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writes:A couple of weeks ago, I met this amazing guy. He's funny, talented, cute, sexy... you get the message. There's only one problem though. I'm almost 19 and he's 30. My parent's would kill me (not literally) if they found out. Another problem that my parents would have with him is that he is an aspiring film maker. He's been nominated for a few awards and he loves what he does but he doesn't make a lot of money, which in know my parent's will complain about. We really love each other. He's never been married before and does not have any children. Thanks.
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reader, jayne_staaa +, writes (6 May 2009):
hey my age gap with my guy is 20 years my father reacted very badly but my mum came around to the idea and wanted my happyness i suggest u come clean to them personally even if ur scared try writing them a letter i wish i had done much sooner i think the result would have been more peaceful. i think we all worrie about what are parents are going to think of us but so what if he doesnt make alot of money at least hes intresting and hes following his dreams and that deserves some credit, you should be proud of the guy u love and if ur parents dont like him so what u love him and thats what counts the best way to do this if i was u is bring him round and introduce them and sit down and have a talk let ur parents voice what they have to say and let ur boyfriend its important they both get their feelings out in the begining x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): Parents only ever want the best for their kids, it's only natural, but they can't live your life for you. They can try to point you in the right direction but in the end it's you and only you that makes decisions about your life and what you're going to do with it. If you make mistakes, it's you that has to live with them - that's what being an adult is all about.
Your parents will try to guide you and advise you on the best course to take in any given situation, but again, it's you that decides whether to listen to their advice and guidance or ignore it. Be prepared for a few 'I told you so's', but like I said, they can't live your life for you. No doubt they had the same situation with their own parents too!
Money oils the wheels and the gears, but it doesn't guarantee a happy relationship, so shouldn't be an important factor when choosing a partner. He might turn out to be another Michael Winner, who knows? He didn't start out as a millionaire either - although he certainly is now!
Follow your heart - but listen to your head as well and consider carefully what your parents have to say. They've been through the mill long before you have.
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