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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, an ex-girlfriend's mother is currently staying with me. I split up with her daughter years ago and she has since moved to Australia. It wasn't a bad split or anything, we were just young. Her mother and I kept running in to each other because she is a frequent customer of the garden centre where I am the manager. We became good friends and I helped her design her garden.About two months ago, she called me and she was crying. She said that she is leaving her husband and can she stay with me for a while. I said yes. I told her that she could stay with me as long as she wants and I've even given her a job at the garden centre so she's not stuck in my house on her own all day. Thing have heated up recently. One thing has led to another and we've ended up passionatley kissing and touching each other, we haven't had full penetrative sex yet but we both want to. I've passed her husband in the street and spoken to him about his wife. He said that he's not interested and it's over so I don't feel like I would be stepping on his toes. I received a text from her this morning saying that she is ready and we'll go to the bedroom when she gets home. She's 46, I'm 27. She's amazingly sexy so it wouldn't do any harm have sex with her would it? Or would I just be making things more complicated for her and me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): It is ok. Do it and keep quite about it. What the daughter doesn't know doesn't hurt and she is far away and finished with you anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): If it was ok and not a problem you would not have questioned your potential actions through this website. Your gut instinct knows it doesn't sit well but your hormones are ruling. Its up to you. Be prepared to live with the consequences or spoiling a relationship between mother and daughter. How would I feel if my mother slept with my ex boyfriend? yuk. That makes me feel violated, degraded and betrayed by both parties. Not an image I would want in my head. Think about it. Would you want your Dad to sleep with your ex girlfriend??????
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reader, mytwocents  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 I say go for it full-speed-ahead. You’ve gotten the go-ahead on all fronts, and you’ve obviously thought this out (in other words, it’s not an impulsive thing).
I can tell you from experience that an attractive, recent divorcee is one of the hottest, most eager partners you’ll ever have. The sexual energy is absolutely mind-blowing. So you both win. Because I’m sure she’s looking forward to having her way with an attractive young guy she admires after being with her husband for so long.
As for your ex, forget it. She’s just that--your ex. Her mother is a responsible adult with whom you had a genuine, SEPARATE friendship long after you were done with the daughter. That your friendship has mutated into something else is perfectly okay. Life is weird like that sometimes.
And, who knows, maybe deep-down inside, the fact that she's sleeping with her daughter's ex is a kinky fantasy for her. Why deprive her of that?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (14 July 2009):
 you really need to think carefully about this!
i mean this is your ex's mother!?
your ex may not be with you but i am sure she will be pretty crushed you've gone after her mother!
and fair enough the husband says the marriage is over but still think of people you'll be upsetting in some ways?
i mean he says it's over doesn't mean he doesn't care right?
i mean your ex will not appreciate this given she's not there but still it's her mother?
how would you feel if you're ex girlfriend with your family member or even a friend of yours went with your mother?
you'd be pretty miffed i'd imagine!
you really need to think carefully about this before it all comes crashing down.
Hope this helps not intended to be rude sorry should it come across that way.
x ilovebowsandcherries x :)
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