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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I think my boyfriend might be married. What should I do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1925 days ago

31 August 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I think my new boyfriend might be married and I have no idea how to bring up the subject. We've been together for almost three months and while things have been good, some of his behaviour has always been a bit off. Nothing I can put my finger on, he's just shifty like he ... (281 words)

Never thought there's something I wouldn't want us to talk about but his talk of a dramatic event unsettled me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1937 days ago

29 August 2019 (F) age 41-50 - My husband and I have been together for almost 20 years and we love spending time together and talking about all kinds of stuff, there are no taboos. I have noticed that some friends of mine are so terrified by issues related to global warming. They prefer to pretend that ... (369 words)

Should I take it further with this friend and how should I do so?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1937 days ago

29 August 2019 (M)

age 22-25 - I'm 19 years old and one of my friends is absolutely crazy about me. She's older than me, she 35, but she is hot. Every time she sees me she hugs me about a thousand times and smother me with kisses. Everywhere we go she insists in holding my hand and loves to take pictures ... (79 words)

Wife lied, she wasn't a virgin. What do you think? What should I do?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1924 days ago

28 August 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - Ever since my wife and i met she has always been a very conservative virgin girl, her choice and she was very string that it was important to her. I knew she had a BF before me but she insisted she was a virgin and it was very important to her. This has throughout our ... (494 words)

How to deal with heartbreak and the knock to my self esteem

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1937 days ago

28 August 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I got dumped by a guy I was seeing for three months a few days ago, and I’m struggling to cope with the heartbreak. This is as much a rant as a plea for advice. I know three months isn’t that long, but it was intense relationship and we had a great time and connection toget... (1585 words)

Do I gain weight to please him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1896 days ago

28 August 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We have a child together. When I was pregnant he told me that I better get the weight off after delivery. He said “fat girls don’t get love”. So I did it. I lost all the baby weight within 11 months after delivery. I work ... (190 words)

She was texting and working during our date and seems to be ghosting me! Do I go on our next date?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1937 days ago

28 August 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - About a week ago I went out with a girl that I dated and was intimate with for 5 months a year ago. We drifted apart as she moved to another state but remained in contact during that year apart, texting and calling on and off. She's now moved back. During this date last w... (454 words)

I need to end my marriage but I don't know if I have the strength to move on

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1941 days ago

28 August 2019 (F) age 36-40 - I need to end my marriage. But I do not know if I have the strength to move on. My husband has cheated on me 3 years before we got married. We were technically on a break but still had sex so I forgave him. He is the only man I have ever been with and given him over 11 years of ... (226 words)

I feel so overwhelmed but I don't want to run away

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1938 days ago

27 August 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel overwhelmed and I don't know how to juggle everything and give it my best shot. Basically, in just under 2 weeks, I'm having my first driving test. I passed my theory on the third try. If I don't pass this practical test, I have to renew my provisional license which ru... (161 words)

Should I talk to my friend about her childish behaviour?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1940 days ago

27 August 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - one of my friends can be really child like at times , acts silly , quite embarrassing and doesn't seem to think that her behaviour is child like . part of me thinks I should talk to her about this , but I feel she may not respond in the way I would like and if I do tell her... (316 words)

How can I be organised but not frustrated?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1940 days ago

27 August 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - i am a very organised person and sometimes I am too organised to the point I get a bit annoyed at myself if I don't do some of things I planned on doing. Ive recently finished university , dont always have a lot of things to do, so as a result of this I plan out days and create ... (236 words)

Why doesn't anyone care?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1941 days ago

27 August 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - Is it me or everyone else? I can’t take it anymore, nobody cares at all. I feel let down by my friends. I am 100% sure nobody cares. I am not being negative, I am not in some bad time in life. But every event that happens it causes me stress when I realise I’m alone. If I died ... (243 words)

Is feeling desired by your partner a valid need?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1937 days ago

