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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in Age differences category)

Age differences: Help and advice

Will I ever be ready for BIG commitments?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5591 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Most of my boyfriends have been really nice, my current bofriend is no exception. He's the best by far and wouldn't ever hurt me. When we first got together, we had conversations about our future; moving in together, children and marriage. When ...

I'm scared to leave in fear of living alone in a tiny rented flat for the rest of my life!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I'm 35 and in a bit of an emotional mess. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend/partner for 10 years and while she seems happy, I'm not. She is 10 years older than I and this has never been a problem (and suits me as I don't want ...

Confused and need closure!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5591 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - My query is in relation to a girl i met a couple of months ago. She is over 4 years older than me and i am 26. I know that she was married a few years ago but her then husband left her for another woman, this does not bother me in the slightest, ...

Why is life so hard when you've found your soulmate?

This question has 35 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - What do I do???? I am 45 and in a relationship with an 18 yearold!!! Where do I begin? Well for nearly a 10 months I have been seeing a woman/girl whos is nearly 27 years my junior!!! at first we knew each other as we live close and saw each other ...

My parents forced me to to leave my 40 year old married boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I'm 16 year old who had a boyfriend before who's older than me his 40, and married already.Were 1 year and 1 month already,he had a wife but they are not staying anymore because of some misunderstanding and he don't have a plan to be together with ...

How do I prevent his mood swings, that make him break up with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - It's an interesting situation, actually... You see, I'm in a long-distance relationship with someone who's a few years older than me (though that might not be relevant); I guess you could say that he's a... 'mercurial' boyfriend. I read about that ...

If our ages were reversed, would it be such a problem?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hello. I have a big question! Last week end i went to a friendly/family reunion for my friend. There was someone really interesting there. We had good conversations over the fire, some lafing, connecting... he is single and so am i... We fond ...

I don't feel like an important part of his life!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I'm feeling so confused and lost right now. I am 19 and my boyfriend is 36. I'll be going to uni soon and he is a tutor. Recently we have not been spending much time together as he says he needs to do work. Fine, I'm trying to be ...

He accuses me of cheating and is suspicious of my questions

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29 July 2009 (F) - I've got a small problem. My husband and I are having some issues. I consider them major issues, but in the scheme of things, they probably aren't. I'm new to this whole marriage thing. This is my first marriage and his third. He's the first serious ...

Mr. Right, but not right now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5594 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I'm 21 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for the past 10 months. He is a good guy, sweet and kind to me. He is also older than I am by about eight years, and I think he's ready to settle down (has asked me to move in with him before and so ...

My partner won't have sex with me, what gives?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - hi im 18 and have been with my partner for over a year now hes 32 and at the start we loved having sex.now he wont even touch me...he says he loves me but he knows i dont love him...im too young to be caught up with love but why wont he sleep with ...

He just wants to cuddle because of my age, but I want more.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I like this lad but i'm not sure if he likes me. He says he does but hes 18 and i am 14. He says if i was older he would defiantly date me. He says he doesn't want sex he just wants a loving relationship where he can just be with me cuddling me and ...

Why not let me see the message? Why lie?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Im am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 27. Before we got together he used to cheat on a girl he was seeing but changed when we got together. We have been together for just under a year and he hs never cheated on me and we have a really good ...

Does my Piano teacher like me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I'm 16 and my piano teacher is 28 and I've been noticing a lot of weird things that he does around me and doesn't do around his other female students and I am really confused. Does he like me? (I know dating him would be dangerous and I don't want ...

Am I destined to be with him? What is this feeling

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5589 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I had this guy friend who is 3years older than me.We knew each other ever since I was 6years old.It started off as good and funny friends until I was 12years old.I had my first love,but it just ended with a heartbreak.So what I did was turn to this ...

I'll be 16 in February, he's 21, is he too old for me? And is a bj a bad idea?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I'm 15 turning 16 in feb. And is he's 21. Is he to old for me? Oh, and is it a bad idea if I gave him a bj?...

How can I change myself so that he desires more intimacy with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5583 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid I am in a relationship with a man in his late 40's and I am in my late 20's. The question is about our sex life. He does not do much foreplay, when we do have sex and outside of this act, casual hugging and kissing is just not his cup...

I really feel that it is love! But the age difference....

