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writes:I met someone about 5 months ago and I haven't stopped thinking about him since , does this mean I have a crush on him or im obsessed with him ? I know a lot of the time I think about people especially people who have meant a lot to me , who im fond of and who I don't see anymore, and I think its normal to think about people as we have to think about something and sometimes people can be so interesting to the point were our mind can be occupied with them .in the months ive been thinking of him , I know ive been wanting to talk to him , but then I think to myself is this because I fancy him or is it something else ? I think it is mainly because I want to find a way to approach him about being friends him . how can I find a way to talk to him and it be honest ? I don't want a relationship with him or anything like to its just id like to find someone new to talk to. I also recognise that if you say you having been thinking of someone it can come across as though you may be romantically interested In them which im not so I am just wondering what I could do ?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 August 2019):
 Not to dismiss BrownWolf's excellent advice, but it's excellent for other posters, not for you, OP. It sounds like you are really getting obsessed with this older guy you posted about several times ( and who already showed his disinclination to have anything to do with you ).Having a little crush is fine, nurturing an obsession is not fine. Then, why do you say that you want to talk to him, when you don't even have a vague clue of what you want to tell him ?
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (21 August 2019):
 Hi Op,
Look up and watch the movie..."Memoirs of a Geisha". In the early parts of the movie, a young woman is taught how to use her womanly skills to attract any man.
I am not saying you have to use all those skills, but it will give you an idea of the power women have over men.
The point is...do nothing...get thing. You can stare at him all you want. But unless you make a move, someone else will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2019): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do often make a situation more complicated , I think Im finding it difficult as I feel I need to justify why I want to talk to him and because I am younger and I just am unsure of what to say
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2019): Gosh it's you AGAIN isn't it?
Getting a little bit worried about you now as you are constantly posting the same question over and over. I don't think there's anything that anyone can say to you that hasn't already been said.
I won't be replying to your posts anymore and I hope this is all just because you're a bit bored and enjoy trolling. Otherwise I think that some sort of therapy would be a good idea for you. I hope you get it.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (20 August 2019):
You are making the situation more complicated than it should be. Men are not scary monsters that you have to figure out some special way to approach them.
Just walk up and say "Hi...My name is..." Then see where it goes from there.
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