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writes:Hi, I'm 20 and have been going to a local bar for the past year. I met this cool guy who I told I was 24, he started talking online alot then dating . He is 34. He has told me he loved me and I"m beginning to fal hard for him. I dont want to lie to him anymore but I am afraid if I tell him the truth he migth be mad. What should I do? and how would you feel if you were in his shoes? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): At least you weren't underage and lying to him. I don't think there is all that much of a difference between dating 10 years younger and dating 14 years younger, but be prepared for him to be unhappy that you lied to him. Not about the content, but about the principle. If I was him I'd wonder what else you might be keeping from me. Just saying...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): HeyaIm 19 and my boyfriends 34 and he doesnt have a problem we me being so much younger. In fact i think hes quite impressed that someone of my age is attracted to him so i dont think youll have anything to worry about. You should tell him now because itd be a lot worse if you leave it and he finds out later or from someone else. If your serious about him youll have to tell him one day!Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): Hmm...well, you only added an extra four years to your age, so it's not a huge difference. I get the feeling that you are going to tell him about this, as it is clearly getting to you. I personally think that if he does love you as he says, and that things have been going so well between you, then your age won't be an issue at all.
However, I think if there is an issue here, it would be because you didn't tell him the truth. He might be hurt about that, and he might feel a bit distrustful. Do you know why you told him you was older in the first place? If you explain this to him, he might be understanding. But I would just reassure him that you are truthful from now on.
Good luck, I hope it goes well for you. x
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