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

26 July 2009 (F) - Basically, i really love this guy, he tells me he likes me to, sometime i feel like hes leading me on, but hes afraid to let his feelings out because of the age gap between us, im 15 and hes 21, our birthdays are on the same month, mines before his, ...

He's going to try again with his ex, but still wants to talk to me! Should I wait?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

26 July 2009 (F) - I was seeing this man for 7 months who is divorced and younger than me..His ex has decided she wants to try to work things out..he has decided to go back to try. How can he say he loves me and want to try to work it out with her..Our age is 20 years ...

Do you think, despite the age difference, our love is too good to be true?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

25 July 2009 (F) - I met this guy, I knew I was in love with him right from the beginning, but thought he would never fall for me. I'm 14 and he's 16, however I didn't complain because we became really good friends and have a lot in common such as our hobbies. Against ...

How can I make sex enjoyable for an older woman?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

25 July 2009 (M) - I have come to really like an older woman. She is 12 years older than me. despite our age difference is it ok for us to have sex? How can I make sex enjoyable for an older woman? Ladies who have any experience with younger men please give advice. ...

He's a perfect gentlemen, only problem is he's 21 and I'm 16 going on 17!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

25 July 2009 (F) - Hi. I really need some help here. i recently met this guy who seems perfect for me. we're both really into art and the outdoors, and he's a perfect gentleman. the only problem is, i'm 16 (about to be 17) and he's 21. i feel really iffy about this ...

17 and only find men over 40 attractive

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - As you have probably seen from my last post I am in love with my teacher. But I only seem to be attracted to older men, I dont know why. I have never felt any affection to boys my age. Im 17 years old, im quite friendly to one guy who kissed me th...

Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.

This question has 43 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

22 July 2009 (M) - I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...

Do I make the next move or move on?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I ended my relationship because he started to distant himself from me then turned around and said that we was never together in the first place which is a lie as we did stuff that most normal couples would do, we spent most our time together then he ...

When we found out we had an 8 year age gap, we stopped dating! But is it really that bad?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - well i met this guy a few months back. hes absolutly gorgeous! and i never in a million years thought he'd be interested in me, but he was! i met him through a friend who told me he was 21, but the thing i didnt know is that she told him i wss 18 ...

I love him but he doesn't want a long term relationship.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - hi, Im a young lady who has fallen for a guy 7 years younger than myself... i have deeep feeling for him and i know he has feeling for me but he doesnt want a long term relationship with me what do i do about this, do i move on as we have now brok...

Is he just making fun of me or is he being flirty with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - ok this is my problem. i think i'm in-love with the wrong guy.he has a girlfriend that is far away -like long distance relationship- and the girl really loves him and he loves her (i think). And the worst, he's older than me about 10 years... ...

I really like this guy. Only he's 20 and I'm 25!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5602 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - I really like this guy. The thing is, i am 25 and he is 20. I'm not sure whether he fancies me or only likes me as a friend. he does ask me to meet up with him alot though,and once he put " you'll have to meet me soon coz i want to see you again ", ...

I know this is a relationship cul-de-sac, but it's so exciting. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - I am currently in a realationship with my boyfriend of three months,although this seems like a short period of time to be serious,he has introduced me to all his family and friends and there is a very strong bond there.However,he is leaving in two ...

I want to live as a happy family but I'm finding it very hard to keep pretending.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5000 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - I'm a 35y man living with my younger partner and over the last year or so I've realised that I'm not in love with her anymore although I know she thinks the world of me. We were only together a couple of weeks when she fell pregnant and we now have ...

Help! I'm in love with a guy 7 years older than me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5602 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - it all started when he became a youth leader for my youth club we chatted and stuff and it was fun. then i started going to the church their with my friend who also feels she is in love with him. he helped me convert my life to become a christian ...

I am 14 and attracted to my friend's 58 year old aunt, how do I let her know of y sexual feelings?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5603 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - hi I'm a 14 year old virgin male. I have feelings for my friend's aunt(they live with their aunt). I go across the street to their house and play with them often. their aunt is 58 and has a nice body. I asked my friends if they cared if I had sex ...

Dad won't approve of boyfriend because of his age I know I should end things but I can't imagine life without him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5581 days ago

18 July 2009 (F) - Please help. For the last 4 years i have been going out with the love of my life - without my parents knowing. My dad is quite controlling about my boyfriends and career, this has resulted in my being too afraid and embarrased to take any boy home. ...

