days later and we got along so well and fell for each other so bad that i didnt end up leaving and so now ive moved in with him. We've already been thr...

I find older women very attractive, is there anything wrong with that?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5681 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Ok im 18 f i have this problem. I seem to find older women attractive but i simply cant be coz its just wrong it says in the Bible. I dont know what to do. Please help!...

In love with my dad's 28 year old best friend, I am 14, please help?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5681 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I am in love with my dad's best friend.The guy i love is 28 and i am 14.I love him so much but i dont want to tell him because i am afraid of my dad and i am afraid of losing the guy i love.What makes it worse is that my dad's bestfriend 23 yeal old ...

Confused about my feelings for him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Alright so I started going to a new church a little over a month ago and I made friends with a lot of people there. There's this one guy that I got along with very well, we have a lot in common and he's like the male version of me. We like the same ...

I had sex with him yesterday and now I don't know what to do.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I'm 15 and old friend just started talking to me again. Me and him had sex yesterday, he's 19 going on 20. I don't know what to do, I have known him for a long time, he doesn't want to hurt me. Can someone help me, please...

Please help me. Is my boyfriend cheating? He says this is a set up.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5681 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Hello, I am 28 years old mother of a 10 year old daughter. MY past relationships haven't been all that great. My first husband cheated on me numerous times but I stayed with him to try and work things out. Well that was back in 2003 that we got...

I'm not happy with his past and thinking of leaving

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Do i stay with my boyfriend or leave. my partner is 43 and im 24 and we have just had our first baby together. he has been married before and has 2 children with his ex wife and he also has another child with another women. This women keeps comi...

Stay with the guy who lied to me or marry a person of my parent's choice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Hi..! I am in relationship with this guy since 5 months i.e. from Dec end. We got to know each other through phone and usually communicated through phone and after talking thrice or some more times he proposed me. At that time I hadn't seen him...

He spends an hour on the phone with his female business associate, how do I deal with this monkey business?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - My b/f who is 8 yrs younger than me started texting this business associate on the night he worked the night shift, then I found out he has been calling her on evenigs before he reaches home, on morning after I left for work. I confronted him and he ...

Worried what my parents will think of my older boyfriend when they want me to marry someone of their choice

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - i am 17 ie turning 18 in this july.i have a boyfriend who is 32.we are in this relationship for about last 5-6 months.i love him very much but i am worried about my parents.actually my parents want me to marry a guy of their choice.well i too know ...

Is it innapropriate?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, is it inappropriate/creepy for me, 20, telling a 14 year old girl (albeit mature), that i think she's beautiful and if i were younger, i would ask her out? opinions to be appreciated...

He's 16 and I'm 13, we have never met...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5680 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Here's the thing, I was dating this guy, who is 3 years older than me via the internet and we had arranged to meet and that, it just never happened. Is this too dangerous for me to be doing? I really like him, and he says he loves me, like properly ...

He won't tell me if something's bothering him, how can I know for sure that something is bothering him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - This guy I like is almost 16 in september and i'm 17. Do you think that he would act differnetly towards a girl he liked because hes younger? He likes me but he doesn't talk to me anymore and I don't know why he would be playing mood games with me. ...

15 & 23, too big an age gap or too big a risk?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 5670 days ago

26 May 2009 (M) - I'm 23 and have feelings for a girl I meet at a wedding 2 weeks ago. She is beautiful. I couldn't keep my eyes off her all night. Then the bomb dropped, I found out she is only 15! I felt so ashamed even though I didn't act on my feelings, there was ...

Bad reaction from my family about our relationship, what do I do now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

26 May 2009 (M) - I am 20 years old.I am in love with my GF who is 34 years old.She is divorced and not having any child. Her husband was impotant hence she didnt have sex before.She loves me lot and she is very much caring for me too.I am from middle class brahmin ...

Would our ages leave us in an awkward situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5687 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Sooo... Im kind of stuck. Im a teen, who is pretty um... well, my heart wants some pretty impossible things... Theres a guy. Hes 31. I know for sure that this is love. Obsessive love. I built a shrine for him and burned a flower as an offering. ...

Like him a lot, but age difference, 14/20, religion and distance pose problems, any suggestions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

25 May 2009 (F) - So I met this guy not to long ago. From the moment i met him I loved his speech, his train of though.... EVERYTHING! We try to talk as much as possible and I already know he likes me. He reminds me constantly on how adorable he thinks i am and how ...

Is it wrong for him to like me even with the age difference?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - I like this guy who is three years older than me. IF he did fancy me and he wrote on here to ask what to do about it, or even whether to do something about it, what advice would you give him? Would you think that it's wrong for a 19 year old boy to ...

