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writes:hey im 28 and i always seem to attract younger guys. i am young looking myself but is it going to work ou with guys that ar 23 cause so far it hasnt. or is it the fact im in love with sumone already that is spoken for but yet i can see it in his eyes he want me and he is 23 or is it all in my head? the point of this burning question is can i have a relationship with younger guys or is it doomed from the start? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): Go for it. Most all the men I've ever dated have been younger than me...one was 16 years younger. I've never had a problem with it and the men I was with always told me that they loved me.
In particular, when a woman gets in her late 30's and early 40's, this type situation seems to work particularly well. It seems when men get into their 40's, their sex drive plummets (not all men, but a substantial amount of them) and women peak in their sexuality...not a good fit. What's a girl supposed to do? Get a younger man :) It's all good.
Now go get him.
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reader, Mat_auw  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Dear Anonymous,
Glad to read your query! I think I might be a suitable person to answer you. I'm about 1 year younger than my girlfriend and we've been going steady for 5 good years and counting.
So no, relationships with younger guys are certainly not doomed from the start. In most cases the emotional maturity of the guy and his ability to take responsibility for his words and actions matter much more than how young he is compared to you.
It also depends on the age of the couple. For example, while a relationship between a 16 yr old guy and a 26 yr old girl is unlikely to be stable because the guy is still a teen discovering himself and what he wants out of life while the girl is already in young adulthood, on the other extreme, a relationship between a 60 yr old man and an 80 yr old woman is hardly ever questioned (partly coz the media aren't interested in elderly folk) since it should be safe to assume that, by their ages, both of them should be mature enough to enter into and sustain a relationship :p .
In my opinion a 5 yr difference in age in your case is not a case for concern. There should be 23 yr old guys who are mature enough to relate to you as a partner and an equal.
And to be honest, what I'm more concerned about is your strong interest in the particular 23 yr old guy you mentioned. How well do you really know him? Is it love or just a passing infatuation that you are experiencing? If you really do feel that there is a strong chance that a fulfilling relationship would work out between you two, then perhaps it is time to drop him a hint or two and see if he responds in kind. If he doesn't, then perhaps the wiser action would be to move on and meet other guys instead.
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (14 July 2009):
Yeah, i think alot of it depends on the maturity level of the guy... I've seen it go both ways.. Some younger guys with older women work out REALLY well, and other younger guys use older women until they reach point where they figured out what they wanted, and then move on.Good luck!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 no i reckon you can have a relationship with a younger guy but you do need to be careful because a younger guy can problably mean he's not yet mature enough for you.
i'm not digging at guys just when guys end relationships they get really immature and petty and act really childish it's the worst break up you can go through.
i mean if you like a younger guy and he likes you i don't see why it can't work. so what he's 23? i say go for it while you can you could end up being the perfect couple!
Hope this helps :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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