Do women look at teenage boys as eye-candy?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

18 July 2009 (M) - Do women look at teenage boys as eye candy?...

How can I get my BF to stop making mountains of molehills?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5605 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been in a reationship for 6 years. He says he was more sure about marrage when we first got together than he is now. Our relationship has had it's natural ups and downs but for the last year or so he makes mountains out of ...

What do I do about this crazy Myspace situation?

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17 July 2009 (F) - I am 33, married with one child but I look really young for my age. Most people thought I am a college student. I met this guy at work who is 22 and has a maybe 3-4 year relationship girlfriend. He and I look about the same age. He is cute and looks ...

Bus girl blues update!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5578 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - Continuing the Harry Potter update thought I'd let you know I had a first date tonight with my bus girl. It went really well and she sent me a text saying as much too. Catch is, I look so much younger than I actually am she was pretty shocked w...

How do I know if my boyfriend will want to settle down? We have a son...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

16 July 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for 5 years who is samoan I have put up with alot and actully thought he would want to get married. We hyave a one year old son who we both love to bits that he never wants me to leave if i feel things arent working. But ...

Help! I'm falling for Older People!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5606 days ago

16 July 2009 (F) - i was wondering if anybody could help me? i seem to fall for people alot older than me, no im not talking 3 years or 5, im saying 10,15,20. im 17 myself and i consider myself to be mature for my age, i like adult conversation over my peers i have ...

My parents dislike my partner due to his age

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5606 days ago

16 July 2009 (M) - I'm 24, and gay, and my family don't have a problem with it. However, they do have a problem with my partner purely because he's 13 years older than me. He hasn't done anything questionable and doesn't live an odd lifestyle nor do drugs/crime...

Could my personality be a barrier in the relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - I'm 25 years old and still trying to grow-up as far as financial and emotional independence goes. Recently, I met a man who is 19 years older than me, never been married, but had several serious relationships in the past. He showed special ...

Guy is 27 and she is 15, is this really going to work?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

14 July 2009 (F) - one of my best friends is 15 and a guy that's 27 likes her, do you think she should go out with him ? yes or no and why ? help me by the way he has two kids. ...

My dream of being a model is shattered and I'm depressed!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

14 July 2009 (F) - ive just turned 26 and feel like im in a rut. I work at a hospital in administration and the job is well paid but very mundane although it has a lot of reponsibilities and is quite a respectful job. My dream though is to be a model. I have tried to ...

He won't go near me now - what can I do about it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

14 July 2009 (F) - hey i work with this guy he is younger than me the moment i seen him i fell in love we got to be great friends told each other everything he was with sum1 and so was i but we didnt care and took our friendship to the next level, we were with each ...

I'm 17, she's 14, and I think her mum has the wrong idea about my motives for being with her!

This question has 31 answers - newest was posted 5527 days ago

14 July 2009 (M) - hey i just turned 17 and im going out with a 14 year old girl, have been for about a week, is that weird? 2 years 8 months difference. i really like her though, but shes grounded for a month and i cant have any contact with her even txting. ...

Are relationships with younger guys doomed from the start?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

14 July 2009 (F) - hey im 28 and i always seem to attract younger guys. i am young looking myself but is it going to work ou with guys that ar 23 cause so far it hasnt. or is it the fact im in love with sumone already that is spoken for but yet i can see it in his ...

Would it make things more complicated if we have sex? Surely there's no harm, right?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

14 July 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, an ex-girlfriend's mother is currently staying with me. I split up with her daughter years ago and she has since moved to Australia. It wasn't a bad split or anything, we were just young. Her mother and I kept running in to each other ...

Married an older guy, but after 3 years I now regret it.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

13 July 2009 (F) - im married to my hubby for now 3 years.i was 20 when i married him, arranged marriage but with my consent.he is 15 years older than me and actualy looks that old too, at times people avtually thought he was my father.at that time i was so stupid to ...

I think I am in love, am I, and can I make this work despite of the age gap?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

13 July 2009 (F) - hey i need help asap i met this guy and he is perfect i work in theater so i hav alot of gay friends (im bi so is this guy) but all of them think we r perfect and i totally agree i hav had many crushes and not to many boyfriends but not once hav i ...