Wanted to marry me everyday, now wants to take it one day at a time, what gives?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - I have a problem I have been seeing this guy for 3 months, he is 10 years younger than me, from the first week he was telling me he loved me and that he knew that i was the one he wanted to be with and marry we get along great together, he lives 2 ...

He has shown sexual interest, but how soon is too soon to have sex?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - I'm going on a date with a guy I really like. He is almost ten years older then me but that doesnt bother me at all, however he has indicated that he is interested in me sexually as well. I feel the same spark as he does and would do it in a heart ...

What is it that tells you that an older guy likes you, I'm 14, he is in his twenties?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

23 May 2009 (F) - How does a 14 year old girl tell if a grown man likes her? Cuz my friend tells me that this guy ( in his 20's acted like he liked me). Please give me some ways i could tell if a older guy likes me....

It was wonderful in the beginning but now it's rubbish. What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5692 days ago

22 May 2009 (F) - I started dating my boyfriend a year ago and in the begining he was lovely he's 18 years older than me and everthing was great and i felt like a princess and that i could finally be with someone who understood me 2 or 3 weeks in i cheated i didnt ...

Is 7 years an age difference I should be worried about?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5681 days ago

22 May 2009 (F) - Hey, I'm Ashley. I am 19. About two months ago I started dating my boyfriend, to whom is 27. He will be 28 in December. He thinks and talks about our age difference often, and I try to explain to him that its not a big deal and its 2009 that 7 or 8 ...

She told me about her past and I just can't get over it...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5693 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - Been with my girlfriend around a year and a bit she is much older than me which for me was not a problem as she has a fun personality and i barely felt the difference at the start i am in love with her and she is my first true love i didnt have a ...

Dating an older guy and nervous about sleeping with him!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5692 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Ive been dating a older man for a couple of weeks, we have only kissed but im scared of the whole sex thing as him being 6 years older then me im worried hes had much more experience then me as ive only had one sexual partner, also im a curvy girl a ...

He doesn't want me to go back home with him....could this mean he is still with the mother of his children?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5692 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Ive met this guy hes 29 im 22, we have been on 4 dates and email and text everyday, they were great dates and were so attracted to each other lots of kissing...he lives about a hour away from me ive now asked twice to go back home with him, hes said ...

I'm afraid that if I wait to long then we will never be together!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5693 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - My heart says that I fancy this guy, yet my head says that nothing will happen between us. I'm 16 and there is a three yr gap between us. He makes me laugh and I enjoy being around him, and he does tease me - sometimes I retort back, sometimes ...

B/f 11 years older than me is abusive and I don't know how to get out of this relationship!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - First off, I'm 15 going on 16 in a couple of days; my boyfriend is ELEVEN years older than me. We've been together for 7 months and I do really like him, but every single month I've tried to end it because he's made me feel like sh*t, I have rea...

I have feelings for my best friends brother

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5697 days ago

17 May 2009 (F) - I really like this guy, but I am not sure what is going on or what I should do. Opinions, comments please. I've known about this guy for about a year, I never really had time to talk to him though, I really only started to get to know him and han...

My much older boyfriend is engaged to another woman, but I know he really likes ME!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5115 days ago

16 May 2009 (F) - Im 18 and the man im seeing is 34. we are smitten by each other... we see each other nearly every day, send over 100 texts to each other daily and cant keep our eyes off each other. I have never felt this way about anyone before! There is the small ...

He wants to break up because of the age difference but it doesn't matter to me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

15 May 2009 (F) - Please help, I have just split up with my boyfriend of 8 years. He is 20 years older than me (I am 30 he is 50) and he says he has just woken up to the fact that he is so much older than me. He feels he has to let me go so I can go off and marry ...

Is he being self-conscious about the age gap or is he trying to hide something from me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5695 days ago

14 May 2009 (F) - So I am dating an older man who is an adjunct teaching piano at a university. I'm 23 and he's 30 and we've been going out for two years. I was over at his place recently and he had to go into school to hear some of his students play in a recital ...

Why was I wrong to entice older men?

This question has 33 answers - newest was posted 5697 days ago

13 May 2009 (F) - I started having sex when I was 13, and every one of my partners were adult men. There was no coercion or force involved in any of them. I consented to the encounters, and I initiated the sex on each occasion. This did not negatively impact my life. ...

Should I pursue him even though he's younger than me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

13 May 2009 (F) - I work at a theme park in retail. It just opened this past weekend. I was told to let Dylan go on break. We ended up working together that night folding hundreds of shirts and talking about a lot of things. We were physically close too. He is pretty ...