26 August 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - Is feeling desired by ones partner not a valid needs . I posted a question here about whether it was reasonable to expect to feel desired by my partner . I mentioned my age ( 50) and that he seemed to have an interest In porn with much younger women . Although many of the aunt ... (238 words)

I was in an accident and my friends were not there for me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1941 days ago

26 August 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - A few weeks ago I was involved in an accident. At the time I wasn’t well, and my mind was not with it. My family cried over me which I found odd, and my partner. Could it be that I have been so desensitised that I could not understand? I had to lie to them to keep them relaxed, ... (281 words)

Should I pursue a formal, legal route over what happened to me when I was younger?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 1934 days ago

26 August 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - I need help please, about something that has confused me for 36 years and which I am only now able to speak about. When I was 15 I agreed to have sex with an 18 year old male. This has, one way or another, plagued me all my life. I am now at a stage where I am unsure as ... (1524 words)

I get the attention but come off as disinterested

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1940 days ago

25 August 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I have problems finding a girlfriend. I know what the cause is, I just don't know how to fix it. I have a hard time communicating with others. I find it difficult to pick up social cues. It's not that I'm shy, I just don't have the patience to be nice. It really ... (160 words)

I feel insecure about the wait in our long distance relationship

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1938 days ago

25 August 2019 (M)

age 22-25 - hello, me and my girlfriend are in an Long distance relationship and talk online. her parents make her study and have taken all form of communication to me away from her and she can barley say 1 word to me per day. she said itd be over in around 10 months but she said it could ... (244 words)

Can a relationship develop with a girl from a different country I’ve only met once?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

25 August 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi all. I was at my friend’s wedding last weekend here in the Uk and I met one of his friend’s at a house party after. She was from the States and we must have spent about 4 hours talking. In my mind we got on really well and she has been on my mind since. I asked for her ... (369 words)

I don't understand why my ex does the things that she does

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1942 days ago

25 August 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend broke up with me back in January. We have seen one another on and off all on her terms when she wants to meet up, when she wants to speak etc. We went away for a weekend together and ended up having sex. We then went away on holiday together and it was like ... (268 words)

I blocked him. Did I make a rash decision?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1941 days ago

24 August 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - So my ex and I broke up about a year and a half ago now, due to him having to move away for a job and me not being able to go at the time cause I hadn’t graduated college yet. It was tough for both of us but I basically cut him out cold turkey, up until September of last year. ... (427 words)

My partner has quit spending time with our babies to meet his ex behind my back and has photos of her in his phone

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

24 August 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I am currently off from work and school so I have been dedicating myself to housework and the kids so I have been more aware of things. Lately my partner has been coming home really late which he randomly starts doing but it imeadiatly sets off the alarms in my head, because I ... (777 words)

My husband says my parents control me because I let them. They say I dishonor them

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1944 days ago

24 August 2019 (F) age 36-40 - I love my parents and I know that my parents want the best for me but they are so controlling and it is annoying. I posted a couple days ago about being 30 years old without a career. I was not doing well in my previous job in insurance sales so I decided to apply for a job ... (582 words)

When a woman gets older does she just need to accept that her partner doesn't find her hot?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1883 days ago

24 August 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - I’m around 50 and try to take good care of my appearance . My partner seems pretty disinterested in me yet is very interested and turned on by women in porn in their 20s. I understand that self esteem in an internal thing and that’s not really what I’m referring to here but I’m ... (186 words)

Want to make sure this guy is on the same page as me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1945 days ago

23 August 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I’ve been seeing a lovely man for nearly 4 months now. We met online and arranged a date a few days later and it’s been amazing ever since. He has his own home and 3 children (2 boys 11yr and 13yrs and a 5yr old girl) from a previous relationship who he sees some week nights ... (673 words)

I'm tired of catty woman drama at work

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1945 days ago

23 August 2019 (F) - I have a coworker (coworker 1)on my team that always seems to get very close with one other person and then becomes exclusive with others. I used to work with her years ago but on separate teams and saw similar behavior. I am trying to avoid that happening with coworker 2 ... (374 words)

