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writes:one of my best friends is 15 and a guy that's 27 likes her, do you think she should go out with him ?yes or no and why ? help me by the way he has two kids.
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reader, SugaaBabe  +, writes (22 July 2009):
ARE YOU KIDDING!!?? that is a disaster waiting to happen. how would her parent feel about it ? if they found out, for one this girl would be grounded for like ever, and this MAN would proberbly get the shit kicked out of him by her dad, no to mention her school mates being very abusive to this man, im fifteen and my boyfriend is 18, and he gets alot of abuse being called a peado and stuff think how 27 and 15 sounds. its a disaster dont waste your time babe, it will only end badly. hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): age is only a number.and ignore all rude comments aimed at you or your desire etc.
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Its the same age difference as me and my gf. Big difference though is she`s 20. Not to sound hypocritical but no I don`t think it`s a good idea.Your friend hasn`t even begun to experience relationships yet and really shouldn`t be getting serious with anyone at only 15. Plus I don`t know what country your in but check out your local laws to see if it`s even allowed. If not then defiantly NO. The risks then far out weigh any potential reward. And considering he has 2 kids while single may suggest way more problems in his past relationships. Plus if he has custody of his kids it would be way to much to ask a 15 year old to take on. Teen years are to enjoy life while you have your youth.Not play nurse maid to someone elses kids.I can not say it wont work. But I am 100% certain she can find happiness somewhere else and be better off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): Sure it's going to work, if by work you mean will he have sex with her and after a few weeks (if she's lucky) dump her. Look, imagine the conversations that a 27 year old is going to have with a 15 year old... they have ZERO common ground. They can't go out to a club together, can't travel out of the country. He's not going to be able to take her out to meet his freinds or his family... not happening...
This has RED FLAGS all over it. She needs to wake up and see that it's not that she's "miss wonderful", she's not "mature beyond her years", its that she has a vigina, and he senses a likely score and he's got some odd thing for children.
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reader, betty_black +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Well until she's 16 she can't legally do anything sexual with him. I don't know the guy and i'm not about to judge, all my boyfriends have been older than myself, my boyfriend that i live with and am expecting a baby with is twelve years older than me, so im a fine one to judge anyone with an age difference. If you've met him and you feel as though he's one of the types thats going to use her, advice her kindly that you feel she's not in a good situation with him and she should maybe consider seeing people around her own age. But if the guys perfectly alright then i see absolutely no harm done. Just make sure she doesnt get rapped up in his world of kids, nappies, screaming and bills before she's ready! I wish them all the best, im not here to judge.
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reader, quarky +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Not only the MAJOR legal aspect but there really is little hope of any sort of relationship developing out of this. Your friend should enjoy her youth while she can-hang out with friends, snog boys her own age and not even consider getting involved with this guy. As far as he's concerned, it should be a 'whatever loser'.
It's also likely he wants her for one thing only-I won't spell it out-and She'll end up used and probably feel bad-he won't...
It's common to have a crush on someone older but that's all it should ever be-and in this case it's all it can be I think.
If the feeling is so strong then both should wait until she's at least of legal age but even then, it's highly unlikely it will work.
Hope you can help your friend through this.
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom +, writes (14 July 2009):
Oh no honey she needs to leave that mess alone. She is only 15 what if she wound up taking care of his kids then she couldn't even live her teen years freely. And plus thats baby moma all around and they could be like bay bays kids. This ya girl, peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): Thanks!!!!!!!!!!:):)
Anymore advices????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): No, legal age of consent is 16 in Gibraltar. The legal age of consent pertains to all forms of sexual contact and the penalties for it are severe.
Age difference is also a big factor in this and it matters more than most because no matter what your friend thinks she's most likely not ready to maintain a healthy relationship with an adult, she is still a teenager and only beginning to mature and learn who she really is and the woman she will become.
His age gives him a huge advantage over her too and he will have a instinctual father-like dominance over her, this happens even in successful young teen/adult relationships. All of these reasons and many more are why we have consent laws.
One thing to remember, it will not be possible for her to have a normal relationship with him, ephebophiles (attracted to young teens) are often treated with the same disdain as pedophiles and it would be very uncomfortable even dangerous for him to have a relationship with her.
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