Dating an older guy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - hello, i am now dating this guy and i am really getting serious with him. if he would ask me to marry him, i think i would say yes. but our age gap is 22 years. i am 23 and he is 45. i am worried what would it like to have an older husband. what are ...

I'm scared to have sex with my boyfriend who is 11 years older than me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5697 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I'm 19 year old and since i've been 14 im attracted to older man. My first boyfriend that lasted 2 years and half was 28 and i was 14, he was the best he used to take me out to eat, picked me up at school, took me out ect. We kissed, hugged and ...

How can a woman initiate kissing? What else could I do to show I like him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5695 days ago

11 May 2009 (F) - I am 32 and i am interested in this guy hes 44. I feel 100% safe with him (he knows people in my family-who happens to be in police force-hes not going to hurt me). We were both hurt in last relationship. Thing is mine was my first relationsh...

Am I stressing over nothing? He's not texting me back

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5703 days ago

10 May 2009 (F) - hey all i met a guy a week ago he is 10 years younger then me but we hit it off from the start, since we met we have seen each other 3 times. he still lives with his x in a shared house until the end of august. he has been texing me pretty ...

Why are older guys interested in younger girls?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

10 May 2009 (F) - why do older guys like say 40 year olds prefer to be with girls of like 18 or 20 years old ? doe sit make them feel younger.or are they actually in love with the younger girls cuz of their prettiness and whatever. ...

I told him I was older, and now I'm falling for him. How to tell him the truth?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5703 days ago

10 May 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm 20 and have been going to a local bar for the past year. I met this cool guy who I told I was 24, he started talking online alot then dating . He is 34. He has told me he loved me and I"m beginning to fal hard for him. I dont want to lie to ...

Does my teacher like me for more than just a student^

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5681 days ago

8 May 2009 (F) - I never really noticed this teacher until I was with my cousin at the liquor store buying drinks for a party. I was in the car since I'm 16. I saw him walk out with his friends and he just blew my mind. He has dark hair with light blue eyes and that ...

He's 12 years older than me, what do I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

8 May 2009 (F) - My mom is dating this guy who's about 10 years older than her... Well he has a son (I'll call him matthew) and hes really cute and sweet and just totally perfect... he thinks the same of me... i know your probably thinking whats the problem then... ...

Dating a high school girl, is it right or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5707 days ago

7 May 2009 (M) - I can't stress the fact that I have not dated a High School girl since I finished High School 3 years ago, okay, not even one. I'm 20 now and dating a soon to be 18 year old girl in Grade 12, and I was iffy on it at fist too but I have several fri...

I find older women more attractive, physically and intellectually.....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5707 days ago

7 May 2009 (M) - Hi I am 28 years old and I have always preferred older women. the first time I had sex I was 15 and she was 23 and from that point on older women have been my choice. Sure I have been with several younger than me girls but I feel they're immature, ...

I'm feeling frustrated with the little affection I get from her in public

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5707 days ago

7 May 2009 (M) - (this is goanna be pieced together kinda oddly, i have allot of scattered thoughts and emotions atm) hey me and my girl have been dating now for 9 months, we love each other dearly, there is no sex in our relationship since she refuses to till ...

Age difference. Great relationship. What do I do?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 5695 days ago

7 May 2009 (M) - Hi all. I am a 50 year old man, who has just had a 3 month relationship with a 27 year old woman. We hit it off straight away and have enjoyed the most fantastic three months together. We have had numerous weekends away in romantic venues and roma...

She is ignoring my calls and messages - should I be worried or am I just being immature?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5707 days ago

7 May 2009 (M) - My gf is mid 30 and I am mid 20. She is married and divorced with a daughter. She been through a bad relationship before. Added with the age gap, sometimes, I don't know if the things I expect her to do is correct. I need some advices bec...

Pregnant again but the relationship is very rocky at the moment

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5554 days ago

7 May 2009 (F) - im a 33 year old woman. 18 months ago i got into a relationship with a 20 year old guy and he moved in with me i know he`s alot younger and i wont lie, it has been hard(even thou i look alot younger than i am) about 9 months ago i found out that...

Telling my parents about my guy

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5708 days ago

6 May 2009 (F) - A couple of weeks ago, I met this amazing guy. He's funny, talented, cute, sexy... you get the message. There's only one problem though. I'm almost 19 and he's 30. My parent's would kill me (not literally) if they found out. Another problem that my ...

My husband told me to find satisfaction elsewhere, so now I have!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5707 days ago

6 May 2009 (F) - I've been married to my husband since 1991 and for the past couple of years it's been completely sexless. No matter how hard I try I just can't get him interested. I've asked him to go to the doctor's, take some time off work, anything! He says that ...