My boyfriend doesn't seem to understand that I want more from the LDR

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

23 August 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend since two years. It is mostly a long distance thing. Previously, like every relationship it used to be very romantic, but now it seems the spark is gone. He is no longer romantic, he no longer sings to me like he used to ... (438 words)

Am I being an overprotective cat mom or is it cruel to leave my little kitten at home alone when I go to work?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

22 August 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey i just bought the most divine cutest himalayan kitten, he is 2 months old and has been taken away from his mummy and daddy, and his other 2 brothers in the litter my friend and her husband took the 2 brothers! I absolutely ADORE him he is the most loveable sweetest thing ... (271 words)

I'm unhappy in my marriage and want out. Should I go for my friend that loves me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

21 August 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I want to leave my husband of 2 years. We arent compatible at all. We almost doesnt have any similarity and fight a lot. We have a year old son together. Aunties and uncles here adviced me many times not to marry him and leave him but i dont have the courage and too naive keep ... (862 words)

He's ready to settle, but I love having my own life. What can I do?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

21 August 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together almost 4 years. We met at uni. When I met him, I had just come home from New Zealand. It was the 3rd country I’d worked in in three years, and I was ready to settle in one place for a while and study. We were FWBs at first because I wasn’t ... (629 words)

I want to volunteer but worry abut my dad's opinion and don't know how to research

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1946 days ago

21 August 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - i want to do some volunteering overseas next year and i know i definitely want to do this but some obstacles that i feel will get in the way is my dads opinions and thoughts on where i should go , how long for and doing what , he doesn't mean to dictate but i feel he can ... (207 words)

Ways to deal with hunger when trying to lose weight

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

21 August 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - ive recently decided to stop going to weight watchers as I no longer enjoy it so I think its pointless me paying money for it but I do find myself feeling very hungry throughout the day and sometimes comfort eating, im aiming to go exercise more but im wondering if any... (168 words)

How to deal with my feelings when I see the friend I lost

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1945 days ago

20 August 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - I still miss someone who I used to be friends with and it has been two years , I just want advice on how to deal with my sadness when I see her . she never told she didn't want to be my friend any longer but it was our mutual friend who told me and explained some of the reas... (331 words)

What are the best ways to approach and meet new people?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1949 days ago

20 August 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - I have never had a boyfriend and sometimes I will admit it can upset me and sometimes im not too bothered about it . I had had guys show an interest in me in the past but most of the time id mess it up and was scared of getting to close so it didn't work out . in the past fe... (170 words)

I'm upset that he stopped during sex and blamed my noise. Am I overreacting?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1946 days ago

20 August 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I haven't had sex for a couple of months so yesterday I tried to get things started. While we were in the middle of doing it he kept putting his hand over my mouth, I thought it was like some sort of dominance thing because he was fish hooking my mouth... (178 words)

Brother's friend might have a crush on me. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1949 days ago

20 August 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - So basically I think my brother's friend has a crush on me he's two years older than me every time he comes over he starts acting weird around me for instance he avoids eye contact with me and then whenever he gets near me or around me he gets nervous I've seen him stare at me ... (99 words)

Are these signs that he wants to talk?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1947 days ago

20 August 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - We both work together in different departments and when I do go to his department he does say hi and ask how I am, he has once or twice greeted me as "hey friend", also has high-fived me on doing a good job with a client. I dont notice him looking in my direction or anything. ... (122 words)

Nervous about returning to abusive husband

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 1947 days ago

20 August 2019 (F) age 51-59 - When my husband gets jealous he sometimes assaults me and becomes very intimidating and threatening to me and I get very scared. It’s even worse when he’s been drinking alcohol. I have been with him for nearly 8 years and he had jealous rages within the first few weeks of me ... (73 words)

30 years old without a degree and a career. I feel like such a failure

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1946 days ago

20 August 2019 (F) age 30-35 - I am feeling so depressed. As a child growing up, I always wanted to be a doctor. When selecting my courses my parents told me I should do business management instead. I started pursing business management but had no passion for it. I was accepted into college to purse a ... (222 words)

Would a man be put off by a woman in her 30s if she isn't that worldly?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1949 days ago

19 August 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I had a general question about men and their opinion on women they date and the amount of life Experience they have or expect them to have ? I am in my 30’s have been abroad a couple of times but by no means much, I have had a small handful of relationships. I am socially sh... (182 words)

Is mutual masturbation with random online women cheating on my wife of 10 years?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 1638 days ago

19 August 2019 (M) age - I've been married for 10 years. I love my wife dearly and our sex life is still very much alive and well. The problem is I used to go into chat rooms before I met her. It involved video exchanges with random women. I used to pay for it but once that got too expensive, I opted ... (228 words)

There's less passion with this relationship and I am wondering what that means

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1705 days ago

19 August 2019 (M) age 30-35 - I'm seeing a girl now for the last few months on/off. We met on a dating app and went out a handful of times before I got injured and wasn't able to drive for about 2-3 months. We kept in contact and now things are getting more serious now that I can again. The problem is... (279 words)

Should I confront him or break it off?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1917 days ago

19 August 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been seeing him for just over two months. We have a great connection, the sex is amazing and we can talk for hours. We are comfortable around each other. It’s really great most of the time. I noticed when I started seeing him that he had posted a Facebook memory ... (1519 words)

How would you handle losing friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1949 days ago

19 August 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - When you lose friends or realise life long friends are stepping away. What would you do? When people suggest to work on myself, I find it depressing because I always look after myself and have gotten what I want so when I lose friends the suggestion is to keep myself occupied. ... (140 words)

How to make an approach to the guy I can't stop thinking about

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1948 days ago

19 August 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - I met someone about 5 months ago and I haven't stopped thinking about him since , does this mean I have a crush on him or im obsessed with him ? I know a lot of the time I think about people especially people who have meant a lot to me , who im fond of and who I don't see ... (246 words)

There's an age difference between us but I would like to get to know this person better. Should I try?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1949 days ago

19 August 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - There is someone who I would like to spend time with and ask if they would be up for meeting me to get to know me .this may seem really easy for some people but for me it isn't . up to now its the first time ive really ever wanted to see if I could have the same interests as ... (357 words)

He made out that I was punishing him when I asked him to sleep on the sofa

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1935 days ago

19 August 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - hi I have a quick question if anyone has any helpful opinions it would be much appreciated. myself and my boyfriend recently relocated countries for work. my boyfriend originally came out 3 months ahead of me and had already a small support system in terms of friends from ... (460 words)

Do I leave a 10 year relationship? Or settle for her?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1386 days ago

18 August 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello all. This post is as much venting as asking for others input. The sad truth is that I have nobody to talk to. So sorry if it is long. The big life question I have is: break up with my girlfriend, or settle for her. It is more than just a matter of break-up. I n... (1425 words)

I feel like my boyfriend is forcing me into going on a trip with his friends. We were supposed to go alone. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1947 days ago

18 August 2019 (F) age 41-50 - I have a hard dilemma! My boyfriend and I were supposed to be taking a week vacation together, just him and I. But he just went ahead and changed those plans on me. Apparently his friends are going to be at this resort where we were planning to go. They are a couple who used to ... (234 words)

Does my partner have the right to know about the details of my therapy sessions?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1948 days ago

18 August 2019 (F) age 51-59 - Hi. I won't bore you with too many details. Just want to know if you think it is appropriate for your spouse/partner to ask you about the details of your therapy sessions? I was diagnosed with anxiety and PTSD. I have begun counselling recently because my issues are affec... (134 words)

Wife is angry that I hugged a co-worker

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1950 days ago

18 August 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - My wife is angry I hugged a female former co-worker/friend that I have known for 10 years. When we seen this old co worker I have not seen her in 2 years and she is over 20 years older than me. She has met my kids. When my mother passed she sent flowers and a card to the ... (425 words)